Being a Loner or Having so many fake friends...

Philippines
April 28, 2011 3:55am CST
It's not something that is discussed every day though. People who are alone have tendency to be more outcast and anti-society and thinks people as a disease threatening and can't be trusted. i don't know but i have this tendency to be loner during the past times, but now am starting conversations with people again unlike the last time. I didn't feel like socializing anymore. had friends during my work days but i don't have them any more, even don't have them actively talking to me in facebook. took different paths again. There's another which is a person who has so many friends. one buddy of mine admitted to us that it's a sin also to have many friends for the purpose of having many contacts and not just for the sake of friendship. and he believes it's a sign of being in power too if you have connections. this is something i dont' have but my eldest brother told me i'd rather have acquaintances in line, then have real friends close.. but these days friends can change, or traitos or stab you in the back. So far my friends now are cool.that's all i can say about that. you can tell you're experiences.
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33 responses
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
29 Apr 11
I thought I might have had some friends over the years but it turns out that they were all fake. I would much rather be a loner than to deal with people like that.
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@bvdev234 (304)
• India
29 Apr 11
One hard fact (of life) is never ‘expect’! It’s easy to say, but (sometimes at least) we all Expects. I like to be a good friend to all, knowing most are fake. Some day they will understand the value of friendship – means the value of real friendship.
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• United States
29 Apr 11
I think I would chose being a loner because when having fake friends that means their really not your friend anyway and you will only set yourself up for heart aches and pain. I would rather be a loner because I may be all by myself but I don't have to worry about trusting someone who will stab me in the back.
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• Philippines
29 Apr 11
I am a loner. I hate people incessantly talks. I hate a busy crowd.I won't fit in a party.I would rather stay inside my room or house which i call my cave and listen to some good music or yes open my computer. But I have a few good friends, in fact they are only two, and I have them in my life for a very long time. I don't bond with them so much these days but we surely get in touch. I don't feel the need to have a new friend as a confidante.These two friends are enough for me.
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• Philippines
28 Apr 11
i meet lots of people from all walks of life and most of them are friendly but certainly not everyone i meet is a guaranteed friend. being in a friendship is the same as being in a relationship. relationships, just like friendship, need to grow as much as we nurture them. entering one for the wrong reason weakens the bind that hold people together. i've made lots of friends in this lifetime. but there's a small circle that i really hold close as they have been with me for years and years regardless of the distance or paths we have undertaken. i'd rather have a few great friends than lots of shallow ones. at times, i'd rather keep to myself and my own company than to be shallow in socializing to others. hehe [i]lk, i'm glad batman put on his shades that day and left the batcave... and joined superfriends and formed the justice league. lol lol lol i'm imagining there's batgirl and robin, wonderwoman, the incredibles etc lol and batman is so much friendlier after that. hehe[/i]
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• Mexico
28 Apr 11
Hi Letran Knight: In my case I have some difficulties finding friends. I just have a few friends. It's not that I see people a fake friends or that I always think in a negative way but it's just that is difficult for me to socialize in a higher way. I am too serious and I am a nerdy at the same time. I'm a little bit insecure. But I am glad to say that my friends are really good friends. I try my best to be more open. ALVARO
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• Philippines
28 Apr 11
it is an unpredictable world out there true friends are hard to come by but no man is an island we need the necessity of some "buddy" to socialize and even to trust within what is important I think is that we tried.
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
I'm a loner but I don't mind going to gatherings once in a while. Being a girl, I grew up restricted with extra-curricular activities. I wasn't allowed to commute so my life until high school was school-home, school-home. I had friends but when it came to parties and such, I wasn't able to attend. Sometimes, I feel a bit jealous of others who have really close friends and have lasting friendships. I do have friends from grade school until college that I sometimes meet or talk to but it's not the same as those who really meet often. I'd say I missed a lot and I didn't learn much social skills. At parties, I'll just shut up, be a wallflower, and talk when talked to. But then, I'd rather have a few true friends than a bunch of "friends" who don't really care. I'm off to my friend's house tomorrow and I'm excited. She's one of my few true friends. It's a feast and at the same time a party for her grandfather who's going abroad. I feel belongingness because I'm invited to such important family events. She also invited me last year for their house's blessing. It was still their old house only that it got lots of renovation. It just feels good to know there's at least one or two out there who're true to me even if I'm a loner.
