Mommy has Pneumonia
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
Philippines
February 2, 2011 8:40am CST
But I couldn't...cry for some reason...most specially every-night i hear her coughing...
I guess i should released it here since it's been the place for showing my sadness part.
We've always known how hard her Asthma was, her years of using the Nebulizer has caused some significant side effects on her sickness. but I wonder why she kept on going out while I always stay home which i used to hate so much. now, am used to it I didn't realize really why. after that controversial check up that made the entire family worried because the text info came from a relative instead of her, we thought it was just a regular one.
Tonight She got home with the Xray results that i realized that she got this sickness, probably due to her constant coughing
. well, were going to renovate the place to have a commercial area and handling the rent would be my priority once the construction has started and done. I just i can't afford to be independent...but now i realized I may never have the chance to spend more time with her if i start wasting my time thinking about moving out, getting a job or being independent..I know my TIME will come i got good reason i guess i ended up in this life, and that is to take care of her...
..she also asked to segregate her utensils and sanitaries just in case... but already sick, from within i think..
She may be sick but she's always positive,charismatic and helpful but only I can see her pain most of the time even though most of the time she doesn't show it to me...
. well, were going to renovate the place to have a commercial area and handling the rent would be my priority once the construction has started and done. I just i can't afford to be independent...but now i realized I may never have the chance to spend more time with her if i start wasting my time thinking about moving out, getting a job or being independent..I know my TIME will come i got good reason i guess i ended up in this life, and that is to take care of her.....she also asked to segregate her utensils and sanitaries just in case... but already sick, from within i think..
She may be sick but she's always positive,charismatic and helpful but only I can see her pain most of the time even though most of the time she doesn't show it to me...5 people like this
14 responses
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hello Mimiang, It's actually a SHE and it's my mom and not my dad. For now, she is alright and taking her medications. 
and it's my mom and not my dad. For now, she is alright and taking her medications. 1 person likes this
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hello Syoti,
Well, I am doing my best to help her out and serve her. When ever she needs to pay something I do pay for it just like this afternoon when she's supposed to go to pay It but I volunteered even though I wasn't a bit in good condition. But I watch her and the only thing I noticed is caughing.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
2 Feb 11
Oh no Letran, I hope and pray this is a short and swift illness, that your mom is feeling better soon. I never had pneumonia, but from what I am told, it is pretty serious, especially for the elderly.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hello Carmel,
She's fine for now but the coughing is really what disturbs me and I didn't like it one bit. I only hope that she will have a full recovery someday. I think the doctor has given medication for her and hope to have it subsided someday since she doesn't want to be hospitalized.as for her, she's a strong woman who is a survivor because of her faith.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
3 Feb 11
I understand her not wanting to be hospitalized, I hate hospitals too. Maybe you can research for natural ways to relieve or lessen her cough...Here is one site I found, and if she likes grapes, that may help her..http://www.natural-homeremedies.com/homeremedies_cough.htm
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
3 Feb 11
Hello Letran,
Mothers are like that only; they will hide their sickness and gather the courage to do work at home. They give preference to their children and never want to hurt them.
Asthma and pneumonia are dangerous and you have to take special care of her. How she affected badly with the Nebulizer, may be because of the long term use. My three year old son is also using nebulizer but I am giving the same when he has serious problems. It is very difficult to manage the asthma in cold weather.
Prayers for your mother and I hope she will get well soon.
Asthma and pneumonia are dangerous and you have to take special care of her. How she affected badly with the Nebulizer, may be because of the long term use. My three year old son is also using nebulizer but I am giving the same when he has serious problems. It is very difficult to manage the asthma in cold weather.
Prayers for your mother and I hope she will get well soon.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hello Sreekala,
Yes, with the LONG term use, she didn't even bother checking herself with the doctor in the early past. And probably because of the cold weather recently, she's been having this sickness too. But I am glad that we are on a place where the disaster isn't that much that bad. Unfortunately, My two elder Nephew and had Niece has Asthma too and they also do the Nebulizer every now and then. Have a nice day.
Sreekala,
Yes, with the LONG term use, she didn't even bother checking herself with the doctor in the early past. And probably because of the cold weather recently, she's been having this sickness too. But I am glad that we are on a place where the disaster isn't that much that bad. Unfortunately, My two elder Nephew and had Niece has Asthma too and they also do the Nebulizer every now and then. Have a nice day.
