Donate or not donate?!

@soleya (1102)
Latvia
February 17, 2011 6:55am CST
I hear people saying something like:"I donate a lot to the charities, to people that need the money etc." Well, it really made me think about the way we act with our own hard earned money. I know it is a good thing to do to help everyone in need, but aren't some of us spending too much on charities? I think that before spending money on helping others you need to enjoy the money you have and spend it on yourself first. Because, you were working hard and no one is giving you money for nothing, right? I think you need to donate only the amount of money which will not make you suffer and skip lunch. What do you think? Do you believe that you need to put yourself first?
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@louievill (16208)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
hi soleya, my faith taught me that based on scripture " God loves a cheerful giver" so donate only what you can give freely of comfortably give cause God is glofified by this, there is also a part that says if you do this returns will be returned to you several folds more. Scripture also warns that when you give do not let the other hand know what the other hand is doing, it means that you should not donate just to get the applause of men, cause doing that you already got your reward.think some politicians do this by grand standing.. Have we not all observed that the biggest or largest donations are most of the times given by anonymous donors?
@myloots (37)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
just save money for yourself and save money also for helping others. By helping them it doesn't matter if big amount if you are rich and small amount if you are just average or below average person. The important thing is , it came to your heart fully without regret. Always remember that "God loves a cheerful giver"
• India
17 Feb 11
hi soleya, what i feel is you are right on your part.first we should use our money for ourself and rest for our future and charity comes at last. and i personally feel that charity should not been done by giving money to any charity organization.rather i feel if i go personally and give to needy people is real charity.money given to charity organization is just for fame i dnt think organization use our full money for good cause.so that is what i think i may be right or wrong.
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@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
17 Feb 11
I agree with you, if you will starve by giving out for other, then is plain stupidity. Give when you can, when you have some spare and not to drain you up. You can half your food, give the other half to the hungry and then satisfy your self with the rest. This is the essence of giving, in my opinion!
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@marianne87 (3526)
17 Feb 11
I used to give a lot to charities, but now I am trying to raise 3 children on one low income, I just can't do it. I do give some of my children's old toys and clothes to charity, because these are things we don't need, but I can't spare money any more, I can hardly keep up with the bills and all the things my family need.
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@dreamnishu (1253)
• China
17 Feb 11
hello friend! nice to read your discussion.i really agree with you.if i am not able to stay a good position then how can i donate money for others.at first we have to make perfect our self then we can donate what ever we want.me and my roommate think to donate some money to a family who are very poor.that is why whenever we went some hotel for take food whatever money left we put it on a small bank.when we go back our home then find a poor family for donate this money.it is not so much for us but it is a big thing for them.you people also can try it.we can put any amount it is not a big deal but our thinking is very good. thanks a lot.
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
17 Feb 11
Yes soleya, I agree with you on the last part that you need not or should not donate skipping a lunch for yourself. Even in the Holi Books it is written that you would be able to get food for me only if you are able to earn it and earning needs strength of body. I also do not understand the people who are after donating as if it were a religious duty. There are people who have huge money and that too is not hard earned. Let them do charities. But me, I get salary for my job at a particular place as per my ability and whatsoever I have earned is hard earned. Now why are you after my money that I have a little now after a twenty year's service. Let me sleep a little more for it is not morning yet....nice...
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@dragon54u (31298)
• United States
17 Feb 11
I don't think you should deprive yourself of food, shelter or other necessities in order to give to others and you certainly should not deprive your family. After all, if you deprive yourself and get sick and can't work what good is that? It also depends on what makes you happy. If you're happy with the bare necessities and like to give, fine. If you need to go see a movie or something, go ahead because you've earned the right. Just give what is comfortable for your budget. However, people should take care of their own needs--including investing in a retirement account and having an emergency savings account--before giving to charity or they themselves might become a client of that charity in the future.
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@leo1985 (164)
• China
22 Feb 11
I do believe your opinion is right. At first, the most people need donate is ourselves, right? since we work hard, we can't ask for money to our parents anymore, and we need to surpport ourselves first, even sometime we need to raise our children. SO, high quality live is everyone we chase and we can spend all money we earn. Meanwhile, when we have enough and we have a kind heart we feel sad when we meet poor guys who don't have money and food. We help them and our heart is satisfied by our act. Each choice is right just depend on what you think in your brain~
@bounce58 (17550)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
This is an easy problem for me. I never have enough money. No matter how hard I work, it is never enough. But I don't let this stop me from donating to charities. What I lack in cash, I make up in time. So, once in a while I help out at the local church. I know it isn't much, but it makes me feel good doing it.
@SIMPLYD (74863)
• Philippines
18 Feb 11
Well it depends. If a hungry looking beggar approached me while i have a small brown paper bag with food on it, i would readily give it to him. He needs it more than me at the moment and i can just buy another one, although for sure it would be a lot cheaper since my allotted money was already spent on the previous food. Anyway, at least i helped a poor person.
@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
In regard to donations, I think you should help the poor in your neighborhood first and that means those who truly need help, and also the associations that help those in need, not just every beggar who asks.. And if you were to enjoy your money first, it would be that those in need would not get anything because after paying for that luxury car, etc. and the trip of Europe, there would be nothing left. So one has to have a balance. I believe that one has to pay a percent of your income first to the church and also so much to put in the offering plate. However, if I were to pay for all the charities and requests coming in, there would not be much left mainly because I am a widow and I get a government pension and if I do not get the tax form filled out for that year, I may not receive the pensions next year. So even though my house all paid up for, I have to be very careful. And one can do things that do not require you to take any of your money. For instance, when it warm, I pick up pop cans and they go to support a home for the handicapped, also any extra money I find goes into the offering plate, and if I write check to the deacon's fund, that is income tax deductible. One has to have a budget and decide how much they would need to live on in the style to which they are accomplished and the rest goes to charities, savings, etc. So for instance you may be able to donate in all five percent. But you have to be careful to only donate to those charities that actually help and not to everyone who asks for money because they are too lazy to work.
@potche (2)
18 Feb 11
I also doing that thing. To donate or to give help in my own simple way..and i don't see anything wrong on this as long the donations i gave is really will goes to the people whom i know in greatly need. Yes, it's hard to make money specially in this time.That is why if we are truly extending our help to those people in need we make sure that all donations we made will surely make them help.,and to be "kind "is our simple way of loving God.
• Canada
17 Feb 11
Some call me selfish, but I believe that I should take care of myself so that others won't have to. I will donate if I can afford it, but only after I've taken care of my own needs.