I value being treated with kindness more than I value money.

@cream97 (29169)
United States
June 7, 2011 7:49am CST
I had to stop helping this woman out. She was treating me so cruelly. She was giving me money every month. I no longer want to accept any more money that she has given to me because she has been rude to me too many times. So, I had to make a decision last week, I had to decide what is more important. The money that I was receiving or the way that this woman was treating me. It was a hard decision to make, but I finally made it. I have decided to turn down the money because, this woman was being unkind to me. I don't want to accept any money from someone that has been nasty to me. I knew deep down inside of my heart and mind that I could use this money every month and it has came in handy for me too. I just can't take any money from a woman that is rude, nasty, and hateful. So, being treated with kindness, is so much more important to me then receiving money from this woman. This woman must have felt like, since she was giving me money that she had the right to just be mean and ugly to me whenever she felt like it. Well, I have proven this to her last week, when I refused to open my front door when she came by to my home.
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@lajonez (478)
• Poland
11 Jun 11
I'm not surprised all people want to be respected when they deserve on this. Of course money are important but it's more important to feel good.
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• United States
10 Jun 11
Good for you! I think you made the right decision. I had one doing same to me last year when I was unemployed. It is almost like he figured I had no choice but to accept his money and his mean, controlling, hateful behavior. He was in for a rude awakening! And this was a family member, for crying out loud.
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@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
10 Jun 11
Hi! I wonder why there are so many such person in the world that will give other people money just to pretend to be a kind person. If I were you, I will definitely not to accept her money since she is someone not from my family and how can a person accept someone money without any reason. It is really nice to spend someone money when someone is willing to give, but you must remember, there are nothing is free in this world. Whatever she give, she will definitely want something in exchange. I have an aunt who used to support me when I was in the University, at that point of time, I thought to accept her help is fine, but actually it is not really as good as what I though, now she sometime will ask me for a huge sum of money whenever she likes, and if I am not able to give her the money, she will tell everyone that I do not want to help her. So, I believe when someone giving you money, the motive always will not be as simple as you think.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
9 Jun 11
Amen to that. I am so sick of being treated with direspect from people. I would rather they just stay the heck away from me.
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• United States
9 Jun 11
Wise decision cream because had you accepted the money this would have given her the okay to continue to treat you rudely. There is no dollar sign anyone can place upon being treated kindly. So I feel you made the right decision in turning her away.
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@celticeagle (118231)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Jun 11
I have to agree with you. I would appreciate being treating with kindness more than I value money also. People who are rude are not ones I want to deal with. I wouldn't deal with her anymore and wouldn't be around her. I would probably email her or write her a note telling her you don't want to deal with her anymore and the detailed reasons why.
8 Jun 11
Good for you! You did the right thing. That woman and her money was bad energy, that you don't want in your life! We shouldn't have to put up with being abused by anyone, whether they are paying us or not! Don't worry about the money, Cream. There is something good waiting round the corner for you! Blessings
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
hello cream, You are right,she think she has all the rights to treat you that way because she is giving you money. You also did the right thing,respect is important than money. Show her the way she treated you and hope she will realized how rude she is. have a good day my friend
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@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
For me you did the right decision because it's much better not to receive the money for you to be freed from insults and for you not to be hurt again by the woman whom you are talking about. What's good in receiving money if you're always hurt, if you are mistreated by someone? Nothing good will it cause you only it will cause you to be resentful and angry and of course it will not help you as a person, it will surely make you bad.
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@marie2052 (3697)
• United States
8 Jun 11
Money can certainly make you find out who is your real friends. I had a neighbor 2 of them. They vied for my attention. Not really...they knew I had a car and could take them anywhere. If I was going to a certain place and knew one of them might need to go I would ask them. Well to make a long story short, all my conversations were going in a round circle. The first neighbor is very elderly, and I respected her and treated her like my mother. The second is from another country about my age. While I had different conversations with each of them, all of a sudden it come to me that they both knew everything I had said to the other one. The elderly neighbor I never let pay for anything out of respect for her age. The other neighbor was a treat for me to have go somewhere being closer to my age and I enjoyed the company. But one day, I hear from my elderly neighbor that all the younger neighbor was doing was use my friendship for the car. Then the younger had something to say that day about the elderly neighbor. When I realized I was being used, I bowed out and am no longer friends with either of them. I don't like the triangle of involvements so I now go out by myself and if I meet someone while out I speak to them for a few minutes and go about my way. I refuse to get caught up over trivial stuff anymore. Its detrimental to your health! And life is short so I am gonna be happy in whatever I do!!! Good Luck to you too!
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Yeah, there are people who really thought that because they have money to pay they can do everything they want.It should be the other way around since you are helping them, they should be grateful.Ok maybe you have an agreement that she will pay you for your help in return,but that doesn't mean she could treat you what ever she likes to do. You did the right thing my friend, I hope someday she would realize that sometimes being treated kindly is more than enough than money.She should at least thank you for what you have done for her.
@SIMPLYD (79623)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Good decision. Money is nothing if you are treated like dirt. That woman seemed to think that you are enslaved to her, just because she's giving you money. Am sorry, but can you please explain why is she giving you money? What is her relation to your family?
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
7 Jun 11
Being treated kindly is alot more important than money. It means more. I would do anything in the world for someone that treated me well...but there is no amount of money that would have me be around someone that was mean to me.
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@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 11
Your decision is correct. If she giving you the money and used it as the point to treat you badly then stop receiving money from her. The more you indebted the worst the women will treat you. They think that they are the one who give the money so they can do whatever they want. No that's wrong. Money can't buy our pride and dignity. There should be humanitarian in treating others.
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
7 Jun 11
There is something to be said in how we are treated and viewed by the world. no amount of money can replace that feeling we get when we are made to feel worthy and respected.
@lila0812 (54)
• Indonesia
8 Jun 11
You are right! It's good because she could see your dignity. But, in my opinion, your action not to open your front door when that woman came is too childish. Why don't you just be frankly to her that you don't like her attitude? Just communicate your feeling, hopefully she will understand although maybe it takes time. Thanks.
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
7 Jun 11
I still don't get it with the words rude, nasty, etc. Did You get money from Her by become Her slaves?