Marriage Counseling Before the wedding!

I don't if it would really help, if the marriage is to work and last it will. But i can see the point of going and seeing what is said and it might help for later on. But you can use what is good and what you don't like throw out. I know it would not have helped me and my ex!! even thou we weren't married officially, made less mess when i got rid of him.

at the church I attend you have to go for several sessions of counceling and take a quiz about compatability...Both my daughters got married there and that's how I know....one marriage failed....one has succeeded! So I really don't know what the answer would be....I think it might point out differences between the man and woman and it might be a wake up call somewhere in the sessions!

We had a counseling session with the minister at his church. That wasn't really fully out marriage counseling. I do wonder, if we had done that, would we have turned up anything useful?

It is good idea to have some insight to begin with. But much depends on the willingness of both partners to act on the advice which they may receive during the counselling.

NOPE! If I had went to marriage counseling before I got married, I would not have gotten married at all. It never would have gotten off the ground. Wow, maybe I should have, now that I think of it. See, we all make mistakes.

Counseling is not necessary in general but it would be suggested in case there is a difference in caste/ religion as culture and traditions might be different. More so, the couple can go to a counselor after marriage so that they can have a joyful married life. My marriage is in its 14th year and i/ we never needed any consultation from anyone so far.

Personally, especially when a couple is in Church and relying on God for a Good Christian marriage and relationship I feel that having Counseling and attending some Counseling before the wedding is the Best thing anyone can do. This gives the couple a chance to talk about what they expect, their values, do they want children, how to organize their bill paying, etc. My husband had Counseling from our Pastor prior to getting Married and personally between that and being Strong in god attending Church, and praying it has helped out our Marriage tremendously.

If we had the chance, we would have. Our situation was strange, because we lived in two different places for so long. However, we go for a 6 week session of marriage counceling once a year, as maintenance. The way we see it, we go to the doctor to keep our bodies healthy, we go to the optometrist to keep our eyes going, we take our computers in for tuneups, and if we had cars we'd take them in for tuneups, so why not take our marriage in for a tuneup? At first the councelor wondered what we were doing, but by the end of our first set of sessions, he thought it was a great idea, and wished more people would do what we did.

Given the choice, I would like to go to a marriage counselor before marriage to learn and take some kind of important guidance. However, at this point of time, I just cannot exercise of choice, you know the reasons.

I think that's a great idea! But for some couples who are still in the 'honeymoon' stage of their relationship, I bet that going to a counselor would be farthest from their minds. They would still be swimming in the initial rush of love(?) that they would never even entertain the idea that there could be problems ahead.

Here it is compulsory that the couple (Christians) attend a premarital session where experts give talks on subjects that pertain to marriage and life beyond. But I do not think that a 3 day session will have any impact on anyone's life. It is the determined effort of the couple to make a success of it will emerge a winner.

Prior to my Catholic Church marriage we were sent to a marriage class for a week. It was interesting to see all the generic dynamics of what married life would be like. Of course this now is hindsight as I am divorced. Personally for me I can't see going to a marriage counselor prior to a marriage would have helped as my ex had a different plan. I feel that a marriage seriously is worked out with time and or breaks with time, so for me to go to a marriage counselor prior to a marriage would mean I and or my partner would have to be re-programmed. Personally I would hope the pre-program is what I am attracted to so why go to a counselor to change up things. That being the case then I would have no business marrying a person to begin with if the programming needs changes.

In my opinion you can never know what will happen when you get married. But every marriage counseling will help to keep and lead the marriage on the right way. Inclusive after the wedding.

when i read this i thought to myself, wow, if i had had marriage counselling before i got married i wouldn't have done it. but i don't think that is really true. i am not sure whether it is a good idea. i think talking about what marriage is beforehand is a good idea, but on the otherhand, in a world of limited resources, probably the best time for counselling is when problems first start to appear. rather than at a point when people are unaware that there are any.

I believe that marriage counseling for any couple considering marriage is beneficial and helpful to the relationship. It does not mean your marriage needs help before it gets started. Meaningful relationships deserve meaningful insights such as marriage counseling. it is not a necessity but sometimes it can certainly be a blessing.

hmmmm...to be honest that sound so unlikely but i think that is possible for a couple to do. it's funny how i found this discussion. in two weeks time my bf and i are getting married. i hope we wont have to be into this situation. =)

I think marriage counseling is beneficial before the wedding. This will enlighten the couple on how to be prepare on what marriage will bring. Yes, I think if a couple would have gone marriage counseling they will have a better and longer marriage. This will serve as a guide to their relationship.

Over here ,It seems that there is no such a service trade but matrimonial agency.What does their work deal with?Marriage is what both parties are willing.Firstly,both parties must get along for some time.

I think that is a very good idea. You don't really know what could be a catastorphy since it has not come up as of yet. So yes I think would be a good idea to go and see a therapyst to take care of any loose ends. It can only make your relationship better and if it ruiens it....you know it was not meant to be.