Ever had a neighbor who yells clearly as if she's beside you?

@adnileb (5035)
Philippines
July 18, 2011 8:25am CST
Our neighbor is now calming down on her sermon to her daughter. I think it took about 20 minutes of non-stop yelling and that was soooo irritating. She keeps on yelling at her daughter about a school project that was about to be done by the daughter outside (some place like computer shop). See, I know the story, I heard it loud and clear. Our neighbor, who looks like a witch, was about to go to with her daughter to do the school project but the daughter insisted. And so, the mother got mad and started yelling. And I mean really serious yell. So the concern here is, first, do parents/mothers need to yell at their daughter/son when they made a mistake? (though I think the daughter here didn't make a mistake) Second, you being a neighbor to everyone, have you tried being in such a scandalous state? ...and there she goes again with the madness.
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@vivamir (673)
18 Jul 11
The next door neighbor, who still lives next to my Mum, used to be terrible when her sons were younger- although they were little terrors.. However, it wasnt just the yelling and shouting- the kids would bang/slam doors, throw objects and even take it out on the street- with their mother tailing behind them! Her sons are teenagers now..and I dont think there are so many bust ups anymore- I might just ask my Mum Lol I think in your case, the mother was just having a bad case of 'anger diarrhea'- the daughter sounds like she was doing the right thing throughout.! And I dont believe it to be justified to yell at your child like this..I hope someone says something to her..must have been embarrassing for the poor child.. if she was doing something wrong, the mother should have calmly explained the error.. so she could learn, not fear or feel humiliated! I hope your situation improves, must be distressing for you (",)
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Really distressing my friend as I can't concentrate on commenting my responses last night. I think noone will dare to say something to her, even me! Haha! She really looks like a witch or some Snow White's stepmom. Lol Well, I do hope that your Mum doesn't have damaged hearing due to your neighbor's yelling.
@vivamir (673)
19 Jul 11
Well thats not good, disturbing you MYLOT time!! LoL.. And I had to giggle at the way you describe her- its pretty funny.. I think my Mums hearings okay..although she does suffer with 'selective hearing' Ha Ha.. I just hope yours are okay- maybe invest in some earplugs :)..? LoL..
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
But look at this discussion, gained many responses because of her. Instead of letting her disturb me, she gave me an idea what to post here. When you see her, you'll be reminded of some witch in a movie. Scary looking woman. About the earplugs, yes, I'm planning to get a pair of it. I bet it'll be of great help.
@surfer222 (1715)
• Indonesia
18 Jul 11
actually my neighbour now is just like that. Not only when she mad but even when she do a usual talk to people her tone is always high. First time i move to this neighbourhood i thought that she was mad at something because her voice was so loud. After i listen to what she said i realize that she's just talk to her friend but her tone is the same as regular person when they're mad. After i ask around i just found out that she was born in a mountain where distance between houses and neighbours are really far so she's grown up with that kind of tone, but still become annoying because we're in the city where distance between neighbours were only few meters only. everyday i can hear what she said to everyone including when she make a phone call.
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Yikes! Why do people can't change something inappropriate? That neighbor of yours was silly. I think she should practice lowering her voice now that she's in a rural area. Ever tried to give her an advice?
@surfer222 (1715)
• Indonesia
19 Jul 11
not only me but the whole neighbourhood already talk to her about her voice but she just keep doing that, so we can't do anything else because it's her house.
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
Yikes! Too bad for the neighborhood...
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 11
Go ask her to fly kite. Having such a loud neighbor who doesn't respect the peacefulness in the neighborhood should be told right on her face to tone down her volume and not to be a public nuisance. She is definitely not going to be my neighbor as having her around would only raise my bp.
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I can't tell it to her face. She's the type of woman who doesn't listen and would argue with you as far as she could. Well, good thing she isn't your neighbor. Surely your BP will rise.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 11
I have my lucky star to thank for.
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Whatever that star is, good for you then.
@Porcospino (19661)
• Denmark
18 Jul 11
Your home sounds like mine. When our neighbours are yelling at eachother we can hear every word. Our neighbours are a couple and they have two children, the mother and the daughter are often yelling at eachother. I don't want to be a part of their arguments, but I can hear everything whether I want to or not. I often turn on the stereo if I am tired of listening to their arguments. We can also hear when they set the table or when they cough. It is an old house, and it is very, very easy to hear the sounds from other end of the house. I really like the house, but I wish we had more privacy...
