I said I wouldn't but I did....
@marapplestiffy (2182)
Philippines
February 4, 2011 7:19pm CST
So, even though I have negative feelings about my best friend I left a birthday greeting on her wall in Facebook, I couldn't bear to think that she might not even care...but since I think highly of birthdays, I couldn't just let this day pass without greeting her, but that's all I think...
It's sad, but I think that I have to admit, she doesn't want me so much in her life anymore, since I don't keep up with her shopping and I couldn't hang out with her like I used to, she doesn't understand that I'm busy working for a living, she wouldn't know anything about it since she has money since she's supported by her husband and does no work while I'm not being supported by my parents anymore or anyone for that matter(I hate taking money from my fiancée, it doesn't seem right to spend his money on my material desires and I need to start knowing how to budget for our future married state), and she couldn't understand why I can't just depend on my fiancée...sigh
I'm just sad that we would lose our once very close bond...she hasn't changed, while I have, I have understood that money is passing, my parents lost their savings even though they had much, I just hope that she wouldn't have to face a situation where she's in poverty, I don't think she could handle it...
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11 responses
@devinim (79)
• India
5 Feb 11
I too agree with bird.
u have done great. still loving ur friend. ur frndshp is true. but u know frnd everyones mind is not alike, u could undestand anyones feelings doesnt mean ur frnd could understand ur change. u should talk to ur frnd about ur circumstances. and let her know about ur busy life. i am sure she could understand well if u explains to her.
hope u understands..
with best wishes
nim
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
8 Feb 11
It is a shame but it does happen in life sometimes…Some people don’t move away from the world you shared together but one of you does and that almost always causes the relationship to drift apart. I had a friend I was growing apart from for a while until I cut off contact with her. I met up again with her years later and it seemed she was still in the same place she was when we hung out together and yet so much had happened to me and I was a different person. There is nothing wrong with that; it’s just that people move in different directions. You sound as though you are a good person who has matured more than she has, after all there is a lot more to life than shopping and spending money.
@GardenGerty (157665)
• United States
5 Feb 11
You need to be happy for the time that you had together as friends. You have contributed a lot to each other's lives. You have done the right thing by giving her a greeting. You have become an adult. Sadly it is in part because of your parent's losses. You are planning ahead and that is great. She may grow up, and find that she needs you to be both a friend and a mentor.
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
when things like that happens to me I always tell myself that friends do come and go but true friends no matter how many years you haven't spoken to them nor seen them in their minds and spirits they still see us as their friends..friends will always be friends no matter what if they are true...
sending her a greeting is really a nice way to make her see that you still see her as your friend no matter what conflicts you to has..I just feel sorry that she's not able to understand what you had to go through just to keep up with your everyday life..I just don't understand why other people just cant understand that not all can spend luxury time and money like they do...
@inkyuboz (1392)
• Mandaluyong City, Philippines
5 Feb 11
Ahhh, the empty birthday greetings. I've been in that situation before. Falling out between friends is inevitable. Sometime, somehow you will have to let go of some of your so-called friends. It's not easy but believe me, time will pass you by and you will be able to handle the loss of friendship.
The world is open for you to explore. Meet some new people, win some new friends. It's going to be tough when you miss your old pals, but just keep moving forward and you might just find new ones that you will treasure for life.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
5 Feb 11
You and your friend are just passing this what called a test on friendship. It's very commendable of you to greet her in her Facebook wall and this is a true way of a friend. Let her have her quiet life away from you, give her some space and who knows she'll realized she's missing you! Now it's time for you to welcome her back and forget that silly misunderstanding between you. This is what friends are sometimes, be patient and with your kind heart, she'll return to you and the friendship will live a gain!
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
5 Feb 11
I think its nice that you still greeted her for her birthday....friends will come and go according to circumstances....and if she were a true friend she would try a little harder to understand your circumstances and make allowances for it so you could still be close...but you did well under the circumstances!
@celticeagle (159459)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Feb 11
She has stayed as if tranfixed in time while you have moved on and are making a life with your fiance. I fear she wasn't much of a friend if this change has broken the bond you two had. Sad, but this is common. SOme people move on and grow while others just stagnate and mutter down in life.
@dreamsharmin (2281)
• China
5 Feb 11
I think you did very good job. Though you know your friend will not care but still you have greetings her which is really great sign. I think your friend also will be so happy though she doesn't care. Actually we should do this i think then maybe some relation will come back again
@dreamsharmin (2281)
• China
5 Feb 11
I think you did very good job. Though you know your friend will not care but still you have greetings her which is really great sign. I think your friend also will be so happy though she doesn't care. Actually we should do this i think then maybe some relation will come back again.
@dreamsharmin (2281)
• China
5 Feb 11
I think you did very good job. Though you know your friend will not care but still you have greetings her which is really great sign. I think your friend also will be so happy though she doesn't care. Actually we should do this i think then maybe some relation will come back again.
