My Manager Put Her Hands On Me ?!?!

@payout (3722)
United States
April 13, 2011 7:23pm CST
Wow.. I love and Enjoy my New job but, I need God to give me strength because this is getting out of hand. My Manager is driving me insane and other co workers. I cant take it anymore and So I think Im going to stop dealing with it and giving my Manager a Chance and File a Report to Corporate or my Regional. As a Teller I do many transactions on the Lobby and the Drive. Not only that we are short Staff which makes the stress level raise but I keep calm most of the time. Well today Im doing both and I was doing the drive thru and I am speaking into the mic forgetting I Have the head set on. SO the man cant see me. Because of the machine that pushes the boxes in out is blocking my face. SO... My manager says he cant see you ... I didn't hear her then she said he cant see you grab me on my shoulders and like push me to the side and the box fell and every and the let me remind you I am still on the mic. The Man at the Drive looks scared and I am acting and ignore it like it never happen. With a Smile on my face at this point in time I am VERY HOT MAD..... VERY MAD.. Then after that she started complaining saying oh.. cant say this or that Im like is she serious she does that her self with no problem. Saying this to me and the other co worker. So we both are tired of it everyday same thing just today she took it too FAR. The other co worker got tired of it and said can I speak with someone I need to speak with someone so the manager connect one the regional lady that has a office at the branch and so yeah I left the co worker my number when I see her tomorrow I will tell her I will be your back up because I am tired of this too. and I have only been here for 3 weeks now. sad. I Need some advice.. .. Please my Friends I can take this anymore so bad that I don't want to go to work because of this lady she is not the big manager he is on vacation and he is the one that said if you have any problems with her tell him because he knows how she is ... I said sure no problem.. Let me remind you this lady has been banking for over 20 years now. .. so I am sure she has every trick and lie to say. Cant take this any more. its hard not to Break and just flip out. But I have control..
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@GardenGerty (102593)
• United States
14 Apr 11
If the big manager is not due back for a while, you may have to go to the regional manager. She is not behaving in a professional manner. I am not sure what the laws are in your country, but she would be in trouble doing that here in the USA.
@payout (3722)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Hey gardengerty, I am from the united states and I agree with you if you are going to give advice then say but make it understand it and while saying it make the person feel comfortable so they won't feel like you are just picking on them but... I don't like what she did at all and I am sure that law.. Will lose her job and to me she put herself in that situation and so.. All I can say is.. Nothing at all.. I will ask my friend to speak with the regional as well. :)
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@GardenGerty (102593)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Payout, did I say this in a way that was offensive to you? If so, I am sorry. I am not clear from your comment if I made you feel picked on. I just could not believe that anyone in a bank in the US would act that way. It does seem like she needs to find a way to give constructive criticism.
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@payout (3722)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Its okay... I'm fine I email my Bank and I send them a letter stating that the teller supervisor harressed me and I will tell my manager when he gets off.. From his vacation because I am not sure when I will see the regional manager so yeah.. I no longer am goi g to work with that lady I don't want to
@eileenleyva (10984)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
Banks has CTVs. Tell the big boss to look into it ASAP!
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@payout (3722)
• United States
14 Apr 11
What are CTVs? because I don't wish hell on anyone but, this lady has to go because Co-workers and I are getting tired and I so many will speak up oh well I know we are doing the right thing and doing the right thing because this is getting tired in.. tooo MUCH
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@eileenleyva (10984)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
Security cameras. You need evidence to prove your allegation. Harassment is a nitty-gritty case.
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• United States
14 Apr 11
Keep calm and stay in control. You do need to talk to higher up people. Job's should not be so stressful like that. Good luck and take care
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@payout (3722)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Hey Soapies, thank you for your advice.. Yeah I agree no Job should be this stressful to me if I dont feel like coming to work because of this type of stress and because of the disrespect and attitude that I am getting. Im going to mark down that date and the time this happen and stuff because this is getting sad. and I want them to look at the cameras how this co worker is treating us
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@GardenGerty (102593)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Be sure to write everything down before you forget it.
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@payout (3722)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Thank you gardengerty Great advice.. I am doing so right now thank you again. Write it down while it's still fresh in my head
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@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Sounds like this women needs some anger management classes. If she's been in bank for over 20-years maybe she should find a new profession. She just can treat her staff that way. I wouldn't be surprised if the man at the window doesn't call someone himself. Hang in there. Best Wishes!
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@payout (3722)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Hey sswallace, I agree it's crazy one minute she is fine and is okay manager that you know you can deal with but, then next minute she snaps out of no where and becomes this evil wicked witch he'll or something I don't know what her problem is but even if she does have a problems she has no right to bring it to the work environment.
• United States
15 Apr 11
Maybe she's Bipolar. That seem to be the new Diagnosis for everyone who snaps on a dime. You are right though. She should not be bring her issues to work. She needs to deal with them some place else. Best Wishes!
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Hi. payout. I think that you should report her. Don't let her attitude stop you at all. She has no reason and no right to put her hands on you at all. For no whatsoever reason! Many managers think that they have the upper hand just because they have a higher position. But that isn't so. They are supposed to stay in their place and not get out of their place. I would surely report this manager to the regional lady so that she can know what is going on. Her behavior should not surprise her, being that she already know how this manager can be. I hope that she is fired after putting her hands on you. This is like assaulting you.
