One Sided Love

Philippines
February 25, 2011 8:17am CST
When you love someone, is it necessary for them to love you back in return? A friend told me that in love, there are no conditions like, if, but, or if and only if's. When you love, you say it and show it and let the other person feel. When they accept,great...you're on top of the world, but when they don't of course you feel sad. Will that stop you from loving that person?
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11 responses
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
Love is always given without expecting anything in return. Once you expect something, like your feelings being reciprocated, then I don't think that's really love. Loving someone is really the hardest thing to do because you open yourself up to possible rejection and pain. Love, in a sense, is really one-sided, but it's the greatest feeling one can ever have. Being loved back is the next greatest thing :)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
Well said. Thank you. :)
@nj_1022 (251)
25 Feb 11
If you love someone, it is nice to tell them andlet them feel that you love them. If they do love you back, good for you but not everytime that is the case. If they didnot love you back, you can always continue loving them unless they ask you to stop.
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
If the way you are showing your love to the person hurts them instead, then of course you have to stop what you are doing. But I think, it still won't stop the emotion you have for them.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
25 Feb 11
I don't think it stops you from loving that person, but it will produce hurt; and sadly also sometimes anger. In the Bible 1 Corinthians 13 speaks of a perfect unconditional love; agape. But it's hard in practice, because we so want to be loved in return by those we love. Yes, often we are in fact loved by those we love, especially within families, and this is a wonderful gift, which not everyone on the planet possesses. There was a beautiful song ("Everything I Own") by the master songwriter David Gates of the Rock group Bread who asked in the song if there's someone who will not let you (the listener) go, but who is being taken for granted. He also sang that he would give everything he owned just to talk to someone who once loved him, and yet who he lost, just once again, just the once. That someone was his father. If someone loves us, we should treat every second with them as precious...because we never know when we might lose them.
• Philippines
25 Feb 11
Yes you love and with no regrets about it even if they don't love you back in return because you treat them as precious to you and wanna give them all that you can and spend worthwhile time within their company while you still can get the chance.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
I think it all depends. Like I don't think that confessing your like or love for a person in a relationship is a good idea. That is just destructive and selfish. I personally never had my heart broken so I don't know if my answer has any weight. A guy saying to a girl that he loves her is easier for me to swallow than a girl saying he loves the guy. I'm a bit old fashion that way. You can also love a person from far away...
@staria (2780)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
When you love, don't expect something in return. Love unconditionally, this is the only way to prove that you really love. Of course if s/he doesnt love you back you will feel sad but the important thing is that you have shown love w/o expectations.
@khai21 (5)
• Philippines
26 Feb 11
If you really love a person, just show it.dont wait that this person will love you back. love is not selfish..
• United States
25 Feb 11
It should stop you from Wanting them to love you back. But does it stop you from loving them? no! Only time can heal a broken heart and you Have to Want to heal your broken heart. Many people think they can make the other person love them. If only I was ... or I looked like... He/she would love me. But sadly if they don't love you As Is , they won't truly love you . One sided love hurts like hell! But If you want True, mutual love , you Have to let your heart be broken, Let it heal, And keep it open, and then try again. I'm living proof! If you take each step , you will find someone who will love You back. That's what everyone in love wants , someone to love them back . If you keep chasing the one who says they Don't love you, you will never find True , Real love.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
25 Feb 11
Love comes in many forms. It can be one sided love, triangle love, etc..but loving a person whose heart is stone cold and doesn't reciprocate your love then it will be almost impossible to bring the love into higher level. There will be deep hurt in the heart as the person you love does not appreciate and love you back. It is difficult to define love as love will continue despite the odd. But don't discount the power of love though as love can do some magical blow to turn the tide to slowly make the person's open up and declare his love for you. It needs patience.
• Malaysia
25 Feb 11
Of course it will break your heart when the person you love don't love you back, but that surely won't stop you from loving that person. You can love him/her until you feel that it is the right time to stop. Sometimes we might fall in love with the wrong person and no matter how much we try it's not going to workout between you both, but If you find the Right One, You'll be loved and You'll be at the top of the WORLD in NO time. Hopefully you'll find the TRUE love in your life. Take care.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
25 Feb 11
You give your love to someone because that is the feeling you have for them. We do get heartbroken if that love is not returned to us. All we can do is feel what we feel, if that feeling is reciprocated, we have a happier relationship with that person. Even if my love is not returned by someone, it would not stop my feelings for them.
@vasugi (143)
• India
25 Feb 11
Of course not... just like 2 sided love one sided love has its own pleasure, happiness and emotions... in fact one sided love is more stronger than 2 sided... if a guy/girl fails in love irrespective of they getting married to somebody else they will still remember their failed love and that will be somewhere there deep n their heart.. So if someone rejects you don't feel that you failed feel happy that you got a chance to express your love....