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Hmmmm, the house sounds creepy. So, how do you manage that kind of neighbor? Does that happen everyday? As for my neighbor, she only yells when mad and she gets mad to her daughter I think thrice a month. Actually, she also fights with her dogs and yells at them too. And she really does look like a witch.
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@Porcospino (19661)
• Denmark
19 Jul 11
Fortuneately it doesn't happen every day. Right now there there is quiet in their part of the house, I guess they went on vacation or something like that. I really enjoy the silence My neighbours also have a dog and sometimes they yell at the dog, we can hear every word. I guess they can also hear almost anything that happens in our home, maybe they also find us annoying
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
Try to yell loudly when they're home so they would know what you feel when they are the ones yelling.
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
20 Jul 11
Yes. all my neighbors do this. It doesnt matter the time either. It could be 3pm or 3am they dont care.
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
Tsk... Bad neighbors. Here in our flat, be it in front neighbor or back, they always make noise. The witch woman with her yelling lives in our front and at the back are the knockers. Who keeps on knocking anytime of the day from 9pm-3am. They will knock so loud like there was a fire on the neighborhood not considering the time that there might be people sleeping and gets disturbed.
@jdyrj777 (6556)
• United States
21 Jul 11
Iam often awakened 3am by domestic squabbles. A few times ive heard what sounds like a goose caught ina trap. Turns out to be domestic squabbles. They just dont care who hears them. I guess they just want everyone to suffer the way they are.
@erikmama (12929)
• United States
18 Jul 11
I know that I am a yeller~sometimes~ But I would not call it yelling, more of raising my voice and deepening it to get my point across when my kids arent listening to me. As far as this woman, I can relate.It sounds as if you are describing my mother! She is one of those persons who YELLS nonstop all of the time.I hate to go out anywhere with her because her location does not stop her from letting her yells out loud. And she is always mad about the stupidest of thinsg that gets her to yelling like thi.s It is embarrassing to me to have her yealling all of the time. She does it in the house too and I know that her neighbor has to hear it. I can not imagine what she thinks.
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
I think the way you yell/talk to your child is normal. Emphasizing your point or telling them you are serious that they shouldn't be silly. I think I can imagine your mom easily when you said she's like our neighbor. And the thing about your mom yelling publicly, that was really embarrassing. I think I would just leave her alone and go home my way.
@bunnybon7 (37920)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Jul 11
whoa! i think she needs an anger managment course. some people are just so mean to their kids. its not fair cause it will just make her daughter miserable and accomplish nothing. sounds like my mom used to be at me.
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
Yeah, anger management should be taken. And I think I need that course too! My mom used to get mad at me too when I was younger and would slap me hard with a fly swatter. And it really hurts.
@AnupamArt (101)
• India
18 Jul 11
Yelling? Needed anywhere? A solution to something? Just never! Here, i am going to talk about a lady who had this shrilling voice (Is it the right word for a sound like a screech of the truck tires?) She lived at the downstairs of our rented flat then. Her eldest daughter was married to a house just two block away. Sometimes, she would come to the balcony, and talk (or screech or yell) on the mobile phone to the daughter. One day, when the daughter was there in her mother's house, I went downstairs and asked her very politely -' Why do you spend so much money on mobile phone conversation when you can hear your mother's yells from your husbands house?' It was a gesture of my extreme frustration. The daughter understood and apologized on behalf of her mother. But, who can change his/her basic nature. Next morning I heard the mother's screeches again!!!
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
If only we can send them to the mountains! There are lots people around with no sense of awareness and just keeps on disturbing other people. So, did you tell the owner of the about them?
• United States
18 Jul 11
My neighbors don't understand the concept of being quiet or respecting others' sleep schedules! It got really bad a few months ago. They have two dogs, one is bigger and mellow, the other is small and yappy! They are both tied up outside. Every morning around 6am the little dog would start yapping, and then the bigger one would bark back. As if this wasn't bad enogh, the older woman of the household would come outside and yell at the dogs! You could hear her clear as day, "SHUT UP, PRESCIOUS!" over and over. :( It woke me up every day!
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
Oh, dog barks are irritating be it high pitch or low pitch plus the yell to stop them really is a no-no. You must be very sleepy at daytime because you were awaken so early. That too is stressing. Maybe you should put some earplugs on your ears.
