What do you say to a friend who has lost her daughter...?

I'm sorry but there's nothing you can say to make the pain go away. And it's awful to even ask how she is. What you can do is to give her reassurance that if she needs anything you're just there beside her.Pray not only for the deceased but especially for the ones left behind. Yes, TIME heals everything.

I wouldn't say anything because sometimes saying nothing is better. I would just be a shoulder to cry on.

The best thing to say to anyone who has lost anyone is that if there is anything you can do for them. all they need to do is ask, and then MAKE SURE YOU MEAN IT!! If they ask for something, be there for them. Offer them a shoulder to cry on anytime they need one, and just be there for them.

It seems like at a time like a loss of a precious child or family member we can't come up with appropriate responses or ways to help the people who sustained the loss. It's a time that we are so totally uncomfortable with mortality, though we all know that eventually we all will leave this world. I have been in that position many many times myself. I've found that the best thing I can do is be there for support. The best and easiest form of support is being there to listen and provide hugs and kleenex for the people who are grieving. It also has been a hard lesson to learn that when in doubt about someone who is ailing with a life threatening disease I don't ask the family member how the person is doing. Nine times out of ten it turns out that the family member has passed away. Of course it is a problem for me because I live so far out in the country that I'm not in the information loop--I don't even get a newspaper!!! You handled the situation beautifully. You gave your friend the best form of support a friend could give, your strength and love and above all your understanding. To speak loudest about your love for your goddaughter and your friend, you might make a donation to the leukemia association in the family's name. I know when a cousin of mine passed away, we made a donation to the City of Hope where the cousin had been treated. I applaude you for being such a good friend, giving the family the support and strength at such a difficult time. Many people would just shy away and not be so supportive.

Hugging is better than saying. There are no words for that. As for moving on, she will never completly "move on". The scar, the loss, will be there forever. Just be there, maybe visit hr if you can and do things with her. If she doesn´t want to talk about her daughter, don´t bring up the subject.

Oh this will be definitely hard to do. I do have a daughter and would feel so much pain for a friend who has lost hers. I don't believe I could say I know how you feel because I have never experienced it so I would simply be there for the friend. Assuring to remind her that I can help where ever I can and that I will be praying for her to gain strength and acceptance. I would continually remind her to keep her daughters memory alive, but the words would not come easily as it would be way too painful.

That is a hard situation but your friend will have to be strong for the sake of her other child. I have no children of my own and therefore never lost any either. God bless those who have.

I am a single person and this is beyond me. probably leave him or her alone, just let them to their grief, comfort them but never try to say things that would offend them. besides, I don't know If I have the strong feeling or conviction to listen to advises. let her take time to get over her grief because if you talked the sense of her she might not listen to you well.

That's a tough one. I've already lost my father 5 years ago and it was really hard to deal with it. All I can say is just console her and if ever she strays, you put her back to the right path.

There is nothing more to say to her, i know what it would be like, the pain would be hard to go, you must accept the truth, all we can do is pray, losing ones own child can be heart breaking, only think they can do is cherish her memories and pray for her spirit to rest in peace. there are times when you have to face things in life that are hard its unavoidable, all that is left to do is be strong.