Life is simple, people make it complicated

people pushing you in every direction - life being complicated
@bounce58 (17526)
Canada
February 15, 2011 5:20pm CST
Don’t you sometimes feel that life, your life is really simple? And it’s just the people around you that make it complicated? I keep thinking about a time when I didn’t have enough of anything. In money or even in responsibilities. I keep thinking about how simple my life was back then. It could have been viewed as boring by others, but I remember liking how steady it was. With nothing much in terms of unpleasant surprises. There are days when problems get me down that I reminisce about those forgotten days. Can you remember a time where your life was simple, and you liking that kind of life? Are there people around you that complicate your life? That the going could be simple again if only these people did not bother you? I could name a few people that I’d rather have no connection, or interaction with.
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• United States
16 Feb 11
Of course when i was a child and not an adult life was easy.But now that i have attended college, have a car in my name but still live at home i still have my bills. I will have bills till the day i die so therefore i think life will always be complicated and that is if i dont win the Lotto or somehow come upon some good money. Life is filled with responsibilites now that i am adult and helping my parents out asmuch as i can and having a car loan to pay off and two college loans to pay off i have some responsibilites to take care of and it makes life complicated and not knowing how im going to pay on these is hard at times on me.
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@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
I think you've hit upon a point that I've been driving at. As we grow older, we come into responsibilities. And with these responsibilities come complications on our otherwise 'simple' life. It is great that we accumulate things. It's just harder sometimes that we get what we bargain for. Thanks.
@Nadinest1 (2040)
• Canada
16 Feb 11
In the big scheme of things right now....my life is simple. I stay at home...i do ot work outside the home. We have a small business that I help with...accounts receivable, payable and payroll. There are only 2 employees, so there is not a lot of work to do. ....but, my MIL is one of those people you talked about that put drama in my life. I have gotten to the point last Christmas where she 'forgot' my son's Christmas gift...that I decided I needed to break ties with this woman....and I have not talked to her since Christmas. She is a gossip bag and what she doesn't know....she makes up. It is just easier if I have no contact with her....and she lives 7 miles from me. So, out of sight-out of mind(My MIL)....my life is smooth running if I can just concentrate on my husband and kids.
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@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
What you have there is a concrete example of the point that I am trying to drive at. There are actually some people that not only complicate things, they also put drama into our lives. And it is often amazing how our lives are really simple when they are out of sight, and out of mind.
@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
16 Feb 11
Hello bounce. Yes life can really be simple if people don't complicate it so often, but one should keep in mind that people around him are only reflections of his own person. So with this i am saying that if people all around you are complicating things, maybe you are creating problems and making it complicated as well. Well there are things that you can't control too, like operations, and their need, so that can complicate life.
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@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
One thing I've gathered from this response is that I shouldn't be jumping all over the people around me right away as the cause of the complications. Maybe it is me. And I am the cause of complications. I'd have to look harder in the mirror then. Thanks elitess.
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@lakshmi11 (279)
• United States
16 Feb 11
in the course of my life I learned that it is not other people who make our lives complicated it is us, because we let them do this. It is difficult at first but it really helps to realize that we are not the victim of other people complicating our lives. It is really our thinking and then acting that makes others use us the way they do. The strange thing is if you realize that it is not them but you yourself you are able to change the situation and regain your peace and your balance in life.
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@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
That is a great point of view! In some ways you are right. Because if we don't allow other people to complicate our lives, then it wouldn't be. If we maintain our lives to be simple and not bother with what others would say or don't mind their intrusions, then it doesn't have to be complicated. Thanks.
@1hopefulman (29984)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
We have to take charge of our lives and not allow others to dictate to us how we will live. I believe in the simple life. The simpler the better.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
Hello 1hopefulman. You are right that by taking charge of our lives, we can make it as simple or as complicated as we want. Thanks.
