If you know your child is ill, disabled or has a mental problem

@joystick (1680)
April 21, 2011 8:25am CST
of any age, would you let it out on its own in the street, not knowing where the child is or just thinking that it is either here or there.Well i can not even imagine what this mother is doing as her child has one of the above problems and the child is only 6 years old, the child seems to be let to roam about out side on its own and sometimes with other children that are from the same area, well she was on her own the other day when i saw her and there were a few people saying about this child the other day.This is a friend of mines child, she has already been warned and my other friend said this time she isnt saying anything, as she should learn the hard way, as she do not listen.What do you think i should do, as my friend said the only way she will learn is when her daughter is took away from her.
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15 responses
@celticeagle (118254)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Apr 11
It is sad to say but sometimes it takes awful things happening to people to open their eyes and make them understand the seriousness of a situation. Some people think they can do whatever and get away with it. A six year old child should be supervised anyway whether they have developemental or mental problems or not. This seems to happen alot now days. Some parents don't take an interest in their children.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 11
celticeagle can you imagine the trouble even a normal little six year old let to roam loose could get into? why my own child was six and playing in our front yard when a limousine drew up. I was looking out the window and was horrified when I saw this chauffeur get out and start to take my son by his hand.I was out here in a second and grabbing my child back from this dark skinned stranger. He informed me his mistress wanted to take my child and give him all her money could afford for him. I told him to get out of there while I called the police. I was shaking but my little son gave ne the license number on that limo. I called the police. Two officers came at once when I told them my son was almost kidnapped. seems this eccentric extremely wealthy woman wanted a son amd was going tp dp anything tp get one.she and her chauffeur were both arrested for attempted kidnapping. Now had I not been watching I would have had much heartache. so just think of a child all alone roaming unsupervised on the streets that makes my blood run cold..
@celticeagle (118254)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Apr 11
How scarey! Thanks for sharing. I lived in an apt complex where a little boy was taken like you said and they never found him. The poor mother had just gone inside for a moment to check what she was cooking and came back to find her child gone. I think we as mothers can become she-devils if the need arises.
@SangsTurks (1447)
• India
17 May 11
OMG, this is so not happening. It is so dangerous, does your friend love the child? Or does she want to get rid of the child? I know this question sounds so rude, but if you do care for sombody....you will look out for this person. You must be knowing your friend better and her life better than us and so i actually don;'t want to comment but i really can't help it either. Have you tried talking to your friend about the dangers of just leaving the child out on her own? talk and give her some brains!
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
24 Apr 11
i dont want to think that she wants to get rid of the child. taking care of mentally and physically challenged children is not really easy especially if there are other little children to take care of. but she is to be held responsible when something happens. it could be reported, too. by not saying anything or doing anything about the concerns of people around is a puzzle really. she has something in mind that she doesnt want anyone to know. i hope it is not as evil as i think.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
24 Apr 11
I think that it would really depend on the age of the child and also the extent of the child's diabilities. If I had a child that was severely disabled, I would never be able to let them go out and play with the other children the same way that I am able to let my children go outside and play with the neighbors. If they were moderately disabled, I would work with them on performing to their highest capacity and I would let them have some freedom, but I would still keep a more vigilant eye on them.
@aeiou78 (3457)
• Malaysia
23 Apr 11
There was a case in Singapore. A mother killed her disable or mentally handicap child and herself together. Her child needed a lot of personal care and she was having a lot of sickness due to her old age. She worried no one would take care of him once she passed away. Finally, both of them went together.
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 11
hi joystick I think you are saying this mom knowing her child has problems just lets her child roam around all day by his or herself? are you implying she does not really pay any attention to the poor little child? You know even children who are disabled or have mental problems still will try to make friends with other kids/ but if the mom is just letting the child go outside with no supervision at all she needs to have someone talk to her about her responsibility as a mother. If you have children's protecive services in your neighborhoos please call them to talk tol this neglegent mom.No children with health problems should just be turned loose to rujn wild.First please do talk to your friend about her respnsibilites .She must be made to take over as a mom. Tell her there are all sorts of places to help her wiht raising a child with health problems if she will just ask for some help. Maybe she is oeverwhelmed by her child's problems an needs some help to handle them, You are being really kind to the child itself if you do intervene and you are a wonderfully thoughtful neighbor too.
• Saint Lucia
22 Apr 11
Whether she is ill,disabled or has a mental problem,she is still human and needs to interact with others.The mother or guardian should not allow this child out on her own without supervision.The child isnt in prison but you have to consider others and also her welfare.I wouldnt let her out unless i was there because she is a bit different and usually other kids arent very receptive of that.And also considering the present situation in this world i wouldnt even let her too far from the house.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
22 Apr 11
I am a mother and my opinion is that six years of age is too young for the child to be wandering around the street unsupervised regardless of his or her mental condition. It is tough to know what to do in a situation like this. The important thing I guess is always the child’s welfare so it comes down to either keeping a watchful eye yourself or reporting the situation to Child Services.
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
22 Apr 11
Oh my! I think you're friend is just trying to release herself of the worries of thinking about her kid. It could be a good thing for her to not think about the daughter for some time. But its not good if the daughter is out all alone. Anythin could happen considering that she is some what ill.
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
these are special children which needs special care and attention. so.. no. i won't allow them to just roam about without me knowing where they are. it's not bad to let them feel and experience freedom but at least monitor them because they are SPECIAL.
• United States
21 Apr 11
Firstly my friend I have been blessed with two healthy children. However, if I had a child as you mentioned I would not treat them any differently then I do my healthy ones. I would however, make sure I was educated in the field so that I could find the proper way to educate my child. My hopes would be to assist my child in a way that perhaps he too can help himself. Depending on the handicap or illness I could not say if they can go outdoors on their own. Unless of course there was a way to educate my child to be able to do so.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
21 Apr 11
If I would be a mother of that kind of child, it would be tough to handle it and accept it, but I have to face it. I should be as protective as I can for my child and won't let him wander around without me or anyone more responsible enough to take care of him and understand his situation.
@tink91879 (746)
• United States
21 Apr 11
I use to live in a neghborhood where there was a little girl who was allowed to roam. She was very young she she was let loose too. She didnt have a mental disability, it was just the age factor. I called cps on someone before for child neglect and they didnt want to hear it. I was a third party as they call it. I had to get very irritated with them for them to go check it out. I knew calling cps on a free roaming child would do nothing. I have a friend who had neghbors and she would leave her children home alone, the oldest was 7 or 8. The cops would called and when they arrived said theres nothing to do. If you feel your child is old enough than there isnt a problem. Best you can do is just inform your friend of the dangers of letting a child roam free and doing what you can to keep an eye on the child when you see it.
@nsawork (28)
• India
21 Apr 11
yess that is not good at all that when the child needs your help you are not here and busy in your own world. also what i have come to know is that you need to be helping the child in each and every stage so that he is very happy with the outcomes of whatever the life has to offer to him.
@neenie (344)
• United States
21 Apr 11
I work with kids that have developmental disabilities. If you are not sure what this child has been diagnosed with, it's very hard to judge the mother. On the other hand, just the fact that the child is 6 years old is a red flag. That age is much too young to be by themselves. I don't know what kind of child services you have there, but you may want to report her. It may be hard to do, but you will feel horrible if something happens to this child.