My friend is jealous

@maximax8 (27334)
United Kingdom
July 24, 2011 9:54am CST
My friend is pregnant so she is being quite emotional at the moment. Their child ended playgroup and her husband gave the play leader some flowers. It was to say thank you for all she has done as their child's key worker. I gave my disabled son's play leader a gift and a card to say thanks. I told my friend that her husband would probably give her flowers the day their baby is born later this year. What do you think I could tell my friend to make her feel better? Do you think that my friend is over reacting? Do you think her husband could make a gesture to make her happy again?
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@celticeagle (117159)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jul 11
Why doesn't he bring her some flowers also? I think it was very nice of her husband to give the teacher flowers. I think your friend is over reacting. She is probably feeling low self-esteem because of being big and pregnant. I think you should tell your friend that she should feel fortunate to have such a sweet husband. Many women would be jealous of her!
@cormiera (278)
• United States
25 Jul 11
see if i were to get pregnant i would be alil self conciouse myself but then again i would know that it would be out in 9 months then i would have a little bundle of joy to carry around everyware i think it would be great to be a mom i love kids but i think that every man should buy their significant other flowers its sweet
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@celticeagle (117159)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jul 11
It really is and puts them in good stead with their gal too. Many men are too self involved to do such sweet things.
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@cormiera (278)
• United States
25 Jul 11
yup yup but see i know this gurl and he man isnt really a mooshy kinda guy and he doesnt really do that kinda stuff all the time he does it once in a blue moon kissing on her to wake her up etc but he got her used to it so she exspects it all the time and now that he doesnt do it anymore she is always down cuz he doent do nice stuff for her anymore so to all guys treeat ur ladies good lol we like it and spend as much time with us as u can lol never know what ya got till its gone
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25 Jul 11
maybe all this is just a part of her pregnancy...there are lot of ways to comfort a woman and why not pamper her to eat outside. you can talk to her and advice her that giving flowers to someone is sometimes a way to compliment someone. asking her to broaden her mind might help her and this will give her stress not only to her but also to her baby.
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@cormiera (278)
• United States
25 Jul 11
idk its kinda weird because i have know females to be very moody when they are preagnant and then some when they arnt anymore they miss it miss the feeling of the baby bein inside them so idk its both beautiful and scary ....the moody part lol
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2 Aug 11
Yes maybe giving her flowers when their baby is born would make her happy and feel better. I guess it is just one of those things - did she not know in advance he was giving the play leader some flowers?
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
25 Jul 11
I think you friend's husband have done it wrong by gave the play leader a flower without first discuss with her. As you said, pregnant woman are most of the time are quite emotional and anything that affected them will make them unhappy. So, I think the only things her husband can do to make her happy again is to give her some flower, gift or bring her to relax. As long as something as a compensation for making her unhappy.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
25 Jul 11
From my point-of-view, I think she's just over-reacting, however, if she thinks that this particular play leader is someone who's attractive and causes her to be insecure, perhaps you can't really blame her. Anyhow, does the husband know that his wife is jealous over this event? I don't really like to intervene but if it's really eating her then perhaps you should hint the husband that the wife is jealous over the gesture. I could remember when my sister-in-law was pregnant, she was really the jealous type that time. She wasn't usually jealous but when she got pregnant with her 3rd child, she was just nuts. She'd have this look when we'd talk about people and my brother would say that the person was cute. Anyhow it got better after the pregnancy, she'd even laugh about it and say that she didn't know what hit her. But perhaps it was just the hormones acting up. I hope everything would be better soon. Have a great MyLot experience.
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@AmbiePam (48116)
• United States
24 Jul 11
Yes I think she is overreacting. Unfortunately, I do not know how to deal with pregnant, emotional women. I feel like I'd tell her she is lucky to have such a good man who thinks of others. But of course that would not be helpful.
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@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
24 Jul 11
That is an ordinary to pregnant woman being emotional and jealous. You can tell her some good stories related to her situation now that she can't notice what is your intention. As we know she is very emotional and sensitive. Try to understand her situation as of now. Then let the husband know also what is happening to his wife while she is in this stage of pregnancy. Because the main factor of her jealousy is her husband so let the husband do something or changes for her, do some adjustment. Then it will be okay with her.
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@marguicha (90273)
• Chile
24 Jul 11
Pregnant woman often have problems with their hormones. It would be nice if her husband told her how beautiful she looked pregnant and brought her flowers some day. When hormones are going their own way, there´s bo way of rationatizing it, but a hug and a present would help I don´t think she is jealous of the play leader so much, but she feels ugly and not wanted (maybe).
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@Hatley (164756)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Aug 11
hi maximax8 oh my ones emotions are on a rollercoaster when you are gregnant and the farther along the more emotional you can get so yes, have her hubby shore up her sagging self esteem with a lovelyboquet of flowers. when you are huge and c annot see the tops of your shoes you willget jealous of those who are slim and pretty and then if hubby gifts them will be even more jealous. darned hormones do a pregnant lady in really.Ordinarily she is probable a sweetie so suggest hubby hug her tell her she is gorgeous and gift her with a lare boquet of flowers. lol
@bouncybug (615)
• South Africa
24 Jul 11
Did you friend feel upset because her husband gave the leader some flowers and not her? I think that she is over-reacting a little, and is just emotional due to her pregnancy! Her husband could maybe just show her some kindness and remind her that she is the most important thing in his life, and get her a bunch of flowers too to show her that he also appreciates everything that she does in his life!