Being roped in as an accomplice to a lie.
By megamatt
@megamatt (14292)
United States
June 5, 2011 12:40pm CST
Don't you hate it when people do this? Often times, its very easy to see what other people are trying to do and obviously, its time to back away. A lot of the time, it may appear as if they may or may not be lying. Still since I don't know the full story, so I don't want anything to do with either side. Its their dispute. It is rather disheartening when people feel not only they need to ride, but they try and slowly pull other parties into the lie and just make a bigger mess of everything.
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3 responses
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
6 Jun 11
Normally, you'd know if you're being roped in, as you said. I know the feeling and the experience you're trying to describe and most of the time you'll be aware of it. I guess the most logical thing to do is back off from it, that is if you really don't wanna do anything about it.
Don't even bother to hear the story from all sides, just back off. Taking the time to listen will only make you seem interested.
Don't even bother to hear the story from all sides, just back off. Taking the time to listen will only make you seem interested.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
I don't think a polite brush off is necessary. It's just right to just evade the whole situation.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
7 Jun 11
Yes, I do agree, its very transparent about nine times out of ten. People tend to give you that guilt trip and if you give them the opening to try to talk you into something, they will attempt to really talk you into something that is not going to be in your best interests. Give them an inch and they will take anything. The best practice is to give them a polite brush off and tell them that this is something that you are not really going to really be in your best interest. Before they really start trying to tell their story.
Yeah giving them a chance to tell the story, that is just asking a disaster. And giving them the smallest opportunity, it is really going to be something that they are going to take advantage of. The least you know about the situation the better. Often times, it has little to do with you and the other people are going to have to deal with it themselves. So best to avoid the situation to limit the amount of headaches. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
7 Jun 11
That is well said indeed. I mean, I am trying to keep out of the business of other people. That is really something that they are going to have to deal with themselves. Not something that they should really bring other people into. Other people just complicate the issue. As I said, if someone is going to tell a lie, the more people that are brought in, the more insane it is going to be. There is nothing worse than a lot of people who are going to get caught in the crossfire, and as a result, you just get one big and rather insane mess.
Therefore in the end, just be truthful and really mostly everything will work out for the best. At least in an ideal world, but that is really what we don't live to, a lot of the time. Therefore, we are going to really need to be mindful. If we can't handle something, then its not fair to drag other people into it. Especially when it is a lie and it is really something that people are really should not being dragged into. Then again, that is just really something that I think. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
5 Jun 11
I've had people try and rope me into their lies like that. I can't, and won't do it for them. While it's hard to remain neutral sometimes, it's not impossible. I just always say 'sorry, I won't get into the middle of this.' Like you, I hate it, and I even hate the fact that they would even think that I would lie for them. My family laughs because I call it 'the pickle in the middle syndrome', and they know I won't get drawn into others drama or lies just to keep the peace. No one knows the full story except the two people who are going through 'whatever.' And even then, sometimes anger itself makes them lose perspective and the real problem at hand.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Yeah, its their own burden to bear. If they cannot handle telling a lie, they should really tell the truth. Well technically its not a good idea to lie in the first place. However, there is really no reason to lie. It is really just going to lead to nothing but trouble. Then again, when you really start roping in other people, in an attempt to be your accomplice, isn't that a sign that your lie is getting just a tiny bit out of control? That is just the impression that I have had with this situation. Its their situation to deal with. Thanks for responding. Its appreciated. Have a nice day.
