The art of giving
June 7, 2011 6:06am CST
Friends, [b]please read this lengthy post from beginning till end, I am sure you will like it. Next add your views, thoughts.[/b] Remember always that, “Rivers do not drink their own water, nor do tree eat their own fruit, nor do rain clouds eat the grains reared by them. The wealth of the noble is used solely for the benefit of others”. Even after accepting that giving is good and that one must learn to give, several questions need to be answered. The first question is when should one give? Take this story from the Mahabharata. Yudhisthir, asks a beggar seeking alms to come the next day. On this, his brother Bhim rejoices, that Yudhisthir has conquered death? As if he is sure that he will be around tomorrow to give. One does not know really whether one will be there tomorrow to give. So the time to give therefore is now. The next question is how much to give. Let us recall the famous incident from history. Rana Pratap was reeling after defeat from the Moghals. He had lost his army, he had lost his wealth, and most important he had lost hope, his will to fight. At that time in his darkest hour, his erstwhile minister Bhamasha came seeking him and placed his entire fortune at the disposal of Rana Pratap. With this, Rana Pratap raised an army and lived to fight another day. So the answer to this question how much to give is "Give as much as you can. The next question is what to give. It is not only money that can be given. It could be a flower or even a smile. It is not how much one gives but how one gives that really matters. When you give a smile to a stranger that may be the only good thing received by him in days and weeks. You can give anything but you must give with your heart. Now we need answer to this question whom to give? Many times we avoid giving by finding fault with the person who is seeking. However, being judgmental and rejecting a person on the presumption that he may not be the most deserving is not justified. So friends, give without being judgmental. Next we have to answer, ‘How to give ‘? Coming to the manner of giving, one has to ensure that the receiver does not feel humiliated, nor does the giver feel proud by giving. While giving follow the advice, ’Let not your left hand know what your right hand gives? Charity without publicity and fanfare is the highest form of charity. So always, give quietly. While giving let not the recipient feel small or humiliated. I always say, what we give never really belonged to us. We come to this world with nothing and will go with nothing. The thing gifted was only with us for a temporary period. Why then take pride in giving away something which really did not belong to us? Give with grace and with a feeling of gratitude. When you help someone in need, give it before he asks for it; for if you place him under the necessity of stretching out his hand, you take away from him his self-respect which is worth more than the value of your alms. Now, what should one feel after giving? We all know the story of Eklavya. When Dronacharya asked him for his right thumb as "Guru Dakshina", he unhesitatingly cut off the thumb and gave it to Dronacharya. There is a little known sequel to this story. Eklavya was asked whether he ever regretted the act of giving away his thumb. He replied, and the reply has to be believed to be true, as it was asked to him when he was dying. His reply was "Yes! I regretted this only once in my life. It was when Pandavas were coming in to kill Dronacharya who was broken hearted on the false news of death of his son Ashwathama and had stopped fighting. It was then that I regretted the loss of my thumb. If the thumb was there, no one could have dared hurt my Guru. Mylot friends, “The message to us is clear, give and never regret giving” The last question is, “How much should we provide for our heirs”? The answer is given by Warren Buffett, "Leave your kids enough to do anything, but not enough to do nothing. So let us learn the Art of Giving, and quoting Saint Kabir, “When the wealth in the house increases, when water fills a boat, Throw them out with both hands"Please respond, add your thoughts, tips and share your views. Thanks in advance. Professor ‘*Bhuwan*’. . Cheers have a lucky day ahead.