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• Philippines
28 Apr 11
Oh, I forgot to add, one of my friends from gradeschool/high school wanted us to meet one time just even for snacks. I really miss her and we met during our reunion recently after about 6 years. I can't wait to meet her again, there's a lot of things to catch up on.
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• Philippines
29 May 11
Hello Enslin-Porter, I wasn't allowed to go out much either, which is something i truly missed. Got some few play friends when i was a kid. but all of them are married, settled and one that has passed away. there hasn't been the same every since that i have become a loner, but that's fine with me though. i enjoy it having such nice time being with myself. i do chat with some friends here.have a ncie day
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
hello LK, I have many friends online or offline life but i can say only few can be my TRUE FRIENDS i know in my heart they are my friends that's why when they stop interacting with me it hurts me really but i never get tired of tracking them and ask them what happened unfortunately some of them just want to leave me unanswered True friends are hard to find this is so darn TRUE How i wish one day i will get tired of chasing them so i will not hurt myself that much. I always love the crowd though i want to be alone sometimes happy mylotting
• Philippines
29 Apr 11
i know how much it affects you when you haven't heard from a friend for a long time. not everyone stays for a lifetime although we want to keep them for as long as we can. some friends are there for a certain season, and when that season passes... don't worry, a new friend will come along. hugs for you
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• Philippines
29 May 11
Hello Bhaby. Having real friends is rare most specially when we are tested through times. some people change through those years, and acts differ from what you used to know. it's rare because you wouldn't know what can influence them if they are far away from you or if they have other sets of friends that are more influenced to them. some changes due to success of their careers. but that's life of having friends, they come and go. don't worry i'd be staying here where i am used to stay with.have a nice day
• United States
28 Apr 11
Hello Letran I received an awakening last year with regards to the true meaning of friendships offline. It was then I realized my so many so called friends. I have since realized who truly is a true friend and who was not. It is not a good feeling to have experienced. I am thankful on the other hand though that I did come to understand this because it made me realize on how some can be true friend while the other can be construed as "fake". I will not consider my self a loner because I am way too outgoing however, there are times that the so called friends I just need to be away from.
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• Philippines
29 May 11
Hello hardworkinggurl, Some of them are not what we think they should be. but you know friends is about hanging out with different people and it doesn't have to be the same, with that how can we know that they are really friend. some times we can't afford to be a loner since we need to lighten up talking to other people.have a nice day
@iklananda (1204)
28 Apr 11
that's the problem i also experiencing the same things, I am a loner right now coz my friend seems like to be a dictator we must follow what they want so i don't like that. And i decided to look for a friend here in the internet. Coz we also get paid here, we don;t have to compete each other to proof we are great
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• Philippines
29 May 11
Hello Iklananda, I don't think he's consider a friend because he doesn't respect your views and use you like some sort of a slave or something. unfortunately, there are some people who prefer to compete just to be great and be challenged. i think we should expect mutual respect to each others view. have a nice day
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
29 Apr 11
For me not at all maybe if they are encounter to it.
