Would you like to be with someone who is different than you? Oppisites attract?
@for3verfamous (2190)
Canada
February 26, 2011 5:41pm CST
I'm sure most of us have heard the saying that "opposites attract." But at the same time I hear a lot of people saying you have to be similar for a relationship to work. What's your opinion?
I would rather be with someone different than me. My boyfriend and I are complete opposites and I wouldn't change it for anything. He has really opened my eyes to thinking about things in different ways. He made me realize things in my life I needed to change.
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11 responses
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 11
well, that is challenging to have that opposite in personality.
my hubby is 90 degrees diffrent with me.
he is so patient and slow
while me is fast and very inpatient. i often get stress with this, but i try to understand him and he give me something new in point of view
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
28 Feb 11
I do that too, I never slow down to think. I almost rushed into buying a car, and ANOTHER ipod. He explained to me that it wasn't practical to just rush into buying either one of them. If I didn't listen I probably would have been having some serious finincial trouble right now. haha.
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
27 Feb 11
Sounds like I'm similar to you. I'm inpatient and fast. He has definitely taught me some patience and stopped me from doing things that wouldn't be so smart because I was in a rush.
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
27 Feb 11
like in first sight we may like the people having same qualities like us but later on that doesn't create any interest on that person or the relationship. almost all my friends are different or we can say just opposite to me but i love being with them and rather it creates some interest in me to know new things and its my passion knowing new things from people. So in my view i can say that opposites attract so far in any relationship
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
27 Feb 11
Being with someone the same as you does get boring. There's no drama, you dont get to learn anything new, you won't grow that much as a person.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
27 Feb 11
I think that being opposites is good, you can balance each other out that way, but I think you have to have some things in common as well. My husband and I have opposite personalities an we balance each other well, but we both enjoy some of the same things as well. There has to be some sort of a common bond for things to work out well.
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
27 Feb 11
We have common bonds but oppisite personalities. I am shy sometimes, he's very outgoing. We both like sports though I think that's our common bond. There's nothing like beating him at some tennis. 
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Feb 11
I am a believer that opposites do attract and my boyfriend for which we live together now for 5 years get along beautifully. When I first met him, I though no way, as he and I were quite different.
I have to agree with you that he made me change a great many things in my life also as his good nature passive self made me realize life is rosier then I ever thought it could be. I have had difficult relationships prior to him and I would not change him for anyone either.
Best of luck with you boyfriend as well!
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
27 Feb 11
I had the same experience. He made me find a positive way of looking at things as I used to be a little pesimistic. Now I have a love for life that I didn't have before. At first though our differences were kind of weird. I was like "this guy is delusional." I thought he was too good to be true, thankfully it all worked out.
@erncom11 (46)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
hi, for me, i would rather be with someone of my opposite.you see, by being with someone who is completely your opposite, you become more mature to different things.you are not contained to who or what you are and be able to understand each differences.this will make the relationship more stable if both survive by just understanding.my girlfriend and i are opposite and that's why this is what i think about it.we both learn from each differences and as a result, we are happy.
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
27 Feb 11
That was a great answer! I agree, I've developed a new maturity from him. It makes you a more mature person because you are tolerant towards many different types of people.
@blosiewinkz_16 (116)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
For me, people tend to be attracted with others who are of their opposites because we want something that's out of the box. When being acquainted with someone who's a total opposite of yourself especially he/she has the good qualities that you really aspire which you yourself does not possess, you would probably be attracted of him/her by then. But, having a partner who's an opposite to yourself, whether in the aspect of character, beliefs, and routines in life would need a lot of workings in both parties. Both should be willing to adjust with each others' differences.
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
27 Feb 11
Awesome response. No matter how good a person you are you can't posess every good quality in the world, so it's good to look for that in another person.
@blosiewinkz_16 (116)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
Yes, that's true. It is to create balance on both sides and learn many things in life. Your dealings with other will improve and your approach will now depend on the person you're with. It will really help you grow personally and professionally.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
26 Feb 11
There is no exact same person, and being different from your partner is inevitable but, some people can be the complete opposite. I was with someone who was very different from me and it was great at first, I learn a lot of new perspectives from him and tired things I never thought I would. But in the end, our differences is what separated us.. so I am more curious about people who are similar with me. But maybe naturally, I will still be attracted to someone who is quite different.
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
27 Feb 11
I guess it depends on what the differences are. There can be some things you just have to agree on.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
27 Feb 11
For me not I don't feel love and happy your life is bored and hard.
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
2 Mar 11
Definitely my friend.
I should like to be with someone who is different from my character.
Because we all have lines on fingers.
My lines are not equal with anyone in the world.Like this...
@tkonlinevn (6414)
• Vietnam
28 Feb 11
You're different with your boyfriend. But I think that there are some same points between you and him. So, you can keep your relationship.
The different make against. And it also make being attractive. If you feel that the different doesn't influence to you, you can keep them. If it become being dangerous, you should solve it.
@sunset_haze (97)
• Philippines
28 Feb 11
I've first heard the phrase "opposites attract" in my science lesson in elementary. This explains why magnet wouldn't stick together if you join both positive points. My boyfriend and I have so many differences specially when it comes to our attitudes and even our interests. But I find it healthy because in this way both of us can
see things in different prospective. We are now together for 11 mos and I could see that being opposites on things made us more attracted to each other. He's strengths are my weaknesses and my strengths are his weaknesses.
