am i the only one who thinks movie dates are overrated?

@birdie816 (1277)
United States
July 9, 2011 2:11pm CST
every official date i've ever gone on before meeting my husband was a movie date. it was so annoying. after about the second date i realized that all guys want to do on a movie date is try to make a move on you, so i quickly grew tired of movie theaters. when i met my husband, we went on every date except the movies. it was great. we have still not been on a movie date to this day and i love it
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10 responses
9 Jul 11
I've never understood movie dates unless you're already seeing the person (for a while). I mean, what's the point going somewhere where, whenever you ask something to get to know the girl better, everyone around you goes "SHHHHHHHHH!" to get you to shut up? D'oh!
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@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
10 Jul 11
lol yeah that is just about the worst first date you can possibly have. not only can you not talk to the person but you also can't really see them lol
@rafiholmes (2897)
• Malaysia
10 Jul 11
some people just go to movie date because the just dont know what elese or where else to go..or both enjoy movies.. or ..yes.. really wanna squeeze them chicks..lol
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
10 Jul 11
lol "squeeze them chicks"? interesting choice of words lol.
• Malaysia
11 Jul 11
yeah u know..lol..sitting really near together..then put my arms around them etc.. and slowly..bla bla bla.. sort of.. but i think movie dates still works..even for genuine dates..(non of that squeeze dem chicks stuff..lol)
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
23 Jul 11
lol oh ok. thanks for clearing that up for me. and i don't know. maybe movie dates work for you. i am glad somebody likes them lol
@xfahctor (14126)
• Lancaster, New Hampshire
9 Jul 11
I think they are a tremendous waste of valuable time. Especially for first or beginning dates. the whole point of dating is to get to know someone. It is pretty hard to get to know someone if the two of you are just sitting there watching a movie and not actually talking to each other. I think the best first dates are simple things like going out for coffee or something of that sort. Not even really out for dinner, just coffee and such. It is a much more relaxed, no pressure sort of situation where each person feels with in their element and comfortable. It makes getting to know someone that much easier.
• United States
9 Jul 11
I agree completely. I believe it is a waste of time. You should be out doing stuff getting to know someone instead of at a movie not talking to one another. Very good point.
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
10 Jul 11
yeah you guys are right. the best first dates are ones where either you spend little or no money. this takes the pressure off of who is gonna pick up the taband all that and you can focus on each other more
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
dating per se is a way to get to know each other so well. it gives you an opportunity to engage in meaningful conversation to assess if there is some connection. movie dates is ok for me.
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
10 Jul 11
hmmm...well that is your opinion. i am not really ok with those types of dates
• Portugal
10 Jul 11
ahah thats really great^^ so he was different than any other guys. i understand what you mean. usually people think that to go on a date it has to be in a place that everyone chooses but i think its really special if the place you go is to somewhere that only you and him go. thats like your place. thats much more special than just go to a movie theater, that is a place where almost all couples go to have fun with each other. just continue finding sweet and cool places to go to your hubby. wish it can last forever^^
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
10 Jul 11
thank you :) i hope it does too. and yeah you are right. it is way better to find original places to hang out and be together to make memories more special. and the cool part is that most of those places are free to go to
@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
10 Jul 11
I suppose it depends on what you're expecting as a result from a date when you go on one,but if things aren't working out on the chemistry front,at least you've got a Movie to watch!
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
23 Jul 11
well yeah that's true. if you are expecting to get some action, then take a girl out on a movie date lol or vice versa
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
Lol. I think the first guy who responded has a point. I don't see any good reason why a guy would want to watch a movie with the girl he's dating when he's simply taking her attention off him and wastes his time. A good man who wants to date a girl, would take her out to dinner!
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
23 Jul 11
i agree with you too! and not just because i love to eat lol. but people who go on dinner dates tend to talk alot and talking allows the couple to find out more about one another
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
It really is hard to be successful on movie dates. Dates should be used to get to know each other well. However, watching a movie tends to derail you from the goal of dating. You cannot focus on knowing your date when you are focused on watching the contents of the movie at the same time. Those time could be used for more intimate communication. However, if after the movie you still go out somewhere, it'll be better because you both have something to talk about. But still, movie dates in my opinion should not be used as the first date, but for follow up dates, I guess it's but just fine.
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
23 Jul 11
yes. i agree completely
@bouncybug (615)
• South Africa
9 Jul 11
I also have never really seen the point of movie dates, especially in the beginning of a relationship when you are really trying to get to know each other - at least go out for dinner or a walk on the beach or do something where you can actually talk to each other! I think movies are ok for later on in a relationship though where you just want to do something relaxing
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
10 Jul 11
yeah all people want to do in the movie theaters is make out (or more in some cases) so that is definately not a good place for a first date. i prefer dates where you can talk and look at the person you are with anyway, even past the first date because i just enjoy the communication part of a relationship but it is especially important to develop this part early on
• Canada
9 Jul 11
It is a start, it is very good if you don't know what else to do. With that said, it kinda shows that you really didn't know where to start, which can be viewed really bad. It would be wrong if it is the only thing you do in a date, because I guess you can say that 99% of the date had no conversation between the couple. That is why I would suggest that you watch the movie early, and follow up with dinner. In this case, you can have something to talk about (the movie) when originally you had nothing which is why you chose the movie date. But yea, if it is early in your dating life, it can be a start if you don't know what to do. Try to be creative on a date, do something the majority of couples don't do. Since it is based on your creativity, odds are other couples have never done it, and you date would not have either.
@birdie816 (1277)
• United States
10 Jul 11
i think it would look bad to appear like you don't know what to do on dates and also it looks like you don't see that person as special. it kindo of makes it look like you just follow everybody else and there is no originality