posted a question and doesnt like answers

@pbbbsra (1214)
Philippines
July 23, 2011 5:14am CST
Have you experienced answering a question at mylot and then the owner told you my question is already answered and u shouldnt have answered. it was like... what ?! it surprised me comin across people like that. those who doesnt know how to listen to what other have to say. anyways its not big deal. it was just strange. have you experienced this?
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
23 Jul 11
I quite often come across this. Usually it is because the asker has not asked the right question or has not given sufficient information. Some people, apparently, think that we are mind readers! It always pays to read twice through what the asker has written and to consider that what they are asking may not actually be what they want to know. Long experience of working on help desks and as a software tutor has taught me that some very simple and seemingly straightforward questions can't really be answered in the way that the asker wants.
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@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
Thank you for your comments. Its good to know that I wasnt only and what I felt was just normal. It's also nice to hear from all you guys who have been at mylot for a longtime. Thank you so much.
@thetis74 (1525)
24 Jul 11
You are so right. I hope they are hearing you on this. If I should experience the same thing, I would really be hurt. But I would just just let go and not spend a conscience dealing with it because it isn't worth it.
• United States
23 Jul 11
I have not come across this in a responded discussion that I have entered to date and could not imagine someone saying that their discussion was already answered when clearly your response and the one before that was before the one the member felt was better. I can only say that if came across something like that I would make a mental note not to answer anymore. That discussion was opinion based and not asking for a certain specific answer. Besides no one on myLot can say who can and cannot answer discussion here, that would be against myLot's concept. I do hope you do not get more like that as there are many, many other friendlier discussions here that many of the members greatly appreciate ALL responses. I am sorry being that you are fairly new had to experience something like that. A warm welcome to you to myLot!
• United States
24 Jul 11
I am glad to hear that you will be staying around this time. Yes there are a lot great members here so we need not worry about any who do such type of activity. Thank you for the BR!
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
Thank you so much. It really wont harm me anymore from this time after. It has been only a wake up call telling me that there are different kinds of people in mylot and being sensitive wont help. Thank you for your warm welcome. I hope I'll stay long here in my lot. I've been here last year and left when we moved to another country. I was a bit sad also for all the points I left and learned that I can't have it back. I was like on my 600+ post then... anyway, now its my new beginning and will stay longer. Thanks again.
@Eskimo (2315)
24 Jul 11
This is a discussion site, and to me a discussion is exactly that. You write something and other people respond - some will agree with you others may not - however everyone is entitled to state their own opinion. It should be your opinion though, you should not copy other peoples reply. I would avoid anyone who tells you that you cannot respond to their discussion as it has already been answered. Up till now I haven't come across anyone like this.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
Good for you. Its no big deal now. As you said, my lot is a place to state our opinions. But at the same time, different kinds of people are at mylot and we cant change the way people are.
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
Yeah, I also experienced this here. It's actually a violation if you don't read the other's responses and responded almost the same that the other did. You still have to read what the others have posted so you as for you to find out if you have someone that had already posted what you're going to post.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
the one whose answer answered tge question was actually after me, i was the second one and the first one gave a short answer. anyway its alright, we cant change peoplw and i am happy.
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
23 Jul 11
I think we interpret what is written in our own individual way. The words have a different meaning for every person. However the context should be understood in a clear way. Then people can mean the same thing but write it differently. I think as long as people respond in a polite respecful way it should be appreciated. It was a two way communication.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
I understand too... well the topic was a bit sensitive at that time. Maybe we misunderstood each other. thanks
@thetis74 (1525)
24 Jul 11
I wonder what can happen to someone if her question was answered again. I'm so sorry because that doesn't sound good at all. There can be millions of people in this world and millions can have the opinion. I might suffer the same way you do because I don't normally read the answer of other before I could write my answer. I would take a glimpse sometimes and find the same opinion but there are ways of rephrasing it. Besides our opinions might be the same but not exactly alike most of the times. Just don't mind that. Let's just enjoy mylotting. And as for me, I am not gonna to say that to anyone because I don't want to hurt others' feelings because we are doing this to enjoy helping each other.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
Yeah, It's nothing anymore to me. Im here to share my thoughts and no one can stop that. I went here to talk and write as I love doing. thanks so much.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
23 Jul 11
Yes this is really a type of surprising behavior because when somebody posted a discussions and when he got a answers about this and when he/she got another answer and in this situation this is a satisfying condition and instead of this he/she told you that he/she got answers about this discussions and don’t need any more then it like a surprising situation. Because mylot is a site where you can post any discussions and also answers about any questions. Even discussions have 0 responses or more than 20 responses.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
yeah i believe so. My lot is an open site and people come here to share ideas.