Do you hate it when people just turn up without saying they are popping round

@joystick (1680)
February 3, 2011 4:04pm CST
All that seems to be happening at the moment is people just popping round without ringing first.I hate it when people turn up and do not even warn you that they are going to turn up and then you feel like you have to entertain them.This has happened three times this week and i am now getting fed up with it, especially as they are bits of paper work, as well as phone calls that i have to make and would not feel happy making calls or leave paper work out near them.
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31 responses
• United States
5 Feb 11
I don't allow it! Seriously, anyone who does this to me only does it once. I make sure to tell them how I feel about it and make sure they know I mean it. It doesn't matter to me who they are or how much I care about them. My home is where I go to get away from the world and if I want visitors I'll say so. So a phone call first is mandatory in case I don't want visitors. Most everyone I know understands and respects my wishes, even those who don't like it much. And I would never dream of just dropping in on someone! In fact, rarely would I call and want to drop by "now". I call ahead a day or two to give someone time to settle in for a visit rather than feeling they must entertain me. To me, this is just a matter of common courtesy.
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• United States
6 Feb 11
I agree. I had people that I thought about charging rent to.
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• United States
9 Feb 11
Hahaha! I had a couple of people like that a few years back, so I did tell them the no squatters rules and told them rent would now be charged -- they disappeared and never returned!
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
3 Feb 11
This is the one and only benefit to living in a gated community, no one can come in without notifying me...:)
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
I hate that too, friend. Because it's a kind of unfriendly manner
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
6 Feb 11
It is a kind of disrespectful I think
@JayJay45 (157)
• United States
2 Mar 11
HI! Seems to me you have three solutions to your problem... 1. Don't answer the door. 2. Inform your friends and neighbors that you will only receive them at certain times of the day. 3. Let every one know that you will not invite them into your home unless they have called first. I know the above suggestions sound cold and you are afraid your friends won't stop by anymore, but if they are REALLY your friends, they will understand and honor your wishes. If they don't then do you really need them in your life?
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 11
I think I had time like this especially we I had a bad mood and need to be alone. There always someone who comes with their own problem and expect good ears to listen their rant. I don't really mind to hear it when I am OK but sometimes my friend seem think they were the only one who had a problem and need to be entertained. I think maybe I am a good listener because I usually meet stranger somewhere and when we chat, they usually share many personal think, which i find its odd.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
7 Feb 11
This is actually something that does drive me insane. With having the two kids in the house and also our four pets, there are times that the house is not nearly as clean as I would like for it to be. That is the main reason that I would like to know before a friend stops over. I want to make sure that the house is presentable before someone stops over. This does mean that the need to call me ahead before they stop into my house.
@tjburcham (690)
• United States
6 Feb 11
It happens to me all the time. Usually it's my kids. The ones that really bothered me was these neighbors I had. Not only did my husband and her husband work together, we could literally stand in my back yard and see their front yard, close enough to have a conversation. The men would go to work,(car pooled together) the wife at least twice a week would come over and stay and stay until just before the men would come home. Then withing fifteen minutes the neighbor (husband would call, then come over) and stay and stay, then the wife and kids would be here and stay and stay. I would have to tell them to stay away if I had my parents or out of town company, and sometimes that worked.For a short time their kids would come over without the parents, that would have been okay except they tore things up. I was so happy when they moved out of state. Now they call, at least once a week, and talk and talk. Now they talk about moving back. I really hope that doesn't happen.
@maezee (34480)
• United States
5 Feb 11
Oh gosh I hate this SO MUCH! I have a couple of friends who think this is OK - to be *spontaneous* and whatnot. I mean, it's cute when Romeo does it to Juliet..When your boyfriend throws rocks at your window, plays songs for you on his guitar randomly.. HA HA but in real life, FRIENDS doing this is a drag. I have a couple friends, like I said, who will stop by without any anouncement. I will just be getting out of the shower and they'll just be chilling in my room. OR I will be out and about with other friends when I get a call saying, "Hey, where are you?! I'm at your house!!" and then they get mad at me. Ugh! It's annoying and frustrating and the friends that do this KNOW THIS but yet continue to do it anyway. Grrr!!
@34momma (13895)
• United States
4 Feb 11
if you really want to drop the pounds you need to cut out all sugar and flour out of your diet. make sure you don't drink any soda. try and drink at least a half gallon of water each day. and make sure you take at least 10,000 steps each day. that will really do it. most important is portion control. eat half of what you use to eat and you will be just fine
@hofferp (4739)
• United States
4 Feb 11
I really don't mind when people show up unannounced, probably because it happens so infrequently. I live out of town and rarely does anyone just show up. In fact, I wish more people would stop by. Whatever I have to do can wait a few minutes/hours. And as for the house being clean...it usually is.
• United States
4 Feb 11
well there is time i have to put a do not disturb sign on my door because i work alot at home and when some one says something about the sign and me not opening the doors and just tell them that i have deadlines to meet and i have to make a living to take care of myself sorry if they don't understand.
@thatgirl13 (7306)
• South Korea
4 Feb 11
I totally know how you feel. This happens to me quite often. I hate it the most when I'm sleeping and there's no food in the house. Then I have to prepare something to eat while I'm half asleep..
@minnie15 (146)
• United States
4 Feb 11
Yes! My in-laws do that all the time. It drives me crazy. Let them know to let you know when they are coming because your life is crazy busy and you have to keep a schedule. Tell them that you enjoy their company but you really have some things that you need to get done. Maybe schedule something later on when you tell them this so they don't feel so bad and it shows that you want to spend time with themm...just not at this moment.
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
4 Feb 11
I always hate it if someone just drops in. I have a plan most days of what I want to do. Unexpected company ruins it. I don't work, so I have plenty of time, but it is the idea. The best thing to do is probably to say you were just on the way out, or you have some kind of plan and it isn't a good time. You could tell them, if they had called first you could have arranged a better time. My ex used to do that to people all the time! I would get so embarrased for him. I think it is very rude! I tried to tell him that, but he just ignored me.
@vandana7 (68972)
• India
4 Feb 11
I do. I hate it when people come unannounced. So I extend invitations to them, so that they know when they are to arrive. :)
• Turkey
4 Feb 11
I do so hate it when people do not have any consideration and just pop around when the mood hits them. I usually do not even answer my doorbell if i'm not in the mood for visitors, so most of my friends have learned to phone me first and see if i'm available or too busy.
@margeryann (1848)
• United States
4 Feb 11
I hate it when that happens too because I like to get ready for people to show up. When I really hate it is when people want to stick around for supper time and expect to eat supper and I didn't plan a meal out for more people then my house to eat.
@GeoBro (13)
4 Feb 11
So - ignore the doorbell! Simples!
• India
4 Feb 11
I really hate people when they do such things. People just vanish without even informing there whereabouts. Just hate such kind of people who are saying they are popping around. They are very irresponsible and careless.
• Philippines
4 Feb 11
When i have my hands full, i hate to be bothered and i easily get my ire. I dont entertain guests or friends who just pop up out of nowhere especially at workplace. If it's at my house, it's okay, i can always entertain them.