Getting distance from my old friends

United States
June 24, 2011 4:43am CST
I felt like that I am getting a distance from my old friends, college friends, and the former companion from my work. Maybe we are all busy at the moment respectively, and we just don't have much time to communicate with each other. We might post one or two message on facebook whenever we had time. Yesterday, my old college pal called me up, and I probably was online and didn't get the call. But I didn't bother to call back either, because it was too late. I felt like we are getting apart, not like before. We all have to make a living, and life is tough.
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14 responses
• India
24 Jun 11
i can understand how u feel. I think that every relationship has its phase when the peak phase passed away the charm goes down. This may be because after some time other things gets more time and importance in our life. As you said that now you are busy in work and other things. But try your best to get in touch with those friends because it give you so much pleasure and you find yourself more fresh and cheerful.
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24 Jun 11
I may not have as many friends now as I used to have in the past but the ones than continue to hang on have been around in my life for 50+ years! Now that is what I call true friendship!
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
14 Aug 11
hi, thats true,because we are busy especially to our full time work,we feel that we gradually distance to our friends,even me,sometimes i didn't go when they have a mini reunion,or something occasion like birthday or christening of their child.but sometimes i try to go and attend even in a short time only.
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
29 Jun 11
Friend dont worry everybody faced this situation because nobody can live whole life with you other than your family. After leaving school our friends can meet in college life but after leaving college life rare friends can meet with us. No not life is tough books is a good friend. Read books and forget all friends.
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
26 Jun 11
Exactly. I do not have a whole lot of time to play around with either. My husband and i both work seven days a week as it is. Then there is always housework and yardwork to do. There is never enough time or the energy to visit.
@smithi (2)
• India
25 Jun 11
Hey i know exactly how you feel..in fact most of us do..cause we undergo the same feeling at some moment or the other.. I guess it happens..the best is to meet up once in a while..like a get to gether atleast once in two months...tat will gather ppl together and it'll be a very emotional moment as you share your memories..your work experiences..and evrything :) Possily it's not tat easy to stay in touch always. but definately meeting up like this will help the bondage grwo stronger for longer :) My best wishes .
@sjvg1976 (13904)
• Delhi, India
25 Jun 11
Hello kingparker, I also feels the same as you are. In todays fast life people don't get time to talk to their friends as they remain busy in their lives. But in my opinion this is not the right way to live. There are social things behind your work that you should perform. But to say this is very easy and to do it is very tough as we always have the habit of forgetting the old things & get along with the present. I also have the same habit i remember its been long time back i talked to my college & school friends as they called me 2~3 times in the past but when i did not call them in return they stopped calling me as i can understand it but then still i also falls in the category of yours where it has come in my habit not to remain in touch with friends due to work loads which i am trying hard to change.
24 Jun 11
well... unfortunatly this happens often ... why?? well i think old friends have differnt ocupations, they get married, change town. you don`t have to feel bad if you didn`t answer the phone when your pal called you as long as you do it the next day or so... even a friendship needs some work so you just have to decide how many efforts and time you whant to invest.. but remember, loneliness is not a good thing!
@SkyeHi (84)
• India
24 Jun 11
Oh, i'm so worried about it already. I got just a year before i leave my hometown for a job. I've been living here for nearly a 20 years now. All my school and college buddies are here. and we're like scrambling to be together whenever we can. It's already makin me a bit sick.
@youless (86524)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Jun 11
I also feel the same. Today everybody is busy with their work. Especially when we have our own families, our spare time will be less and less. It is not easy to squeeze some time to get together with old friends. Now usually I just email, send SMS or have an online chatting with my friends. I love China
@minimoyz (277)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
No you're not! Just think that all of you are busy right now. There is always the right time for everything! If you don't mind how about inviting them to dinner or something like that to catch up with stuffs you want to talk about, but make sure to set the time when all of you are not that busy! Hope this helps, good luck!
@jimmytai (204)
• Malaysia
24 Jun 11
This is normally case for all people. Many old friend of us would become our memory. Impossible we have enough time with your all friend. When you and your friend have family, maybe totally no time to make gathering or anything. You sure will busy on your children , family members and work.
• China
24 Jun 11
You said it .Life is tough .Everybody have got to fight for his life .Modern technology not only bring people convinience ,but also obstacles which seperate people up .We try our best to make more money ,which means to live a better life .However ,while we "work hard ",we are losing friendship ,even family .Is it worthy?
@wow2dong2 (204)
• Malaysia
24 Jun 11
It is quite normal thing for us to get distance from our old friends. I used to have many close friends also. However, after we didn't contact for some months, or maybe years, we found out that we are no longer as close as before. Maybe because of we have our new close friends in new place. Yes, friendship is not always forever, you need to maintain it by heart.
@donsky14 (5964)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
I know how you feel...me and my college friends were always together before, when we were still studying. Now that we've graduated, working and some has their family already, we don't see each other that often. Usually we would get together if there's an occasion. And its also hard to get together because we have different schedules at work. So when we get together, we make sure that we make the best out of it. And don't worry, even if your not always together with your friends...the friendship is still there. That will never fade.