Could-a, would-a, should-a!
By bounce58
@bounce58 (17387)
Canada
June 16, 2011 11:42am CST
Don't you just sometimes feel like you let some opportunities in life slip?! That if you did something differently, it might have gone better?
I know that we don't have complete control on the things that happen around us, but still you can't help feel that it is unfair sometimes. That great opportunities were there in front of you, ripe for the taking, yet somehow you blinked and missed it completety.
This is just a rant. I'm sure you all can relate.
How do you reconcile with yourself?
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8 responses
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
17 Jun 11
It can be tough when you look at them like that. Sometimes it is better to look at the things you would not have had if you had done a certain thing or taken an opportunity.
I think that I try to focus more on gains than I do the losses. I could spend my whole life wondering what if and miss out on the here and now.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Jun 11
Maybe it is because I'm in a happy place. And I can see that ever blunder has sent me through the fire to get here that I don't regret the mistakes, the missteps, the misinterpretations. I said no or made a huge mistake because I wasn't ready to take that step. I was just thinking today about having a job about to be offered but I said no. I wasn't ready. Last year I messed up an interview but I think the job wasn't For me.I wasn't ready. But I don't regret it.Right now I have almost everything I Want. And even if I lose it tomorrow at least I had a chance to say I had a job I was damn good at, a man who loved me truly, and wonderful friends like you and , forgive me for this, i did get to see The Wings win three times. life is good!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
20 Jun 11
Me too. I haven't seen Sports Center since game 7! You should "sit Shiva", a Jewish expression for grieving. They were so close! But don't wallow Too long. Here is a hug. 
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Jun 11
Hi Sarah.
When I posted this discussion, I was actually thinking of last week's devastating loss. And what the guys must be feeling...could-a, would-a, should-a!
I have not lost hope, I still think I could still see it in my life time. But in the meantime, I'm just wallowing in my grief, and staying away from anything related to it (until pre-season at least!
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Jun 11
yeah, I will never forgive myself for introducing Demi Moore to Bruce Willis... 
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
16 Jun 11
I just try not to think about it.. otherwise I get too upset. I have enough things in life to worry about.. I don't need to get myself worried about things in the past I no longer have control over.
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
18 Jun 11
Dwelling in past mistakes will make us miss current opportunities in life. Living in the now is the best way to take full advantage of life.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
17 Jun 11
Hey my dear "bro"! Since we are "sibs" you should already know my response!lol
I don't think anyone has more could-a. would-a, should-a's then me! Everything
I have done in my life seems to have been wrong (say's "Mommie Dearest"). I
wouldn't even know where to start the chain of events to fix all the mistakes
I've made and still continue to make even now! And my 81 year old mother enjoys
pointing them out to me every chance she gets! Life sucks when you phuck it up
from the beginning~If I could "do it all over again", I'm not sure I would get
it right anyway~Love, your sista
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Jun 11
I think you got it tough sis!
It's hard enough to realize all the mistakes you made in your life, it's even harder if you have somebody regularly pointing out to you.
Thank goodness I live far away from my parents!
Like you though, I'm also not sure if I get it right if I get a do-over.
Take care sis!
Thank goodness I live far away from my parents!
Like you though, I'm also not sure if I get it right if I get a do-over.
Take care sis!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
16 Jun 11
The "Could-a, would-a, should-a!" Well I didn't, lol..
At best I do try to re-evaluate and see where did I miss and or lack the eye catcher. Perhaps I didn't miss out on the catching part, but at least I do feel satisfied that it was not out of lack of trying and or persisting.
There are times it was as if I was completely asleep, all I can do is, oh well it and try and pay attention next time. lol
So as long as I don't stay in a rut over past things in life I guess progress and further opportunities will come forth, I just have to be wishful and continue persisting.
@kaye1989 (47)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
yes i also have the same feelings sometimes, after thinking of the good and better opportunities that just slip from my hands, well i always answer my self that maybe everything that is happening in my life has a reason, and god has a purpose on doing that,.maybe he want's to teach us lessons and or give us much better opportunities,. for me i got my best reward because i got my daughter..thank god..:)