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• United States
18 Jul 11
Yes I have known people like this and it is really irritating. Not sure if they understand that yelling at their child will get them no where. See I am the type that if I hear someone yelling I phase them out and same with the kids. They don't learn anything this way as it angers them and causes them to shut down and not pay attention. It is due to stress and personalities too that some tend to yell non-stop, gosh how I miss my kids when they were small as in my home you never heard racket. from me and or them.
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I agree it's due to stress as it is obvious with her witch face. She even argues with her dog. If the dog doesn't stopped barking, she would yell, "why do you keep on barking?! What the hell is your problem?!" so distressing to have her as our neighbor. I bet your home when you had little kids was like heaven. Mine isn't that heavenly as my Mom got mad at me one time and even slapped my thigh with the handle of a fly swatter. Oh, that really hurt me.
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@vandana7 (69012)
• India
18 Jul 11
I am bad..very baaad. At times I do frustrate. But more than shouting I think I grumble...and nag may be.
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Me too. I shout, nag, slam things, and a lot more. Well, that is when I'm at my super madness stage. But not that loud enough for the neighbors to hear.
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@beingwell (3625)
• Thailand
19 Jul 11
Good thing that we don't have a neighbor similar to your bel. Back in the day though, every time we visit our grandparents in the province, people seem to be talking aloud. It's as if everyone's deaf and everyone all needed to shout towards each other. Perhaps these neighbor of yours also came from the province...hihihi! What do you think?
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
Maybe just the mother. You can hear her everywhere but none of the other family members were talking. Sometimes, she also yells at his dog barking far away outside asking her dog to come home. Imagine that far, she yells just for the dog.
@beingwell (3625)
• Thailand
20 Jul 11
Hahahah! Well, perhaps that's how she expresses herself. It's one of her outlets. Too bad for the husband, though. hihihi...
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
I think she has no husband as I don't see any in her house. She just lives with her daughter. Well, maybe they separated because the husband can't stand her yelling anymore. Or the husband had a heart attack because she keeps on yelling at him. But not kidding, I think they separated, maybe that's why her attitude towards her daughter is like that and the reason why she's having a personality problem.
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
19 Jul 11
I hate it when parents yell continuously at their kids (or wives at their husbands). I don't like to go to my brother's house any more because when his wife is there she is constantly yelling at my brother or at one of her kids. The lady is crazy! As far as your neighbor goes, how old is the daughter? Why does the mother want to be there when she is doing the project? Is the daughter too young to go to the place on her own or is it just that the mother is a control freak? Perhaps the "mistake" was to tell her mother that she didn't want her to go with her. When you try to control something that a control freak thinks she controls, they go wild. I hope the situation has calmed down.
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
The mother is around the age of 40-50 and the daughter is about 10-15. I think the daughter just decided not to go then the mother freaked out instantly and started yelling. I think the mother has some mind disorder or personality problem. She yelled for 20minutes repeating the words again and again and the daughter doesn't say anything at all. All of sudden, everything went quiet. Poor daughter she is... .
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@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
20 Jul 11
I hope this girl is able to handle the treatment she gets from her mother. I hope that the mother is getting help with her condition if she has one. I can't handle being around people who yell all the time and I'm a lot older than the little girl. Are you able to talk to the neighbors to seer if you can help?
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
We just moved there January and it's like a compound with 7 flats. The first time we inquired there, we get to talk to the witch. A bit nice, but when we finally moved to the flat, she seemingly don't want to talk to anybody. So until then, we haven't really talked. So, I can't offer any help to the kid. Hope the kid can endure everything.
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@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
Waaaa!!! You beat me friend! You were able to make 2 discussions yesterday and me..oh well,just one,waaaa!!! REally can't do it! Until now,I'm not yet finished replying with my previous posts and I even can't attend then to my friend's discussions,oh my! Will just go back to my old way,lol! Regarding your discussion,honestly,I already experienced yelling at my son but not to the extent that even my neighbors will hear it(well,not sure if they heard it,waaaa!!)My temper was so high my friend that I really had to yell(my instinct,when I'm mad). My son played basketball with his friend in my room and I said don't play with the ball 'cause you might hit the light and it was around 11pm that time(they are still hyper!)And what I've been thinking of,happened! Our flourescent lamp was hit and alas,I have no light in my room that night,haay!