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28 Apr 11
its so much better to be a loner thn to hv plastics n fake frnds around u...i have had a terrible experience related dis..it hurts so much whn u loose fake frnds bt dn again u will realise its so much better to be alone dn sharing ur feelings n thoughts n being betrayed all da time...be safe frm plastics ppl
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• Italy
28 Apr 11
i have few friend, but they are best fried
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• Argentina
28 Apr 11
I'd rather being a loner. I'm a very lonely person, I don't have contact with anyone except my mom and sister because they live with me, I work at home, so I don't have a place where to go to see and chat with people. And actually I don't care, I don't want to have friends just to have them. Always happened to me that all the friends that I had, those that I was almost everyday with them, never were really good friends. I never met a people with who can I talk about everything, who is always there when I need it, with who can I share my happiness or sadness, tell my secrets and dreams, etc. I believe like this should be a friend, and I never met a person like this, I could never talk with someone about things I had inside me. Sometimes I need to talk with somebody, take off all that I have in my mind, but if I can't find a person to talk about, I won't talk with anybody so I can always write my thoughts in somewhere. If I'm going to have a person as friend, should be like this, if is not like this, I don't care having any friend, do I really need them? I'm the only one who can understand me, my dreams, my thoughts, my tastes, nobody else, not yet, so I like being a loner instead of having around me people that I can't handle and makes me feel even worst. Being alone gives me time to think, cry, smile, plan my future, try to handle my problems and whatever, I have time for me, I enjoy this.
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@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
28 Apr 11
Hello there again, knight. I have few friends, real friends.But almost all of them are abroad so I do not have any friend with whom I interact here face to face. I also got lots of acquaintances, people I had known from previous jobs or just met during certain circumstances and situations. So technically I am alone but that doesn't make me a loner. The "alone but not lonely" best describes my situation. I'd rather be like this than befriending people I'm not interested to be my real friend just to build up my networks. What's the use? I'm not even sure that those people I have networked with will be of use to me sooner or even later. My friends, though, we are thousands of miles apart, make me happy and keep me company whenever I need real friendship and real interaction. I'm happy to say that I can be me with them and it is all that matters to me.
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@dragon54u (31605)
• United States
28 Apr 11
I have just a just of true friends and some acquaintances. It's good to have friends but rare to have true friends, people you can trust and who trust you, people you would do anything for and they'd do the same for you. I'd rather have one real friend than 100 acquaintances. I've never had more than 2 or three friends at a time, they are pretty rare but I treasure them more than anything I own.
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@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
2 May 11
You can not make yourself happy if alone,however with fake friends at least you will learn from their attitude to be extra careful in dealing with these kind of people and at least at the same time you can find laughters with them because in a group happy communications can be found.
• Philippines
3 May 11
I agree with you but still I would rather be a loner if you will ask me. Less complications and less mistakes. Dealing with the attitudes of a fake friends, is not cool for me.
• Philippines
8 May 11
just do not close your door in meeting new friends and for sure you will find somebody that can be trusted,not all people are the same. Do not let your first experience/s put you down.
@cadguy08 (1227)
• Canada
28 Apr 11
The True Friends is only your Family , You can't trust anymore friends as you are to be trusted. They have the tendency of fooling you and stabbing you at the back because of opportunity lies behind. I encountered so many times those situation. You need to choose the best friend you have and don't share anything that is confidential .
• Philippines
30 May 11
Hello cadguy, Unfortunately not every family can be a friend but still in my case, they can be very supportive of what I do.as for having a best friend i think i rarely have that and it doesn't last long i think. usually when friends are tested in during my experience, it's always ends up in failture. have a nice day
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
28 Apr 11
I ould rather be left ith ith the relatrionhiop of being a loner.. Fake friend ould not be friend oerth having after all.
• Philippines
29 May 11
Hello sender, It's really hard and it's not cool having friends whom you thought they are honest. to be honest, some just pretend to be true just to get what they want. i know some have shared there stories, and it's not looking good at all. some people simply have personality problems or experience that led them to change. be careful getting to know people. have a nice day
8 Oct 13
Sometimes I have the same feeling as you do, it is hard to find true friends after graduation, the co-workers are not always help you back even though you help them. If they not set you up, that is fine. I think, coz we are competitors, if I win, then they lose. I always miss and want to go back to old times, that was happy time.