Missing the missing

Singapore
August 17, 2011 6:56pm CST
Hi friends, This is a topic on a missing friend whom I suddenly miss. I know him from my university and we used to be quite close. Something sad happened to him here and he went away overseas to study. In the beginning he came back he would still look us up and have a gathering. Since 6 years ago, I have not heard anything from him. Today I thought of this friend suddenly and I miss him. Even though there are other friends whom I have not contacted for a long time, I do not miss them as much because I know that they are always within reach and contactable, either through FB, mobile or other friends. I think I have totally lost touch with this friend and nobody seems to be contacting him at all. Do you feel this way with your friends? Have you lost touch with anybody whom you like to contact with again? Please share your stories and your thoughts.
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8 responses
• United States
18 Aug 11
I am sorry to hear you miss your friend. Sadly life takes some people in different directions and we loose touch with some we care a great deal for. I have had some contact with high school and college friends. Then there are times I have no idea where some of them have gone and I do think of them often.
• Singapore
18 Aug 11
It is inevitable that we go in different directions sooner or later but I believe that true friends will stay friends for life, whereever we may be and however far apart we are. I'm sure if I do meet up with my friend, our friendship will still remain.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
20 Aug 11
There is a couple of friends that I have been trying to contact too. At different times, we were close. But some drama happened that made us drift apart, and I haven't been able to contact them. Even on facebook, I couldn't find them. Either they don't have an account or they are using some variation of their names. I miss them too!
• Singapore
23 Aug 11
"But some drama happened that made us drift apart"...you are so dramatic in your description... I find that I seldom get friend requests in facebook because I didn't use my real name, nor do I put my picture as the profile picture. That could be the problem. If you use your real name in your facebook account, maybe they can look for you instead. Good luck!
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
23 Aug 11
Oh yes, drama! That is code for 'we had a little spat!'.
• Singapore
24 Aug 11
oh no...
@annavi23 (6306)
• Philippines
19 Aug 11
hello bluemoon! nice to hear from you. it's been a long time since i have interaction with you here. well, yes i do miss some friends and there are few who have lost contact with. i missed a friend i do have before. i lost contact with her cause the last thing i know from her is she lost her cellphone so i don't have any contact from her since last four years i guess. it's too bad that we lost contact with friends we used to care for. but things happen. i don't even know how to get to their house. friends who knew her don't have her number as well. i just hope she's always okay. same as your friend you missed.
• Singapore
23 Aug 11
hello annavi, Yes, it's been a long time since I was here, glad to hear from you again! Losing numbers because we lost our handphones is such a common problem, I myself have experience this so many times. Maybe those people who still kept the traditional of recording names and contacts in notebooks are much smarter! Yes, I wish all our friends are safe and happy somewhere in this world.
• United States
19 Aug 11
I had a classmate in college who was younger than the rest of our block. I tend to feel drawn to guys who are are younger than I am and it helped that we were from the same private school system. We lost tough some time before Christmas. I don't remember where exactly he'd gone to, but I recently found out that another friend of mine knows someone with the same last name as Jonathan does (that's his name) and is from the same town. I do wonder about these friends of mine. Jonathan was special because he confided a lot of stuff to me and we formed a brother-sister bond. I hope to run into him one day.
• Singapore
23 Aug 11
Sounds like you may have a clue to find out his whereabouts, good luck in finding him! Maybe he is trying to look for you too but just didn't have the means of contact. Hope you get reunited some day.
@trezege (66)
• South Africa
18 Aug 11
You have two choices here,It either you make an effort to look for him, you can ask friends or relatives that know him, maybe they can help you relocate him, but this can backfire because you might here that he is no longer intersted in your friendship. Or you can just forget about him and move on. I don't worry about loosing close friends because I know that friendship can come and go becuase people grow and develop other interests
• Singapore
19 Aug 11
You have a point there. I do accept that people change and friendships also change. I have also come to terms with it. I only wish him success and happiness in his life, whether we meet up again or not.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
18 Aug 11
I did! :) I missed my best friend and I wasn't in touch with her for quite 5 years ago.. In that time, many has changed.. that's when earlier this year I've known I am not her best friend anymore. She found a replacement for me.. That's the saddest thing happened to me this year!
• Singapore
19 Aug 11
Hello, Well, you are not best friends but you are still friends right? Changes take place in our lives and I think this is quite normal. People come and go in our lives, I think we should take this in stride. Thanks for sharing!
@shibham (17022)
• India
18 Aug 11
Hi moon... Actually, i was not so much attached with a friend in my entire life and whom i missed a lot. i am person who has less friends and contact with them. I wish to live my life alone and here i can say that my online friends are more helpful and trustworthy than friends in person and i am satisfied with it. have a great time.
• Singapore
19 Aug 11
Hi shi... This is a bit surprising to hear, so you have more online friends then real life friends? I guess nowadays friendship can be various forms. I also have one online friend whom I chatted with many times but I have never seen him or hear his voice before. Even though we are still "strangers", we share a lot about ourselves.
@Hatley (164468)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 11
hi oh my where have you been bluemoonpavilion I am missing someone here whom I am afraid is ill again,you probably know her as she lives in England with her sweet doggie Gissi. I have not seen a discussion nor any responses from her either and Pyewacket, several here whom I really cared about but you are here again.you were here when I started. You had family problems and I felt so sorry for you. but time has passed and things change for us all. I am stuck here in t this retirement center and my son in Hope haven but at least he is not too far away and comes to see me every week too. I also miss the group we had we called our support group as there were my best friend Nelda and I and Alice and her daughter, and Shiv and his wife. only nelda and I keep in touch. alice's daughter is on facebook and I was in touch with her once and she was going to bring her mom to see me but nothings happened. also the people I worked with for 23 years now I have not received a call or have they come to see me. we were all very close but I retired and I guess out of sight out of mind too.
• Singapore
18 Aug 11
Hi Mrs Hatley, I have disappeared for almost a year but yes, now I am back again. I am sorry to have missed so many of your discussion, but you will hear from me again. It is nice to have friends close by who keep in touch now and again, at least over the web or over the phone if not physically. As for your colleagues, maybe you can call them, I'm sure they will be very happy to hear from you.