Could you help me ? mylot friends.
By haiershen
@haiershen (1080)
China
July 18, 2011 9:16pm CST
those days, i don't know how to say,after several years work, and changed three jobs, in china, my age is too high for married, some old person always said that there is rarely boy whom can be match me.however, i didn't find a boyfriend whom is very suit for me, on the other hand, i have come back to my hometown, one is for my parents's wishes, and another reason is for settled. what a pity, it is really sad, nearly six months past, i couldn't find a job which was well, my means the job which can make me fell comfortable. during this period, i work at two company. today morning, i fell no strength to do everything, i couldn't find the aim for my life. both for my job and my life.i ask for myself, which job is suitable for me, a teacher, a shipping clerk, etc. oh, i forgot to tell you that my job is a shipping clerk, for making shipping documents for customer and export customs clearance. it seams very be similar for me, but it couldn't got the salry well for my life,in the same time, due to long work for this area. i'm looks like a child not a mature woman. i'm a ordinary girl, i even couldn't find the special in myself. could you help me?
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13 responses
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Jul 11
hi haiershen oh do not give up. I did not find the right man til I was 32 and I had a wonderful marriage and life too.You have to like and love yourself first so you gain self esteem then you will find the right job and you will find the right boy or man. first say out loud I am haiershen I like myself. I am unique, I am haireshen and I love myself.
yell this make yourself realize God made you Be proud of you who you are, do mot belittle yourself. In order to know how to love others even boys you have to love yourself, you must quit saying you have nothing special'
You are special,you are one of a kind, the living God made you and he did not make inferior people. You are lovely and bright and intelligent believe this of your self.hold your head up high you are somebody,you
are unique,you are haiershen.let me know later how things go.You are'
a very special someone haiershen.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
20 Jul 11
haiershen dear, I agree with Hatley whole heartingly because you ARE special! Every one of us is special in our own way and you're no different! God put you on this earth for a reason, although you may not know what the reason is and you may never know what the reason is, you're here for a reason so that makes you special! Being only 28 years old, you're not old by any means! You're still very young and would make a man a very good wife and it may happen however, it may not but you don't need a man in your life to make you feel special because you already are! Please stop belittleing yourself because you certainly don't deserve it. You deserve the best so seek the best, ok?
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
20 Jul 11
You sound as if you are depressed. I'd like to help you, but there is a world of difference between the United States and China. You mentioined teaching. Is that what you would prefer to do? Are you qualified? If not, get busy and get yourself qualified. In the meantime, get out of doors, Exercise. Go where there are p-eople to discuss things. Do things for oithers. Be happy.
@BarBaraPrz (45594)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
19 Jul 11
I don't know what to tell you, but I wish you well.
@flzmlady (418)
• China
19 Jul 11
Hey, I feel sorry for you, but in China if your parents cannot find you a good job and you cannot find one by your own, then it is really hard to change this situation.
I myself am in graduate school and now I am facing this problem too.
I think what you can do is to try to release and do not press so much on you. You are still young and you got time to do this satisfactorily, believe in ypourself.
As for bf, I do not think that's a problem. There are a lot of girls in China who are not married or who are not eager to get marry. Whether getting married or not is not a big problem compared to work problem.
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
19 Jul 11
Hi Haiershen, I think like me, your looking at growing old alone and that is giving you a bit of depression. Don't give up, I believe that there is someone special for each of us and sometimes it takes some of us longer to find that person. For sure if you don't change how you look at yourself, others will not change how they look at you. We are never too old to marry.
@keenan_savio (416)
• India
20 Jul 11
Its seems like that all that could go wrong has gone and I just dont understand as to why you have accepted failure. Forget about the marrage as even though you may be past the age there may be something else planned fpor your life in regards to marrage. So for the time being just leave it aside. Since you have almost accepted failure in your life it seems like whatever you do is just not good enough and you will never be satisfied.
The job that you have found you have to focus and do the job with more enthusiasm. Focus on the small happinesses that will eventually turn into somethin big later and have the attitude or never giving up and always be positive. Even I find myself at a very young age in big debtd due to credit cards. However I am trying to find ways and means like mylot and other online jobs that I can get some extra income to pay those bills off. Its about believing in yourself and having the You Can Do It Attitude...
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
19 Jul 11
Here in the US it is much different than it is there. But I do know how your culture is about marriage and such things.
Have you thought of sending your resume to other countries to see about being hired on there? You could get per-diem which is living expenses and a salary too. They would pay for you to go to where the position isor for the move if they wish to hire you.
Stay away from the head-hunters that want you to pay them for a job. There are too many companies that will pay these companies to find a good person to work for them. I'd start by putting my resume out on the internet and make sure to have on there that you are will to travel or relocate.
I must say too that I was 35 years of age when I met my now husband. Yes, I was much older but we have been together for 20 years and finding him then I knew I had the right one. It just took me a long time to find the right person.
I wish you mush luck and many blessings. Let me know how you are doing.
@neilchua (888)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
Life is life. You really can't have everything in this world. The good thing is you still have a job. I for once hated the job I had. Not knowing what to do in life. But that is life. We need to move on. We need to believe on something. Hope that someday everything will be better. We need to fight. The question is how do we fight? If you can fight alone, then go to your friends, your REAL friends. Sometime in the future you will just laugh at everything and you will just realize that everything happens for a reason. Hopefully you would find the perfect match for you. Have a good day.:)
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
19 Jul 11
It sounds like you are going through a tough patch and your confidence is at an all-time low. What you need to do is take one thing at a time and work at changing it for the better and the best way to do that is to start by being grateful for what you already have while you are taking the necessary steps to make the changes you want. You must believe in yourself and know that you are worthy of happiness. In regards to finding a husband, I would suggest you stop searching and enjoy life; you never know when he will be just around the corner. The trick is to consider yourself worthwhile and when your confidence grows everything will change for the better...You’ll see...Wishing you all the best of luck...
@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
19 Jul 11
hi, haiershen, the main problem of yours is that you lost your confidence.remember that nobody's perfect, you can't blame youself all time when you you lost job or don't have your dream job, not married yet, and so on.you have to know that life is full of choice and challange, it's not always taste sweet but sometime also bitter and terrible, you're not the only one here.if you have not married yet and people shout you out, then ignore them, you can enjoy your single moment and get closer to your family and God, pray for finding your husband.if you're not comfortable with you job now, then spend more time to start your family business or finding another job and chase your dream, everything starting hard.you can't give up now girl, you have to start... start to move on and configure your life.It's not easy but by doing little effort you have try to support your self to be better personality
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
19 Jul 11
Hello Haiershen,
I just saw your profile you are just 28 years and i don't think your are that aged.The problem with you is lack of confidence in yourself.You don't know what you have to do in life.
To be happier in life first decide in which field you want to go and that depend on you only.
And for marriage you can put your resume on different marriage sites on net may be from that you will be able to get a perfect match or you can give an add on matrimonial in NEWSPAPER surely you will get a perfect match don't go on people they will always discourage you.Always remain happy and keep yourself busy so that these thoughts may not occupy your mind.
To be happier in life first decide in which field you want to go and that depend on you only.
And for marriage you can put your resume on different marriage sites on net may be from that you will be able to get a perfect match or you can give an add on matrimonial in NEWSPAPER surely you will get a perfect match don't go on people they will always discourage you.Always remain happy and keep yourself busy so that these thoughts may not occupy your mind.