So you think your life is miserable..

@staria (2782)
Philippines
February 17, 2011 1:35am CST
I used to think sometimes that my life is miserable. Everyday, you have to think about the bills, the rent, buying milk and diapers for the baby and how to earn extra money. But sometimes when I watch the TV and see other people's lives, on how they only earn as little as P100/day and they have to feed about 5-12 kids.. I am somehow enlightened that there were far more unfortunate people than me and that I have to be thankful somehow that I am not as miserable as them. I do not intend to compare of to ditch other people's lives, just sharing. Thanks.
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@sais06 (1288)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
There is a quote that I've read on a wall and I always remember this whenever I felt like being miserable. It says "If we will look at the things that we don't have then we have nothing, but if we will look at the things that we have then we have everything." This always struck me because I then remember the street children and the families on the street, and I felt so blessed that I am where I am. This makes me feel so thankful and that miserable feeling slowly fades away. Our life will only be miserable if we don't do anything to prevent or stop it from being miserable. Have a nice day!
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
That's a nice quotation you have there. Basically we hold our own destiny. So if we will not do anything to change these negative things that's happening in our lives, nothing will happen, things wont change. Cheers!
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@sais06 (1288)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
We should already get rid of the habit of always complaining. We always complain and that is the problem with us. Complaining about our current situation will do nothing to help us. This is what I mean that we should be thankful always as to what and where we are right now.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
Many people find complaining as the easiest thing to do in the midst of adversities, but you are correct, people should stop doing that, look for solutions instead and put them into action.
@anne25penn (3310)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
We all have our bad or down days. I just had mine yesterday. But these bad days make me stronger and I always say to myself that tomorrow is another day. Sure, we can't get what we all want in our lives. But we are also human and it is normal for us to complain when things aren't going right. Otherwise, if we keep all emotions bottled up we might lose our minds. I use this site to rant if I can't take it anymore.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
Humans bleed and heal, it is natural. :) Agree, these difficulties help us and mold us to be better individuals. Ranting is good for the heart and mind, so say it out loud :)
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@LeighB (700)
• Thailand
17 Feb 11
There is always someone else of out there in a worse situation than you. Life is how you make it, too an extent. We are giving certain obstacles as we go through life and it is up to us to conquer them to the best of our ability. Six months ago I thought I had everything - my own business, house and a partner who loved me. Today I am living in a hostel for the homeless, have no job, and my partner and I are trying to keep the relationship going but it isn't easy as we now live on opposite sides of the World. Yes, I get depressed, yes I think my life is miserable. But...I have a roof over my head, a bed to sleep in and food in my stomach, I could be a lot worse off. I know this is only temporary and I WILL bounce back and wit all my will my partner and I will re-unite and be together again.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
I really wish that you will be able to regain the life that you had before. A little sacrifice and perseverance will surely help us to be on the top of our lives again.
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@ally12 (1204)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
Maybe thats one reason why God did not make us all the same and put on the same level in life. So that there will always be someone we can look at to remind us how fortunate we are than others.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
yes, there's always something to learn based on other's experiences.
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@GardenGerty (99193)
• United States
18 Feb 11
It sounds as if you are a really compassionate person. There are many people in the world who are struggling to have an income. I am out of work, but I receive unemployment benefits, so I have a better life and circumstances thatn others. It is good not to spend our time in self pity.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
Correct, self pity can eat us alive. Dwelling in it will just add darkness in the already dark situation.
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@GardenGerty (99193)
• United States
18 Feb 11
If there is any action that you can take, even a small one, to improve your life, or the life of others it will give brighten your darkness a bit.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
A small step today, might be result to a giant leap in the future. Cheers!
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
I know there are other people who have worst case scenarios but I just feel miserable then. I have no work.Because of that, I can't go out because I have no money to spend it with. I only rely on my parents. huhu.My life sucks.I don't enjoy staying at home, especially when my brother brings his laptop to work. I have nothing to do.huhu.It's so painstaking living each day without money. I can't enjoy life this way.helpppppppppppppppp!