@preppydezza (309)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
I think you should place your mom in a nice environment, less pollutants that would exacerbate her disease. And let her out from stress too. Your mom will always support you no matter what you want to do with your life. She will always be there to support you. You can be independent, have a job, move out. Just put some time to take care for her.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hello Preppydezza,
Our house is a nicest environment as it is since we live in a subdivision and her front and back yard are filled with PLANTS all over. But I guess the front will be replaced with commercial ZONES or something. You're right, I can just take more time to care for her and do what it is told, she's not that strict any more compare before. Come to think of it, I am a lucky son I believe. Have a nice day.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
hi Knight, sorry to hear about your Mom's condition, Well Pneumonia is not really a disease per se but a secondary condition when our body and resistance is weak as manifested in heart attack,cancer and in your Mom's case Asthma sufferers. Even normal flora or natural bacteria in our body can cause pneumonia when they become opportunistic such as in cases where patients have weak resistance. Antibiotics can well handle that but what is more important is to keep the body strong, coughing is not a negative sign but a positive one because it is a sign that the body is still strong to have a natural refles to expel foreign matter. Having her own utensils is not really necessary because it is not really that contagious( not unless you have infirmed or infants around)
What I do not understand is . is she living with you? Taking care of our parents brings so much blessings, more than we can fathom, take it from me, I'm taking care of my mom and I have been more than blessed
if she is living with you and you are building that commercial space, keep her away from that especially the cement mixing thing, it's gonna aggravate the situation. Wish you the best
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hello Louievill,
Only if she doesn't have asthma but she has it for a long which has caused this kind of sickness. She is living with me or should I say I am the only one among three of us who hasn't move out yet but am fine with it. Well, that's her prerogative and not mine, she suggested it really. I would probably bereally in charge of the monitoring of the construction of the things.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
oh your family is like mine, we are also 3 and I'm the one still with my mother because I cannot leave her (78 years old and 79 this February) , although I'm totally in command and in charge now, she still remains the symbolic head
. She gets along fine with my wife and children.
. She gets along fine with my wife and children.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
2 Feb 11
I sure hope she recovers and gets to feeling better soon. I know how it is to feel bad and continue to act like you are still okay. Things have got to be done daily and sometimes we push our bodies to do things even though we do feel bad. Hoping for a speedy recovery.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hello Steph,
I hope she does, since the doctor gave her some medications so that she will have a chance to help herself get better. For now, she's doing well but I guess all this sickness came in when the cold season came in the philippines. My mom does a lot but not that much though she's really a good person from the start. Well, she's not in the hospital but thanks I hope she does have a good recovery in this.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
18 Feb 11
It is wonderful that she has such a positive attitude. I've had pneumonia and it is no fun. It can be viral or bacterial and people do occasionally die from it, especially the elderly who are already ill. Hope she gets better soon.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
2 Feb 11
I am sad to hear the turn of event in your life Letran. My mother is also sickly with heart problem and anemia. She has appointment once a month with her doctor and there are times when she needs blood transfusion and have to be admitted to hospital. She goes in and out of hospital which has made the hospital more like her second home now. As children, we made sure she takes good food and less stress.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hello Zandi,
Well, I have always anticipated her sickness but you know it's really weird that despite of that she can still go out and rarely stay home and rest. After one week I think she will see the doctor.she didn't like being confined since the expenses are not answerable by her card, which is really appropriate.they can't fool her like that. She's eating good food of course.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
6 Feb 11
Sometimes it is meant to be that way and the best thing to do is accept our current situation and if we make the most of it and decide to be happy anyway things may change for us when the time is right. Clearly taking care of your mum is very important and rewarding for you to spend as much time as you can while you have her; you won’t regret your time with her because it sounds as though you are very close to her and she is very precious to you. I hope she gets better soon…Don’t worry about the future, enjoy quality time with your mother while keeping your own goals in mind and you never know what may happen...
