why does love hurt so bad

Kenya
June 2, 2011 9:28am CST
Its unfortunate that i fell in love with this man who meant the whole world to me.honestly the years we spent together were the best years of my life,i was hopelessly in love with him but like they say all good things come to an end.we broke up eventually and all i was left with were memories,pain and of course my son.i cant even explain the pain i feel whenever i am alone,most of the nights i cry myself to sleep but i can never let in anyone on my pain so i mask it with a smile.to top it all my son looks so much like him.someone once told me that one never really falls out of love and i guess im hurting coz im still in love with him.
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14 responses
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
Hi leegumz! I got this saying somewhere, "What makes us suffer is not because love has ended but because it still continues". I think this is so right for people who are brokenhearted after breaking up with their loved ones because love doesn't go away so easily. It remains for some time and it's the reason when still get hurt when we are reminded of the person we love. I don't think it was unfortunate for you to have loved him because you have a son. He's the fruit of your love. You should consider yourself to be lucky because you have a son. Other women has to strive so hard just to have children. And if your son reminds you of your love, then it just means that your love for him was true. You should be happy you were able to love like that. Cheers.
@amyson (3509)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
it hurt so bad when you know tour partner lies to you and only use you for his own advantages. it may be sad to know the truth and it hurt the most. but is better to know the truth than living on a life of lies. i do hope you could accept the truth at least you are free to love your self and wish you could find another partner who would give you more tender, love and care. love hurt but as time passes by you could heal too.
@gvenrose (30)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
i know it is to lose someone who love so much. I have been there and yes, i also left with one son. Time flies and before you know it you've already move on and will eventually wish to find the real man that will truly love you until the end.
@gamma9967 (607)
• India
3 Jun 11
ya it hurts a lot when you love someone and do not get the love in return ,it hurts because you expect that the person in love will never hurt you but when the person does our heart breaks and we cannot forget that person because we used to love him.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
3 Jun 11
Hi Leegumz, True love is real wonder on earth. And no other thing will hurt so bad with memories, feelings and thoughts. And the medicine to it can the love with him back. Its better to adjust him than to suffer the pain in love. Dont hurt yourself!
@insulin (2483)
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
Your hurt because yes you still love him and until the pain is there,then if means you still have feelings for him.Love is always painful as if we don't feel hurt,it means we don't love that person and we don't care.Sometimes if things is not really working like how it should be,we need to let go and open our hearts in to new opportunities or maybe there's someone better to love.It's a risk but in the end,when you find the right person,you will say it's best of all the best.
• Philippines
3 Jun 11
love doesn't really hurt. it's the best feeling in the world. what causes pain is the actions the person we love does. we're kind of in the same situation. my ex and i had a baby, and she looks so much like him. i gave him the world, and it sucks that he's so immature, so irresponsible and he cheated on me. but life goes on. and even if it's difficult to believe right now, i know that there's someone out there who's better than him. i know that i will be truly happy one day with someone. i know that you will be, too. let's just be strong for our children. let's focus on them.
@Donee06 (16)
• United States
2 Jun 11
omg i know exactly what u are going through.. this recently happened to me.. its been a week in a half now since my relationship end. i have a 9 month old son out of this relationship. i've been beating myself up about the situation but i came to realize that it's his lost. i gave this man 3 in a half years of my life and it seem like it doesnt effect him at all.. i had to bring myself to reality and i realized that i did my part in the relationship.. he was the one who didnt appreciate it. so with that said honey just keep ur head up and continue to take care of ur son.. sometimes things we thought were right are not.. and things that we try so hard to hold on to God maybe trying to break apart.. dont beat urself up about it.. if u know that u didnt everything u could then just let it be.. there is nothing wrong with memories and one day a man will come along who will appreciate u for who u are..and honey as far as ur son looking like his dad.. omg my baby looks like my ex gave birth to him.. he has none of my features.
@jmana02 (57)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Love is a wonderful gift from GOD. It make us happy and it make our relationship to others closer. If we fall in love with a person, we accept the person as a whole. His or her good and bad qualities. That is why when you find out that the one you love is cheating on you, it really hurts so bad. Personally, I have already experience it with my first girlfriend, it really hurts because she a liar. She made me as a third party with his boyfriend then she made me believe that Im the only one in her life. She fools me.
@krazysky (17)
• Malaysia
2 Jun 11
time will cast everything away =)
@krazysky (17)
• Malaysia
2 Jun 11
time will case everything away =)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Love actually doesn't hurt... BUT loving someone who doesn't love you back does,or the lies, or the broken trust and promises... Just be strong for your son, and in time, you will heal and find someone who will be worthy of your love, who will cherish you and never leave you...
• United States
2 Jun 11
Your going to be fine in time. The more you think about him the worse it will be. Is he stressing out like you are. I know about sitting and crying as I did it many times. I say it over and over again it is true you will get over it soon.
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
Loving someone unconditionally is the greatest risk that we give out whenever we fall in love - out heart. It's sad to know when love is lost, but I hope you'll find healing soon. I know it must have been something really horrible, that is why you try to mask it. I do feel that love is unfair, but I can't help but fall in love. I hope you would find peace and I hope someday the love you have given would be given back to you. You take care of yourself and your son. I hope someday you would find him again and that time both would be ready to reunite. You have a great MyLot experience!