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
I have to admit that it is hard to live w/o money, in fact money makes the world go round and that is true. I think you must be looking for a decent job nowadays, continue to look for one and pray that God give you a good paying job to suit your needs, for now thank the people around you, your family because they are still helping you out, when your time comes you can also help them in return.
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• Philippines
17 Feb 11
Yes!!!I am currently browsing for jobs. I'm going mad. I'm stuck at home and I wanna go out and buy things that I've been dying to have. I'm getting impatient. I want to work ASAP.My boredom kills me.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
Don't lose hope, you'll surely find your way out. Good luck!
@raj7shot (842)
• India
18 Feb 11
Never compare you with others.. Live with what you have and upto your strength...
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
yup I know, but somebody's story can really inspire another person's life. You can use their life as a testimonial and not just because you want to judge them on how they do in life.
@raj7shot (842)
• India
5 Mar 11
Thats really gr8 thing...
• United States
17 Feb 11
"I was unhappy with my life because I had no shoes, until I saw the man who had no feet..." Truly we are a wanting people. We want more because we see there is more, yet when we are finished looking up reaching for that which, perhaps, today we can not reach, we then must look down to see others reaching up. Rarely do we look around, neither up nor down and see what really is. If we were to simply look around and truly see, looking neither up nor down, we'd see wonders. The grasses whispering in the breeze, the leaves murmuring against each other, the blues of the same sky that holds sway over us all, the depths of the nights and the promise of the stars. We'd see looks of joy, pain, sorrow on the faces we'd meet, and perhaps some where in all this, we'd find that one elusive thing each being seeks...contentment.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
Agree it pays to look around you and be thankful for everything. Even for the simple fact that you are still breathing, the beautiful colors of things around you. Being contented is not easy, but being one will pull you out of misery. Beautiful comment, gamemasters is right. Cheers!
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
That's what we call counting your blessings. If we think our lives are miserable we just have to look around and we'll see people who are in dire situations that you'll realize you're much better off.
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@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
22 Feb 11
Yes, we should not complain much. What we are given is the best, with reasons that we know not except to always believe. That is also how I tell my nieces and nephews whenever they complained that their parents did not give what they wanted. That there are always reasons why they did not give them and why they should be grateful that they got more than other kids.
@staria (2782)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
Yes, when we don't get what we want at times, there is always a reason. Sometimes when we do not get what we want, chances are something better is in store for us.
@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
Always count your blessings. List them down. You'd be amazed to find out that you are very fortunate. Probably more fortunate than others :)
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
That's a great idea beamer, I should try listing the blessings down. It may help to look at it once in a while and marvel at how you are still blessed out of the stormy life you have. Thanks!
@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
I keep a record of it actually, and I look at it once in a while especially when I feel that life has been unfair to me.
@libramie (563)
• Philippines
18 Mar 11
We must be happy always coz as they said life is too short so we must enjoy the graces given unto us. Even though its only enough for a daily living sometimes its not but we count on every single centavo as a blessing and spend it suitably and wisely.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
19 Mar 11
Correct, we must consider everything that we have as a blessing even if its big or small as a centavo. And you are right for saying that we should spend them wisely. We need not splurge for a single day and cram the following day.
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
Yeah, it does help to get some perspective of how other people live their lives. And how we should be thankful for what we have. Because there are so many people who have less.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
Yes, we should be thankful even for the little things that we have.
• United States
21 Feb 11
Everyday I worry about how we're going to pay the bills. I worry if my husband will ever find another job that he can physically do. I worry how long my husband will be able to walk. I worry that because my financial situation is so foul that I'm passing this worry on to my children. Then, I go to my daughter's school and I see the children that come in on the days there's snow on the ground and have only an undershirt on. So, I realize that things could be so much worse and I should be thankful that I am able to properly care for my children. It's hard to see those worse off than we are, but I agree it's an eye opener. I should just be thankful for what I do have.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
It's hard to look around when we are blinded by our own depressed situation. But imo, if we will only learn to thank God for every little thing that we have - our family, children, house, food - we will be contented and happy despite the gravity of the situati0n.