@1hopefulman (29984)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
If we take control then we have no one else to blame but ourselves with the way we live our lives. It's like the old saying about the way we make our bed is the way we will lie in it.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
Hi, Bounce. I do agree with you, dear. Life is so simple and only if we could leave it that way, we will be all happy living a life with less stress. But, I guess, we learn to complicate things because we are looking for means to improve our lives.Again, improvement leads to complications. But, why? Yes, you are right, because of the people around us. Those what I call nuisance people, only wanting a piece of us and always have malicious schemes ready for you to hurdle every day of your life. I'm missing those good old days when I don't need much and when what I need doesn't need doing complicated things in order for me to achieve. Sigh...
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
If I knew life is going to be like this I shouldn't have spent time on video games, which made me addicted to it, making me a bit of a late bloomer or something.some how technology had made it easy in some ways but in more ways or the other it made it a bit complicated. but at least we have to try to live a life with out stepping on other people.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
Hello eurekafemme. I guess being human, it is all but natural to want improvement for our lives. And with it comes the nuisance people, that really do cause the complications in our lives. Hello LetranKnight. I'm not really sure if playing video games makes our lives simple, but I could certainly relate that when we were still playing, we were still kids. And at that time we don't really have many complications in life. Thanks to both of you.
• United States
20 Feb 11
If it is a toxic situation , then stop the connection. Life is way too short to have to deal with toxic people.Funny, when I was younger I seem to have more going on than now. I had to do homework and practice. I was watching More t.v. and MTV. I slept less , it seems. Now my life is simple, Work, MY Lot, a hockey game here and there and my guy. But not in that order, lol!
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
24 Feb 11
To be honest Sarah, I wish I could just stop the connection as quickly as I say so. The situation is indeed toxic, but I have no choice as I have been tied by responsibilities. And this people around me are the ones causing all the complications. Thanks.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
hello bounce! life is really simple if we know how to live with it. well,of course every single individual has their own different attitudes and opinions and characteristics in life so there will always come a time that two or more persons will always disagree with the opinions of one another. there's always a positive and negative mindsets which will get connected and distract one another. we just have to keep calm at times of argument to prevent such actions that will turn things worse. if we can learn to deal with those people, we can live freely well. but if we can't, things will really be hard to deal with that makes life more complicated.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
Hello annavi. I guess these different attitudes and opinions of other people are the ones that bring drama to our lives. And this is what complicate what is otherwise a simple life. Thanks for the response.
• United States
16 Feb 11
your right, nothing seems to be easy anymore. every little thing seems to be made a huge deal and a distaster if anything is out of place. it feels like everyone is always panicing on a daily basis over everything.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
It's like the ISO concept at work. In the pursuit of making everything simple, we end up with a very complicated process. And this is where your response make sense. At work, when a particulat thing does not follow the path it is supposed to follow, or a thing is out of place, then everybody does panic. Thanks.
• India
16 Feb 11
Yes you are absolutely correct. Life is a simple and is tastier like chocolate. But people in this world makes it more diificult. If we understand that all the things in our life are temporary in this world, then half of the problem in ones life will be solved
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
Hello KRTWORLDWIDE. I agree with you that all the complications in this life is temporary. And that in the great scheme of things, are really not important. Thanks.
@murtaza45 (173)
• India
16 Feb 11
better life me for possible me not i am about life me change to time period for circle to the out the life so borred to question me our life me change me.so better ways to life silent me and good thing me brain.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
Hello murtaza. I don't really understand what you are getting at. But hopefully, you get the gist of my discussion. Thanks for the response anyway.
@polaris77 (2031)
• Bacau, Romania
16 Feb 11
I agree with you,life can be very simple if it weren't for the people around;they are the ones that make life complicated,sometimes so complicated that we wish to run away and leave it behind,but unfortunately there's no escape,so we have to live in this complicated world and try to live up to its expectations,which are higher and higher.If it were for me,life would be much simpler and enjoyable,but that's an utopia right now,and I think it will get even worse for the future generations.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
I think you've equated complications with the level of technology. And I agree with you that with the progress of technology, future generations' would have a more difficult lives. Add to it, people that make life more complicated. Hopefully, the human race would evolve up and over all these complications. Thanks.