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@payout (3722)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Hey Cream, I agree with you I dont wish harm on anyone and wish that they lose there job but, to me she is going to put herself into that situation knowing what she did wrong period. and I dont want to say Transfer her because, I dont want anyone to experience that. Overall. I just hope action is taken. :)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Oh payout, no I am so sorry to read this. With the whole excitement about landing the job and now to have to deal with this type of situation. I see GG told you to write down and take notes, which you are. I also see that you sent an email to regional managment. Okay, tell yourself you have done nothing wrong and you will not be treated this way. Go to work each day with your bright smile and do not let on to anyone what is going on until you hear back from the email you sent. Reason why I am saying is that you do not want to let anyone know and the wrong people get ahead of you. I am really sorry to hear this because I remember your excitement, and for this unprofessional person to behave this way, you won't know if she has done this and or worse to many others. But you do the right thing in reporting because it is so wrong for anyone at a professional job to treat anyone this way. You are in the US and you know the laws here with harassment are very strict so she cannot be an exception. So in the meantime go in and continue to tell yourself that you love the job and you have done nothing wrong. I will pray that this gets cleared for you and that you can go back to the happy environment as usual. Many hugs to you.
@payout (3722)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Hey HardworkingGurl, Thank you so much for your advice. I did send out the Email but they have told me to contact Human Resources. Because I had contact the Customer Service.. But one of my co-workers have ask to speak with the Regional Manager and she is coming in. The Weird part is that the Manager the one that is mistreating me is the one that contact her and to me she has no idea what she got herself into because to me she is trying to look the good one by contacting her. I will sure express how I feel because the manager has no right to put her hands on me what so Period. I am also sorry that I do love my job but because the way I was treated and talk to makes me feel uncomfortable going to work. To be honest if they dont do much and knowing what she did no matter how long she has been working for the company and no action is made I will make a Call.
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
i always run away from trouble especially like in your case that she has the favor of tenure. i was once in your shoe and i know i'm still capable of finding another job so i quit the job because my supe is a total power tripper. i hope it'll also work for you. i really don't want to work in an environment that can't be flexed in everyones favor. God bless payout!!!
@payout (3722)
• United States
18 Apr 11
Hey Emochique, I dont want to leave my new job because I just got it and I love it plus the money is good just dealing with that Manager makes my job uncomfortable going to work because I dont want to fight or go at it. Plus not only that she makes up her own rules to power herself. I dont know if she is trying to make a point but your Title is your Title and your job is to fulfill your title not make up rules and then add policy to it in the end. Thank you I need all the Blessing I can get. Thank you a lot. Need all the blessing I can get.
@Shellyann36 (11273)
• United States
14 Apr 11
The most important thing for you to do is to remain calm and collected. I know it can be hard working with someone like that. It is better to have ONE WRONG than to have two! Always keep track of what is going on, I think someone suggested writing it all down that is a great idea. I would also speak with any co-workers that have witnessed the event. She should not have touched you in such a manner. I could understand if she had tapped you on the shoulder and signaled that you needed to move but physically pushing you out of the way is unacceptable. Tell her boss as soon as possible. Good luck!
@payout (3722)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Hey shellyann, Thank you for the advice I have been calm and I have been collecting all the informations and the not good stuff and I do notice the good things but she just notice the bad things and never the things that we do right. What she did was just unacceptable and i agree with you right now I have to see her Monday thru Friday and this week it's Monday thru Saturday and just thinking about it I know she is justgoingto continue
@erikmama (12929)
• United States
14 Apr 11
I guess it is something that yu would have to have been there tosee, just to know how it all went down. But I can understand what you are saying and how it would upset you. If it is a problem that has been going on and you do not feel like you can talk to her about it, then by all means I would say go for it. While she may be a managar that does not give her the right to be disrespectful to people and treat them any way that she wants to. And you do not deserve to have to go thruogh it with her everty day while yo are trying to work. Maybe you can talk to her about t first. Maybe she doesn't mean anything by it, maybe she is just stressed. Maybe she doesn't know how it is affecting you...Try to let her know, and if that doesn't work, go above her head. Best of luck!
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@payout (3722)
• United States
14 Apr 11
I would try to talk to her but. When I try to talk to her about her rules that she in force she always says well not on my clock because one time I was late for a minute got there at 9:01am and I was suppose to be there at 9:00am she was like your not late and I said all jobs give you a grace period and she said no... Not on my clock and... I just don't bother to continue because many times when I was try to express my opinion ot try to give some advice it's no no no no .. So I'm not going to bother to talk to her
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
14 Apr 11
I think you should hold tight with this until your big manager gets back from vacation. Just write down the dates and times of the incidents. Most banks have good security systems and they will probably be able to see just what happened. She has no business touching you.
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@payout (3722)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Hey Sid, Thank you for your advice.. I did I took notes and I even send them N email about the whole situation nd that I felt harassed by my manager and that I don't want feel comfortable her and I know she always has something to say always,
@neenie (344)
• United States
14 Apr 11
This is just wrong. No matter what you did (it didn't sound like anything serious), your manager should never put their hands on you. I'm glad you're doing what you should be doing and reported. Just try to keep your head in a moment like that and keep your cool. Sounds like you did just that :)
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@payout (3722)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Hey neenie, I know.. I am upset very upset about the situation and what she had done and I did keep my cool and I am happy that I didn't blank out and just spoken out I think that is what she wants. Which is sad because I am doing my job and she just doesn't like the way I am doing it. Thank you.. I will report this ASAP.
@rog0322 (2834)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
14 Apr 11
Hi pay, You did not specify the nature of your work but from the narrative, I surmised it must be a drive thru banking service of some sort. You have a floor manager that seem to run your operation like a platoon sergeant in the middle of a losing battle. That's bad for the morale. You may file a complaint, as you said, to the higher headquarters for appropriate actions.
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@payout (3722)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Hey Rog, I work at the Bank and I do the Drive thru and I also do the Lobby the floor and do transaction there as well. What you said couldn't be said any better lol. I will ask my friend if I can speak with the Regional on the same day as well because this is just getting out of hand and before you know it someone is going to snap.
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