@gtdonna (1740)
20 Feb 11
Staria, I used to think the same thing too until I see the lives some people live and hear their stories and now I wake up every morning grateful for what I have and thankful that I have a roof over my head, food in the fridge, family and friends who love me and a job to go to Mondya to Friday and so much more. Sometimes we need an eye opener to realise how much blessings we have.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
Using other people's lives as an eye-opener correct and using them as testimonials and as inspiration to strive to live a better life and not to drown in self pity,
@lady1993 (17462)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
I am quite like you too- before, whenever I had bad days, and little money I thought I was the most miserable person... But I grew older and more mature- saw some news and articles on tv- movies, the neighborhood...aqll those poor and starving people who have nothing. These days, I always remind myself that some people have had it worse, much much worse- and they still have hope to live for tomorrow.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
That's true, they seem to worry less than more fortunate ones. If they can do that, why cant we right? Cheers!
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
19 Feb 11
So very true! Sometimes we are just so focused on our troubles and our misery, that we fail to see that there are others that have worse fate than us. Yet they manage to go through with life, more carefree than us. And sometimes less miserable than us. Something about a saying: having no shoes, until seeing somebody who had no feet...
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
Sometimes, those who are less fortunate seemed to be happier and contented than those who are fortunate than them.
@sheetalnr (590)
• India
19 Feb 11
I used to feel the same way. But, then i realised that it is better to appreciate what you have rather than complain about what you dont.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
5 Mar 11
appreciate, less complains and be happy. I think people should put more of their happy faces and be positive at all cost.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
19 Feb 11
I tell my nine year old daughter stories about how much worse some folks are compared to us whenever she complains. I want her to appreciate all that she has and that if she can lend a hand to anyone who needs she should be there and that is how she will stop focusing on what is lacking in her own life and experience the joy of helping someone in need instead.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
agree, helping someone in need would mean that you still have the ability to give and you are not the lowliest person on Earth. You are teaching your daughter a good value to hold on to in life. Cheers! :)
• China
19 Feb 11
Sometimes I also have these feelings,I don't earn much money ,I have little holiday,I can't make my dreams come true.When I think about this ,I feel blue. However,I try to think of another way.I can't earn much money,but I have more time reading,learning and enrich myself.I live a happy life,that's the most important.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
That's great, enriching one's self. Doing more productive things during your free time. One should step up instead of drowning in self pity. cheers!
@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
18 Feb 11
If we are human we "all" have days we feel this way. There are times when you just do not want to get out of bed and face another day. This is just part of being human and for some people it is far worse than what you describe. Be it a chemical imbalance or whatever they are depressed all the time and they perceive their circumstance to be far worse than most people. For some reason we all tend to look at people that seem to have it better than we do and wonder, why not me? Why could I not be that way, for what ever it may be. That is why it is so important for all of us to regain a perspective as you have and then we can see how truly good we have it. My last experience with this was starting a trip at an airport. It was going to be a very long day, my feet were already hurting and all I wanted to do was get there and be done with the airport bull. As my wife and I walked to the gate to wait for our plane I saw a man sitting, by himself, with a white stick in his hand. It was of course a stick he used to avoid running into things as he could not see. For all the time we waited he sit there in one position paying very close attention to what was being said so that he would know when it was time to board. We all tend to amuse ourselves while we are waiting by watching other people. This was not an option for him clearly. After we boarded I later noticed him in his seat. Same position...his only connection with the world was his ears and he seemed not to want to miss anything. Here was someone that would not let this huge disability stop him from doing what ever he had to do. Many would have been at home sitting in a chair and would never leave without help. Somehow that long day didn't seem so bad after that. There are legions of people that have it so much worse than we do no matter how bad we have it. And for the people that we think have it so much better? Well if you got to know them you may find that not to be the case for so many reasons. Every day that we have with the people we love is a gift. We may not have a pot to pee in but we have what truly matters. We have life and we have family. It is up to us and us alone to value them for they are the true key to our happiness. That happiness however comes not from them directly but from our ability to always be positive and know what to value in our life. How we feel about things is a choice we make every minute of our life.
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@staria (2782)
• Philippines
19 Feb 11
Thanks for sharing this story. If we really try to see things better, life will be less complicated and happier.