Responsibility

Canada
June 22, 2011 7:22pm CST
Should anyone be held responsible for their parents?
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10 responses
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
23 Jun 11
Yes, from my opinion we should always taking care of our parents no matter how old are them. I loves both my parents very much and always buy their favorite food, whenever i go to visit them. It is because now i am staying far away from my parents. I think we should always be grateful to our parents since they had been taking care us since from birth until we are able to stand by our own feet.
@rakittera (803)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
I have great parents. I grew up without having a doubt that they loved me. They took care of me and loved me the best that they could. They did not hold me responsible for taking care of them when they grow old. They never implied that I should do that. But I would love to do that. I would love to take care of the people who sacrificed so much to raise me and send me to school. I would love to take care of them until their last breath. It should not be an effort to show gratitude to our parents because their sacrifices and hardwork for us is immeasurable. I live in a country where parents assume that when they grow old, their children will take care of them. It is our culture to take care of the elders and not put them in a home to be taken care for by other people. My parents never required me to follow this tradition, but in my mind, I know I would. Not because I am compelled to do so, but because I am willing to do so. I love my parents and I would like to show them that love by taking care of them like they took care of me.
@dodo19 (33037)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
23 Jun 11
I don't really feel that children should be held responsible for their parents, and the actions that their parents commit. What your parents do should really be reflected onto the child per se, considering that you aren't necessarily your parents, and such. Sure, if your parents need some help, I do think that it would be nice to help out, but I think is understandable. If your parents commit a crime, well, that's a whole different story. I don't think that you should be responsible for the crime that your parents commit.
1 person likes this
• United States
23 Jun 11
It depends. You really need to be more specific in your discussion criteria. If you mean that children should be responsible for their parents' actions, then no, I don't think so because the parents chose to make that decision of their own volition. However, if you mean that parents should be held responsible for the actions of their children, it varies by circumstance. If a young child is committing a minor faux pas such as behaving like a brat and the parents do nothing to correct it, then yes. If the child is acting of their own volition to do harm to another person, then it depends if the parents actually tried to raise their child right or didn't care. If it's the second one, then the parents hold some degree of responsibility, but not enough to be (or deserve to be unless they were physically abusive) tried in a court of law. If it's not a matter of actions and consequences, and you simply ask whether children should care for their parents as their parents age, then I would say yes, to a certain degree. If the parents are self-sufficient and have a decent retirement and relatively good health, then the children should be responsible for respecting and visiting their parents often. If the parents are in need of financial assistance, then the children should try to help as much as they can. Parents do a lot of work to raise a child, so I consider it a matter of good manners to repay the favors our parents have done for us ever since we were children with respectful assistance.
@scaflone8 (191)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
Parents are responsible for their children but their children should not bear the responsibility for their parents. For me it's your decision whether or not you take care of your parents when they are older it depends on you on how you want to show your love for them in return. I believe that what we do in life and how we respond to our parents is a reflection of how they love us. No one will tell you that you should take care of your parents when they are older but the question is would you abandon then when you need you the most? I live with my mother and she is sick and father just passed away and my siblings are on other countries working. I cook, wash and clean the house for her and I'm not doing it because it is my responsibility, I'm doing it because I love her and they raised me well.
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
No, It's the other way around.Parents should be responsible for the upbringing of their children.As parents we should provide everything for our children's needs. But as a child it's natural for children to help their parents if they needed us too.
@Amanda81587 (3046)
• United States
23 Jun 11
No I believe that they do not need to be held responsible for their parents. There parents are adults and should know better. We are responsible for our children because they are still young and need to be raised. But there is no excuse for an adult. That is when you become responsible for your own actions.
• Netherlands
23 Jun 11
I you mean that when they are old.. It depends where they good for you? Did they give you a good life, in the best way that they could and with the possibilities they had. Did they treat you with respect and dignity? Without abusive or other negative behaviour? If your answer is yes to most question, then you are responsible for their welbeing. And you should in the best way you can and within your possibilities take that responsibility. If the answer is no. for example you got abused or neglected, then you should at least make sure someone else takes responsibility and then you did your job. if your question is about are you responsible for the behaviour of your parents (they are criminals / murderers or something) then no. They are adults they make their own decisions and you have no influence on that, therefore you should not be held responsible!
• United States
23 Jun 11
I don't think so. Parents should be held responsible for their children, not the opposite. Say if I had a mother who killed someone, and I had the a million people who hated me for it, it wouldn't be right because I can't control what my mother did (this is an example, I don't really have a murder for a mother by the way). It's wrong to hate someone who had nothing to do with it except be related to them.
@Angelee_27 (3473)
• United States
23 Jun 11
Hi granite_butterfly, I really wish you would have added a bit more detail and explanation to you discussion. Maybe even some examples. :-) In general though, no, nobody should be held responsible for their parents. Parents should be held responsible for their children. If you mean once the parents get older and can no longer take care of themselves... it is respectful to take care of them, or at least put them in a could elderly home, seeing as they took care of you and raised you.