Are you good at remembering names?

@thetis74 (1525)
August 11, 2011 7:59pm CST
Remembering names has always been my problem. Unless I get to mingle with the new friends or neighbors often I tend to forget their names easily. And it is embarrassing when you meet an old classmate from years behind who can call you by your name and you can't recall their names. What normally happens is that when it comes to the point that I'd ask for a number I'd just say "What shall I write here?" Then I will remember. It is so silly.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
12 Aug 11
I'm really good at remembering names. I think that a large part of that can be attributed to the fact that I assisted in teaching Sunday school for many years when I was a teenager. Because of that, there would be many different names that I would have to remember. Then, since I've been an adult and mother, I've been very involved in playgroups with my children which means that I encounter many different families and I really need to remember their names as well.
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
That is really good. You do need a lot of remembering if you regularly have to be with a lot of them especially when the most things you do involves more and more different people every time.
@vegegirl (828)
• Australia
12 Aug 11
No I have often had trouble. I think it can be affected by other stresses and busyness that is happening in my life at the time, sometimes I forget some of my nieces or nephews, or brother in laws names. I get worried sometimes as my dad has alzheimers so there is always the worry that it isn't normal forgetting. I often have bad sinus problems and I think this can also affect my memory. Years ago I worked on a help desk and used to talk to a lot of people in a day. Months later, if they said hello I would have problem remembering them, but if they told me what their problem had been, I could often remember them. I think it was harder to remember them as I had only spoken to a lot of them on the phone and hadn't seen their face.
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
Oh that is a little sad. But you know there are supplements that are good especially for that. I think zinc will help. Or just be healthy and try to find the right and most natural supplements for you.
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@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
no, definitely no. Thats why i dont mind asking for names unless its necessary. Hahahaha.. I easily forget and i had embarrassing moments. Ive been working for 3years now and i can only count with my fingers the names that i can recall.
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
I also don't ask unless I find the person really interesting and id I know that they can be good friends with. Why ask when we know we only forget. But sometimes I do ask but still forget.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
12 Aug 11
thetis--it is quite fine and natural. we should not forget the names of people with whom we are interacting every day. other than that it is ok. ings did u see the movie Ghazni? In that the hero will remember things only for 15 minutes. So he takes photos of all the people with whom he reacts so that he can see their names written on the reverse. This film ran very well in tamil and hindi also.may be they would have made one in philipine language also.
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
Oh, I am sorry. I wont be able to watch the movie. I am in the Philippines. When I was in Oman and Dubai I used to watch Hindi films. Even if I don't understan them. I loved Maduri Dixit. And Tendulkar. Haha. Just kidding. You know he is a cricketer. Yes, it is okay. Unless you are interacting with these people everyday and you forget their names. I wish I could find a dvd on that here. I would be glad to have it.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
12 Aug 11
thetis: pl see the link. i think it is with english sub title. .http://shopnervubon.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&Itemid=69&func=view&catid=16&id=996
@TenzhoLee (193)
• Malaysia
12 Aug 11
"Hey man!" , "Hey dude!" that is what I call everyone around me except my close friends. I can't remember some strangers name when I heard it for the first time. I am shame to ask someone for their name for the second time. It is like "Hey Tenzho, Wassup!?" , Then I will like "Hey...man...(Dang what is his name again!!)"
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@thetis74 (1525)
19 Aug 11
Well it is dong for a boy and dai for a girl. Here in the Philippines my friend.
@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
Haha. We also have a general term here for a girl or guy. These are "dong" and "dai". That is how I call them until I get their name.
• Malaysia
13 Aug 11
"dong" and "dai" Which is for girl or boy, Interesting~ What country language is that?
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@mmespino (77)
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
Hi there! i have the same problem. i read a book entitles "understanding others by understanding yourself" (if my memory dictates right). in the book there was a personality test and i did not missed to took the it. i discovered that i am a "popular sanguine" type of person. one of the characteristics of a popular sanguine is having a hard time in remembering names because their interest is not in what they hear but more of in what they see. like, when a popular sanguine meets a person, more often than not forget the person's name but remember where exactly the mole/birth mark in the face of the person they met. there was a time, when i and my friend (macy) was in the mall a lady approached me and ask "hi m---y (my name), still remember me?" i replied, "yes, of course" but i don't remember her name. i introduced her to my friend by saying---- "hey, this is macy and macy this is my classmate in high school(w/o mentioning her name)". then i ask her to save her number in my phone, then that was the only time i remembered her name.. I guess, there are type of person who is forgetful and i believe it's not a problem..