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7 Jun 11
dear dada, I am amazed the way you wrote this topic. I want to respond according to what i believed and what i understand. One does not know really whether one will be there tomorrow to give same with the famous saying "never put off tomorrow what you can do today for we never knew if tomorrow ever comes" My mentor taught me to take all the chance that i can help someone in my capacity and ability. One reason why a person or even a stranger asks help from us,because GOD directed those people to us,and that GOD knows and also believed that helping/providing is in our hands. And GOD is righteous enough not to forget us for our good deeds. Let not your left hand know what your right hand gives? this is also written in the Holy Bible and can be read in verse [b]Matthew 6:3 "But when thou doest alms,let not thy left hand know what thy right hand doeth"[/b] “The message to us is clear, give and never regret giving" Indeed, this is also written in the Holy Bible [b]2 Corinthians 9:7 " Every man according as he purposeth in his heart,so let him give;not grudgingly ,or of necessity:for God loveth a cheerful giver"[/b] I am so happy to know all these dada...we have same views,same faith and beliefs,now i know why you told me that " i have connections with you in the past life" hugs to you dada,maa and shubee
12 Jun 11
Jai beta All religions are basically same, teaching is same, and i honor all religions. Unless we have connections in the past life, we will never meet.We met at right moment. God has set the track, we have to follow, we can never deviate. Thank you so much for the beautiful response, it is the BEST Enjoy life to fullest. Hugs from Dada Professor ‘*^Bhuwan^*’. .
13 Jun 11
hello dada, Whatever is that connection..i am happy to have known you even thru the net. I am happy to have known you and for calling me daughter,it's gives so much happiness in my heart-having a family out there. Hugs to you ,maa and shubee and all those Blessings...thanks a lot dada
10 Jun 11
Some time ago to still be about 2-3 years, an extraordinary man finished his earthly race. He left behind a confused wife, a woman who probably did nothing without the one who was with at least forty years. I chose a picture of my computer with them two. I put it in a frame and I offered it. Cobwebbed eyes staring at me, I jumped in the neck, kissed me and thanked me as if I would have facilitated a secret meeting. Later, a dear friend told me how he saw her kissing that picture as a holy icon. Today, a troubled pleasant phone conversation we had, in a special environment. The daughter of a friend just a new year and some months, was taken by ambulance to hospital. In 15 minutes and we were there. For me it was not a big deal ... To her it meant a lot. I say this because the message that I got my heart warmed. I quote: "Thank you much for your loving care. I would be grateful." Giving to the selflessness has its own rewards. And I mean absolutely no way to reward such material.
• United States
9 Jun 11
I don't do alot of giving. Money is darn tight I am my best charity and I am more important then giving it to any other charity! I have donated clothes to charity. I'm not sure where I am going with this! Charity can be a touchy subject for me! So many people get charity they don't deserve or are not thankful for! How can you know where the donated money is going to? Donating clothes really get donated to people that need them? So many questions! So many many unanswered questions!
8 Jun 11
hello professor, there is happiness in the art of giving, something so unique. you will feel within yourself the contentment and peace of being able to make someone happy too and it is very true that charity unannounced will be more appreciated because the receiving end will know that it is truly and heartily given and not just a publicity stunt. have a very nice day. Bless you, ann
• United States
8 Jun 11
Dear Professor "The art of giving " to me always translates in give and we shall receive. To me it significantly reminds me that we should always give with absolutely no expectations. Later at some point in life we are blessed. Though the blessing may not be equally materialistic, the mere fact that we are alive and blessed is reciprocated payment. This discussion is quite lovely and does remind me of why we should always give in good faith.
7 Jun 11
Hi Professor, I feel that I have learned much from your post, thank you for sharing this here. There is always much that we can learn from each other and you've given us much food for thought. Unfortunately I'm not familiar with the works that you quote but it is easy to recognize wisdom whatever the source. Blessings.
7 Jun 11
The message to us is clear. Give and never regret giving! And the last question is How much should we provide for our heirs? Ask yourself 'are we taking away from them the gift of work'? - A source of happiness! The answer is given by Warren Buffett: "Leave your kids enough to do anything, but not enough to do nothing!” I would conclude by saying: let us learn the Art of Giving, and quoting Saint Kabir: "When the wealth in the house increases, when water fills a boat, Throw them out with both hands " True - but many of us hesitate to give fearing that we may not have something left for us when we need. this is because we do not know how long and in which physical capacity we will be living. I agree we should give more than what we take from the society to its members. have an excellent day.