parenting

June 24, 2011 6:19pm CST
My son is going on nine months and is very active. He makes these little shrieking noises and eats his toes and feet. He seems very normal except for one thing, he has yet to crawl. My dad says that it is because I spoil him so he cries every time that someone else tries to hold him. Well he lets some females hold him for a while other than that he will only allow my husband and I to hold him. I am just anxious because he gets on all fours and he will move like half a crawl then start crying for me to pick him up. Should I sit him on the floor and let him cry until he gets used to it?
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@zazen6 (169)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Aaah, parenting... Any delay in what is thought of normal child development stage freaks us. Even a whimper from our child makes us think he needs our attention. I think you have a good solution to your concern. Have you tried to let you son do his thing and not picking him up even he's crying? Spoiling a child is understandable. However, I believe that helping our child grow independently is a more better approach at parenting. Good luck and welcome to myLot!
25 Jun 11
I have tried to let him just cry but it gets to me. If I don't pick him up I feel evil and like a bad mother. I know it is also bad to spoil him so I am torn. Then i feel as if when I finally do pick him up he is looking at me like I betrayed him.
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@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
25 Jun 11
Some babies can sit up earlier than others and some babies crawl later than others. It is very tempting to pick up a baby it is crying. I think that you could let your son stay on the floor for a little longer so he can get ready to crawl. Crawling is a skill he might not be yet ready for. In a bit more time I am sure your son will be confident at crawling. Good luck with your son beginning to crawl. It is worth noting some babies never crawl and just start walking at say 11 months old.
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@pumpkinjam (8539)
• United Kingdom
25 Jun 11
You shouldn't worry too much. All kids are different and if you don't think there is a physical problem then it is probably just best to leave him for a little while. He may be crying because he wants you to pick him up. My youngest son was around 9 months before he even sat up on his own and my baby nephew is 8 months and doesn't crawl. Just to even things out a bit, my older son and my grown up nephew were both walking by 9 months! I think, perhaps, you should leave him to his own devices a bit longer. Even if you gradually increase the time by a matter of seconds. If you're still worried, you can always talk to a professional.
25 Jun 11
Wow those those four examples are really different. People always tell me that children will do things in their own time, I guess this is one of those times. I think I will speak to his pediatrician, because the main reason that I am concerned is because I don't want to spoil him so much that he relies on me instead of branching out to try and be mobile.
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
25 Jun 11
Every child develops at their own pace. Instead of picking him up when he begins to crawl but stops to cry for you to pick him up, sit down on the floor and call to him to come to you. Hold your arms out to him and say come here baby, don't go to him, make him come to you. You can start by maybe crawling to him, giving him a hug and then scooting back and coaxing him to come to you. Hope this helps.
@jojo732 (294)
25 Jun 11
Hi Your son will do it in his own time...I know it's easy for others to say don't worry,but please don't worry your son is doing just fine,don't stress,when he starts doing his crawling, encourage him by smiling and saying yes thats it ..clap your hands smile.. cheer him on,encourage him,if he sees you doing this he will want to crawl a little bit more to hear mummy cheering and clapping her hands..(you know what I mean). You are doing fine.. Have a great weekend. jojo732
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