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
Haha. That was a good one. And you got there one good book. Yes, I do agree that it is not such a problem at all.
• Philippines
13 Aug 11
yup..and i feel so blessed to be a popular sanguine because popular sanguine are optimistic and fun to be with...
@greenline (14838)
• Canada
12 Aug 11
That is a very good question to me. As I get older, I do forget a lot of things. And, the worst of them all is "names", names of people, novels, places visited, and so on. I am really amazed with myself. Now that you have mentioned that you are having the same problem, that makes me feel a bit better. I am not alone after all ! Thank you very much Thetis.
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
It's my pleasure greenline. Of course you are not alone and I believe that it happens to almost everyone. This condition is always included in memory improvement books. There are techniques that helps us to remember names. But I really don't bother much about it, unless if I am beginning to forget names of mt closest family members. Haha. Then it would surely be a big problem that requires fixing.
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
I guess it's just natural for us to forget sometimes the names of the persons whom we haven't encountered or haven't any interaction for a long time. Maybe it's because our consciousness about those persons for a long time became less. I'm also like this and would just ask apology if I couldn't remember well their names. Sometimes it's embarrassing and sometimes that person might get offended because he/she can remember my name but I can't remember her/his name. I think it's easier for me to remember their faces than their names. I also would feel silly.
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
I do agree. But not to worry because I always have a feeling that they are happy that we remember them even if we don't remember their names.
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
Not really, but it's only during the first few days. After more time spending with new friends, and getting to know them more, I get used to them and then remember names. But, yeah, I'm no good during the first few. Especially on my organization when new members are introduced, and I don't get to bond with them much.
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
I think it is just fair if you can't recall during the first few encounters. One best way to remember names is to be with the people again and again.
@bluespygirl (2112)
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
Hello there. I can say that I am good at remebering names. Just recently, I had met my gradeschool to college classmates and batchmate names and I can still remember them all! :) I always try to remember each person that I had talked or connected and most especially if we had spent some time together.
@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
Really? I am envious. Haha. That is just very good. Such a very lucky girl you are. I wish i could be like that at least sometimes.
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
12 Aug 11
me too... i found it hard to remember names, specially those who i haven't meet in a long time. I remember their faces and back in the past we used to be playing together but their name is so hard to remember. I remember one time i met my old friend who i haven't met in 3 years, when i met him, smile at him and talk about the past for over half an hour while inside my head i tried to remember his name. Luckily after half an hour his name poped up in my brain so i don't feel stupid because forgeting his name.
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
At least you suddenly remembered and you don't feel silly. It is so amusing when we experience these things. We feel a little stupid especially if the person we are talking to remembers our name. But it is really good that you could recall after a while. It i very good indeed.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
I totally sucks at remembering names XD I sucked then and I still sucks now Lol! I'm open and told on practically most discussion that I'm part of this JPop fanbase here and I get to meet quite a lot of people. I remember faces but I simply can't remember names! There's this one time I met this fan somewhere and she called on me. I was with my friends and I simply stared at her. She was smiling and I know she's expecting me to greet her. I really tried to recall her name but I can't XD Instead, I just gave desperate laugh and said "I honestly know your face. I know I met you at this past event but I really can't remember your name! I'm sorry!" and she laughed and told me her name. I REALLY apologized and she said it's ok. We still talk online :D It really amazes me how other people can remember faces AND names :D
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
I can remember faces too. It really feels so awkward isn't. But these people do understand, I'm sure. What is important is that we don't ignore them only because we have forgotten their names. They will be more than just happy.
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
Well I also experiencing the same as you. I sometimes tend to easily forgot something that was just told to me even after a few seconds. That's what we called "short term memory" It natural for us to experience that since our brain can only stores data. Sometimes I also having hard time to remember names especially for those people who I just meet once. But I am good in remembering through their faces.
