Have You Felt Unwelcomed?

Jacksonville, Florida
July 10, 2011 6:07pm CST
Have you ever gone to someone's house and they made you feel so unwelcomed? It is not a good feeling at all. It is very uncomfortable to say the least. Has this ever happened to you?
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12 responses
• United States
12 Jul 11
No I haven't! But then again I have only been over friends houses. And I don't have in-laws.
• Jacksonville, Florida
12 Jul 11
LOL it was actually my own family that I felt this way. Sad but true!
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• United States
12 Jul 11
Oh No! That's not right. Well then you have your own family now and just put some distance between you and the unfriendliness! And I hope you have many close friends . Family doesn't have to be blood related!
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Jul 11
Yeah that is part of the reason we are moving as well. Fresh start, more money and away from some drama with the family. Lol. I wish I could find some close friends. Well I don't know how to drive because I am afraid so I don't get out much. I'm pretty sure that's why I haven't really met any friends. =(
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@andy77e (5165)
• United States
11 Jul 11
Oh yeah. Dozens of times. More than I can count. I've gotten used to it. I am generally unwelcome wherever I go.
@allknowing (70661)
• India
11 Jul 11
Don't worry andy. You are more than welcome here. Have a blast!
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
11 Jul 11
I assume the reason is because I'm just not a people person, although I've putting my best effort to be so. If I could find some specific cause, I'd change it. But since I can't, I just roll with it now. But regardless, I have given up hope of finding my place in the world. Now I just stay away from everyone.
• Jacksonville, Florida
11 Jul 11
Aw, Andy that is sad. I'm not very outgoing or anything so some people think I am snotty because I am so quiet and my husband's family couldn't stand me for a while because they thought I was thinking I was better than they are. Meanwhile I was so quiet because I was nervous that they wouldn't like me and I was scared I would say the wrong things. You cannot please everyone. All of us at Mylot like you!
@Awinds (2472)
• United States
10 Jul 11
Oh, yes. it. has. My family was invited over to have dinner with another family that we barely knew. At dinner, they made no effort at conversation. It was a silent supper - not exactly welcoming. Well, not that's not completely right. Towards the end of the meal, the hostess asked me why I hadn't finished my potatoes and if I thought her cooking was bad. Can anyone say awkward? After dinner they refused our offer to help clean up and we were left alone to sit in the living room until the host appeared. It turned out he worked with an Avon like company and had invited us over just so he could try and sell his products to us. We were not welcomed. We were almost used. I have nothing against salespeople trying to do their job, but the dinner scheme was underhandedly deceptive.
• Jacksonville, Florida
11 Jul 11
Wow, that is just plain awful. I would have felt totally awkward too. Salespeople should just come to your door, not invite you over for dinner and be silent the whole time. Weird.
@Awinds (2472)
• United States
12 Jul 11
It baffles me to this day. They were sales people and they were...silent? That's not really a great way to promote the highlights of your product. Perhaps they felt guilty about their little scheme?
@somer82 (16)
• United States
11 Jul 11
I know exactly what you are talking about. Every time I go to my boyfriends house i always feel like they do not want me around. They have never said or done anything to me, but for some reason i just feel like they dont want me there or like me. me and my boyfriend have been together for more than 10 years and we have 2 boys. i finally told him that i dont really feel comfortable there and that i do not want to go there unless i have to and that is the way i would like to keep it. at least until i dont feel like they dont like me anymore. i hope it is sometime soon.
• Jacksonville, Florida
11 Jul 11
I'm sorry. I know the feeling though that is for sure. My in-laws don't like me either but oh well. I have gotten over trying to make them like me because they are a very strange family anyway! I don't blame you I had to tell my husband the same thing about his family.
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
11 Jul 11
Well I don't know about unwelcomed but I have felt like I didn't fit in once. I went to someone's birthday party, well she was a friend of one of my classmates. I wasn't so close with the friend but still she invited me to the party. I thought oh what the hell and just joined them. But the whole night was a nightmare. There were people I had never seen before and besides my classmate, I knew no one. People were very friendly though and were trying to make me feel not awkward the whole night but since I don't blend in quick with new people, I just felt weird there. I missed my girlies a lot LOL next time i'm just going to some place with comfortable faces.
• Jacksonville, Florida
11 Jul 11
I have been through that too because I am a shy person in real life. I have a hard time making friends because I am so quiet. But once I do make a friend I never lose them because I try to be a great friend. I hate being uncomfortable in new places too. Its an awful feeling.
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
11 Jul 11
I guess for a few times but the most that I can't forget was when I was unwelcome in an office. The person asked me to leave the office. That was really humiliating.
• Jacksonville, Florida
11 Jul 11
Yeah it's happened to me a few times as well and it is hurtful and embarrassing.
@veejay19 (3592)
• India
11 Jul 11
First of all i do not visit anyones house unless i am invited.Of course it does not include close friends and relatives.Nowadays i do not go anywhere because of my physical disability and since i am now permanently on a wheelchair.However whenever i visited somebody in the past i never was treated shabbily nor made to feel unwelcome.Instead people use to ask me to come more often which gave me a good feeling.
• Jacksonville, Florida
11 Jul 11
Well yes of course I was talking about being invited or it being your close relatives. I wouldn't just go to someone's house either. That's good that you have never felt unwelcomed. I have a few times by my husband's family because they don't like me...
@SViswan (12071)
• India
11 Jul 11
Yes, once. I was at their door for a quick question. I needed a number before I rushed off to my son's school. But their maid opened the door and they were inside...didn't come out even after they were informed it was me at the door. At the time, I didn't know what to do...if it happened today, I would have walked away. Later, I got to know that they did it on purpose and even told other people in the building. I got to know about it too late and I was pretty naive at the time...or else I would have given back in kind.
• Jacksonville, Florida
11 Jul 11
That is awful and mean. I don't like people like that at all. What was their problem? Why would they do that and then tell people about it on top of it? Some people can be so cruel I swear!
• Indonesia
11 Jul 11
Yes... it feels very uncomfortable, embarassed... even so we often feel like afool. I experienced this situation several of time. And usually i left immediately to go... and never ask anything about the attitudes unwellcomed.
• Jacksonville, Florida
11 Jul 11
It absolutely does make you feel uncomfortable, it does to me too!
@dong88 (796)
• China
11 Jul 11
Oh,I think,this experience I don't.But,with the age growth,I have not like to go to the home of others.Whether the other paty welcome or not welcome,I do not like to go to the home of others. Happy every day!
• Jacksonville, Florida
11 Jul 11
Thanks for your response, but why don't you ever go to someone's house? Even if they invite you, you say no?
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
10 Jul 11
Why, has this happened to you? It happens to me sometimes, but my husband thinks I'm crazy so I try to get out of there a.s.a.p. and then never return...I tell my husband that I just don't like the person and he lets it go, knowing if I say I don't like someone to not push me...
• Jacksonville, Florida
11 Jul 11
Yeah it happens kind of often at one place. Unfortunately I have to see them for personal reasons a lot. =( One of them says things that they think is funny but it's actually hurtful and they fight in front of me and it is just uncomfortable.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
17 Jul 11
I once had a friend in college who offered us a place to say if ever we went to his hometown. A couple of years after we graduated, I called him up to take him up on his offer as I was passing through his hometown on a business trip. It turns out, he wasn't at their place, and the people that met us at the door didn't really make me feel welcome. The hundred dollars or so, that I spent on a hotel was well worth it!