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
Hello Bounce, As the community grows through it's passing of laws and making new technologies to supposedly make life better and easy, things also gets complicated if Law and order is to be achieved in every Nation. life was simplier but it was hard thoughbecause racist was also rampant and misunderstanding. if we didn't have internet today, then problems would still arise and racism is still at large.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
Hello LetranKnight25. I'm really not sure how racism was resolved by the internet. But if you say so, then I guess I have to take your word for it. Thanks anyway.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Life is what we will make of it. It can be the simplest joy or the most painful. If we choose to make it more difficult, that's what it will become. The more obstacles we put in our path, the harder the road will be to follow.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
You are very right sender621. I couldn't deny that some of the complications in my life were put by me in the first place. And if I don't let it complicate my life, then everything would have been very simple. Thanks.
• India
16 Feb 11
Life is so simple, the people around us make it complicated. Life is very simple, and money or even in responsibilities. Thinking about simple life and unpleasant surprises.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
Hello ganeshprabhuk. Life is indeed simple. And with the people around us, it sometimes bring complications and unpleasant surprises. Thanks.
@Alexanda (47)
• China
16 Feb 11
my life is very simple,i always wear casual clothes,and try to do what i want to.but the interpersonal relationship in my work is very complicated,my some colleagues often make stories ,tell lies and report u , when u did good job,they look as if they are anxious to see the world in disorder.i feel very tired not because of my work,but of the bad complicated relationship.i dont know what they r thinking of,and whether they r really happy.so i dislike the environment in my workship,and want to change it.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
I think that's what takes toll. Not only are we physically and mentally tired because of our jobs, we also get spent because of the relationships we keep. And all the details that's needed to keep these relationships. Making our lives complicated. Thanks.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
16 Feb 11
life is simple, humans are the ones that make it complicated e.g. people that owe money and keep saying they don't wouldn't it be easier to just pay their dues? also people that go spending spree to show off wouldn't it be easier if they only buy what they can afford and save for emergency? and then people that care only for themselves making it difficult for everybody else to get a job, to keep a job, and so on I always kick people like this out of my life it's boring and not productive
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
Sadly, today's society makes it look like the ones that live simple lives are the ones that are boring. It makes us want more and more things, thus making life complicated. And like your first line, we are but human to want our lives like so.
@daiweian06 (1408)
16 Feb 11
Yeah Life is so simple, magical and amazing. We all want to live longer, healthy and to be rich but do you think that would be just enough? Nope is not about that. What we really like is to live to the fullest. And sometimes we forgot to be contented on what we have and still asking for more. But on the others side that is a good attitude and sometimes bothers us so much so we almost forgot to appreciate all the things we have. Like our love ones, friends and family. Its all depend on how we attract it. Good day! God bless!
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
Then I guess this what causes the complication. The fact that we are just human, with constant needs of 'wanting'. And not being content of what we already have. And that a simple life is never enough.
• United States
16 Feb 11
Yeah certain people do seem to want to steer you in their direction. The ones that have a true influence are the ones that positively embrace you and show themselves and their actions. I really love to live a simple and joyous life.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
A previous response here before attributed money and power why some steer your life to unfavorable conditions. Although we don't want it, they affect our lives negatively. I think some don't want the 'simple and joyous life'. They have to complicate it to prove their self-worth.
• United States
16 Feb 11
Oh gosh it is inevitable for me really, no matter how well behaved, caring and helpful I am it most times does not matter. People offline and online do try at great lengths to make my life impossible. I do try to live pretty simple and not allow anyone to change my character, however some people go through great lengths to assure they make my life difficult. It is no different off-line and online for me, as no matter what I do they stop at nothing to make my life a bit more difficult then necessary. I do hope at times that people exhaust far quicker then the implore their negativity towards me though. My chin is up at all times regardless.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
You have those kind of people too?! For me, it is not so much the online 'friends', it is the people who are physically around me. They can't seem to have a simple life of their own that they have to bother me. And complicate things, making life difficult. I should prop my chin so I could keep it up always too!