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
hi letran
I'm sorry to hear about your mother.it's good that you've shared it
in this site.this a good place to share whenever we are depress.i know
that we get quality answers from other members.and it makes us more
comfortable reading responses from other members.
your mom has almost the same sickness to my grandmother.she has a sinus,just
like asthma,it is also hard to breath.when she was alive,i really pity
here every time i heard her with heavy coughing.she was the one who
raise me.that is why i owe her a lot.on her last minute on earth,i was with
her in the hospital.i was the one who is taking good care of her.on the
last minute of her life,i really don't know on how can i revive her.i love
her so much.i regret that i was not able to make an action on her last
minute.i just stare at her while the tears runs through my face.
it is very important that we value our love ones when they are still alive,
because you can no longer do it when they are already gone.that is why
i am doing all my very best to make my mom happy.i am providing all the things
that she needs and that's makes her happy.life is too short so we have to
enjoy it up the fullest.
i am looking forward for the immediate treatment of your mom.always pray
to god and your mom will be guided accrdingly.happy mylotting!!
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hello Rberon,
It's hard because not only she has asthma but this is really hard. I do value my mom and that's why I chose not to settle or have another relationship. There are reasons why these things happen and I have accepted my fate. Thank you for the comfort to me, I will do my best to pray to GOD in these things.sure, it would really give her a chance for god to heal her.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
hello LK,
Now you know the reason why you are there staying single,jobless with your mom.
Great,at least now you know how to weigh things and what's the reason behind each situation.
Take care of your mom,and i hope she will be fine soon.
Don't think worst,everything will be alright ...
that's the faith dear brother
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hello Sis Jaiho,
Yes, I do already know but only realize it lately. As of now, things are a bit okay with me knowing I still have things in life that the “wants” can wait. I guess time will really tell whether I could be doing stuff on my own again, except mylotting. I probably should start praying again and going to church masses. Probably thanking the LORD and asking him for my moms recovery.thanks.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
3 Feb 11
Awwh, I am so sorry to hear that your mommy is sick. I am very proud of you Letran as within the last 8 months you have shared with us a great many occurrences in your life that certainly tell us what a wonderful caring person you are, hmm I wonder where you get that. Oh mommy of course..
I will pray for your mommy as my wishes if of course she get better, but mostly stronger and be able to be as comfortable as possible. From what it sounds like Letran you will be taking care of it. As you know when push comes to shove you will do all and then some for you mommy.
However, please take care of yourself Letran, as I do sense you are depressed at times and who can blame you sweetie so much has transpired in your life, after you are human and cannot be expected to behave like a robot.
So do take of you also and please do not take offense to the "depression" as I am an expert in that area as I too have had a great deal wrong for many years, but it has gotten even worse this last year.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
3 Feb 11
Hello Hardworkinggurl,
It's not something I want to tell but in anycase, whom Am I gonna tell my problems with? Since we came from a very quiet and conservative family. I did because it was my choice, could have been selfish like every one else but of course, believed that am needed when ever am there. Well, I've always known it will pass, I mean if I get that new CPU and start playing games again, there's no doubt I can be in a new hype. I miss playing games even at my age.i think things are gonna well for you someday too. Have a nice day.
Hardworkinggurl,
It's not something I want to tell but in anycase, whom Am I gonna tell my problems with? Since we came from a very quiet and conservative family. I did because it was my choice, could have been selfish like every one else but of course, believed that am needed when ever am there. Well, I've always known it will pass, I mean if I get that new CPU and start playing games again, there's no doubt I can be in a new hype. I miss playing games even at my age.i think things are gonna well for you someday too. Have a nice day.
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
hi LK,
I know how upset you are when you found this well at least your mom is still a positive one and i know how hard to accept this things my mom also is sick but she tried not to show it to me because she knows i will do everything to drag her to her doctor but she is so hard headed when it comes to her health .
We will just pray that she will be ok and i will include her to my prayers .
I hope you can still keep ponchi and jolen despite of this situation.
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We will just pray that she will be ok and i will include her to my prayers .
I hope you can still keep ponchi and jolen despite of this situation.@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
2 Feb 11
Hello Catch,
I would probably and seriously start praying and attend mass in the future. i hope that her condition doesn't make me decide to let go of my pets, i have sacrifice a lot and those two are the only thing i have left as a stress reliever and my JOY everyday..thank you for including her to your prayers. she's been a great mom and i think there won't be any one like her with so much wisdom, humility and patience as well.