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
That is okay, actually because we will remember those names anyway if we are always interacting with them
• United States
12 Aug 11
I have a terrible time remembering the names of people I knew a long time ago and those that I've met just recently. What I do when I can't remember the name of someone I clearly should know the name of is I just smile and say, "I know I should know your name, and I've probably asked you what it is before, but could you remind me what it is?" Then I'll reintroduce myself to the other person and we'll get a good chuckle over how neither one of us remembered each others names. I think it's more common than we know!
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@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
Haha. Yes it sure is. But I am sure they will understand. We just never know that they have the same problem too sometimes.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Aug 11
thetis74 hi oh i am awful at remembering namesand I will go hi Miss uh miss uh and often they will take pity and give their name but sometimes they just make me say I am so sorry but I forgot your name. You have a great idea ask for phone number and ask what shall I write here? thats a neat idea. lol lol lol
@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
Hahaha. Good day Hatley! How do you do? At least they take pity on you knowing you have the problem remembering. I know that for that they do understand. And when you are sorry they will understand you more. Best Regards.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Aug 11
Didn't used to be a problem, but now when I meet somebody, unless I repeat the name several times, it's in and out of my brain so fast, I don't know what hit me. I don't forget names that I've learned before though. Once they're in, they're in.
@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
Well, I guess our memory isn't like a computer that remembers and registers everything. That is okay. The only problem would be if we forget even the names of the people we are close to and interact everyday. Then that would be a real concern. At least we did do efforts in trying to remember. Take care.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
12 Aug 11
Hhahah.... the same problem with me when I forget my students name then I call them hello hero pay attention here, hello smart girl pay attention here then they say me ohh madam please call us by name then I tell them ohh my dear student my member is loss so I cant remember your name.
@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
Hahaha. I would definitely understand my teacher if he forgets my name. It wouldn't be that easy remembering all the name of all your students unless the student is either very intelligent or someone giving me problems every time. Hehe.
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
every time i save my friends name or classmates name over my phone,i put on their complete names because i tend to forgot afterward.. this always happen to me every time me and friends (former classmates) meet up and we discuss about our other classmates... i always find it hard to recall who they are talking too.. like, Jenny?... Jenny?... they would say,, common keith, its Jenny Ariza... then i would feel awkward... now that's why i completely save up their names.. also in times that i feel i would really be embarrassed because i don't know his or her name, i try to ask some one closest and ask silently who his or her name is... but in times when im alone and has no one to ask and i meet up with someone i know from the past and i couldn't recall his or her name, i try my best to converse to him or her without saying his or her name.. its as if i know his or her name all through out our conversation, then i will do a research afterwards using facebook as to who he or she was..
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
Hahaha! GooD thing you have the courage to do so.. But as for me, i think they might get offended so its better for me to find it out later..
@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
That is what i sometimes do. Also I'd wait for someone else to call the person's name and try to remember. But in times when you meet just that single person, it is just impossible that I'd end up asking what their names are or feel so awkward for the rest of the conversation.
• Philippines
12 Aug 11
Oh my goodness! Remembering names is my major weakness. It's really embarrassing! Especially when you bump into these "forgotten faces" and then they chat you up, and I can't even introduce them to the one I'm with at the time. So what do it do? I just don't introduce them to one another. I know...it's rude. But I don't want to embarrass anyone else any further. :(
@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
Haha. When it happened to me, I'll say, "what was your nick-name again" or "how were you called before". Then at least they think I remember. Still it is embarrassing if they were called by their real names.
12 Aug 11
hi:) I have problems in remembering names too,especially when I already saw them once or just been introduced by friends, but I can easily remember their looks, I just hope I'm more better in remembering their names too, because it's embarrassing to ask their name again because they might think that I am not interested in knowing them because I forget their names.
@thetis74 (1525)
12 Aug 11
Halo! I think it is natural forgetting when you just met them once. We do meet a lot of people every time and people can understand that we can't possibly remember every name. That is okay. We do remember if we are frequently with them.