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
If that's the case why you yelled, I understand you. You did it to avoid an accident to happen. And....Hooray! I've beaten you! But don't be sad because it was just yesterday. I am planning to make a discussion every other day so my responses won't get piled up. It's so hard to comment on all of them but at the same time, it's flattering and fun. Hope you can make 2 today my friend!
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• Philippines
19 Jul 11
Hi friend! I don't know,maybe I was too mad that my son didn't obey what I said and I need to rest in my room but boom,no light at all! That was my instinct,I yelled at him! Oh no friend,I don't think I can make 2 today,I plan not to make a discussion today so I can finish replying to my posts but I made one 'cause I need to voice out what happened to me this morning in Microworkers,grrr!!!
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
That's okay. I think replying to your responses will eat up your time already. I can't remember if I have an account at microworkers. And I don't think I can manage other online job. Mylot is enough for me now because I don't have much time to offer other sites.
@jennyze (7045)
• Indonesia
22 Jul 11
Sometimes parents are being childish, over protective and thinking of knowing all before hands, while children are being adamant of becoming an adult thus knowing their own way to live... Arghhhh
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
We can't blame parents. I am thinking that I might be worse than them when I become a parent. Um, but I know it's bad though.
@jennyze (7045)
• Indonesia
26 Jul 11
Well, I know of some parents who yell at their children for the slightest encouragement. I may be the same when I have children...
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
Hi! We've got a lot of neighbors like that. Scandalous neighbors. Not just when they are angry, sometimes, being loud is their normal voice. ^^ These people are what you call "palengkera", talking as if they are in the market selling something. But I'm used to people like that. Or at least I think I'm used to it. lol It's scary sometimes though, when I hear people fighting outside, not in their homes, but outside their houses. Fighting with one another, raising their voices as if they own the world. I just do my best to not listen to them and mind my own business. I don't like hearing their stories anyway.
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
"palengkera" You got it! Haha! I remember one time riding a bus, the lady talks so loud with the old lady beside her. And when I looked at them, I saw her wearing apron and realized she is from the market that's why she has the loud voice. Aren't these people aware of how loud their voice is when in public? And ooops, whether on their own house, they still talk so loud.
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@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
I think because they are like that everyday so they get used to being loud. I mean, since they work in the market everyday and make their voice loud to sell their goods, they get used to the pitch and becomes their habit that they do wherever they go.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
18 Jul 11
The neighbors next door to my grandparents yell so loud that you can hear them clear as day. They live in a cul de sac, or basically a cirlce. In any case, you can be in the middle of the circle and hear them yelling as clear as day. It's terrible when they go at it! It's like can you please be quiet already?
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
If only we can throw a big stone to their houses. That was really irritating, wasn't it? How could they possibly do it? They have no shame.
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
I think some people feel they are superior if their yelling. Or maybe they are just too angry that's why they cannot control their temper and they keep on yelling. SomeCowgirl, is this neighbor of your grandparents yell everyday?
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
I can relate to this post. We have a neighbor who always argue with her husband. It's really annoying cause she yells a lot and at times I hear plates or other utensils hitting the floor. And the way she shouts, I pity her cause one time she almost lost her voice for doing so. The other neighbor of ours, watches television everyday. How do I know? Cause the volume of the television set is so loud that I can guess what show or movie are they watching. We live in a exclusive subdivision so I think people who live there should have some decency and be considerate of others.
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
Yikes! Have you tried reporting them to you subdivision personnel? Or some officers maybe at your place? That neighbor must be irritating. How could you live with it? Does it happen everyday? Hope they will be reported soon so you can live and sleep calmly.
• Mexico
25 Jul 11
Hi adnileb: Sometimes it's important to make them notice that you feel angry for their behaviour so the first question would be a yes to me. Second, no I don't think that's ok, specially because that's disrespectful to my neighbours and to my own house. I don't think people outside should know tehse problems. I have a neighbour that is exactly like the one you have described and this is situation is so disgusting. She really yells for no reason . ALVARO
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
26 Jul 11
I wanted to throw something in their house but I just didn't do it. I dunno, maybe I wasn't that scandalous as they are. And like you said, it was so disgusting. So I just leave it to them.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
For me before I have that kind of attitude I think she depressed in everything in her life that's why they always noisy.
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
That's what I think too. But it's wrong to be noisy when it is so much disturbing for the other people around.