Love can kill?

Philippines
August 25, 2011 8:06am CST
Hello Lotters, I remember making a discussion long ago about a woman killed the mistress for the love of the hubby, while the hubby regretted of what he did, taking care of the new born child, the wife is in Jail cleaning the floor. There was a young man who hang himself because he didn't took it well when his GF broke up with him. another was a husband who threw himself from some floor to the ground because he discovered the wife having an affair with some one. Finally, tonight A teen killed some one in the net cafe, then killed himself. simply, because of jealousy. I can understand the hurting part though, but there is one thing that relates to all of these stories; They didn't love themselves first except for the first paragraph, the rest are true stories. I believe that their inability to move on is what killed them and it's love. Love is supposedly selfless.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
25 Aug 11
Over the centuries love has always killed Too much, or not enough, but rarely is love as it is supposed to be http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2N7csaYFkqw&feature=related http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l1DOkwzo31s&feature=related
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
26 Aug 11
Can't you download them?
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
my brother doesn't want to since it's his.and it's an old Laptop
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello Aunt D. yes, it's been like that for a long time. and sorry i couldn't watch you're videos since this laptop doesn't have a flash player or any other programs for that matter. have a nice day.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
dear LK, I beg to disagree. LOVE is not the culprit here. Love never knows the word jealousy,envious,selfishness,greed,hatred and anger. Love is divine and always understand. It is the person's fault,blindly loving someone and never accept reality or refuse to admit realities in this life. I know love can make us cry and give us pain...and it's up to us to think,accept and learn to understand that love is not a possession. have a good day dear brother jaiho®
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello Sis-Jaiho, I believe Love is not culprit and i agree but i never said such but people die or things get killed when they couldn't accept that love is gone. I believe jealousy is part of love when they fear loosing to some one else when the partner find some one new. well, if only cry in pain is the only that can help us forget the pain then we should do it. have a nice day
• India
27 Aug 11
Dear sis jaiho I am disagree with your view yes love can kill and jealousy is also there where is love. Only 5% people can understand this thing what is love? like you
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
26 Aug 11
That is not love. That is jealousy, anger due to a resistance of what is. She did not kill the mistress because she loved him; she did it because she was jealous. She had this idea of what love was and when her lover didn't fit into that, she couldn't deal with it and did a horrible thing. Jealousy is not love. Love is not an emotion. This idea of "ever after" is really messing up our relationships.
• Philippines
27 Aug 11
Hello sketch, Well if it's too much then I guess it is no longer considered as love in the first place because it is being bound to hate.i think he can grow to be the best if he really wanted. kung makikita gn oc prts. have a nice day
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
this kind of love really create a lot of unexpected negative scenarios. in my opinion, it is more of the hurt and pain that have driven such acts. there are a few who really could not handle giving it all of themselves for love and then only to finding out being betrayed, love is lost, and revenge would prove not futile.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello Obe212,I believe it's the kind of reaction from a person who doesn't want others or their partners to be happy since they are moving away from them, which happens all the time to most people. love is lost once this act is done. have a nice day.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
27 Aug 11
yeah i quite agree, but on the contrary, those looking for revenge seem to have an emotional imbalance causing an abnormal psychological behavior, which in cases like these tend towards the extreme. when love is lost and one can't accept that fact, then surely one should expect the unexpected.
• Indonesia
25 Aug 11
you right. about all of story. and that words: Love is supposedly selfless. many people wrong to description about love. love is universal. not about you and your GF/BF, but all people around you.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello henki, maybe they were not selfless enough to give or move on after a terrifying event like that. but it's easy to say when we are on that situation, love is universal and i envy those who don't hesitate to let go of some one just for them to be happy. have a nice day.
• Indonesia
26 Aug 11
well, i have secret. i have many ex girlfriend. and if i on that situation? i always on that situation, and yes, that hurt. but make me more mature to see what is love.
@Rosa26 (2618)
• United States
26 Aug 11
Jesuschrist is the best demostration of love, he gave his life for love to us, a mother would give her blood, heart , or any organ of her lbody to safe the life a her kids. But killing? no, no that is not love that is being selfish, that is thinkg just about you, meaning that the only person you care is you, and that is not love. Love is kind, expect everything, is suffer, is giving you not wating but anything. So no real,love can't kill. Happy lotter!
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello Rosa, I agree, that's way too selfish and these people didn't give a damn about their own lives. I hope we have learn from this lesson and not repeat their mistakes. they through their precious lives over something that they can move forward to. have a nice day
@derek_a (10874)
26 Aug 11
Yes, this is a very sad situation and something that I have heard of so many times before and I don't think that it is Love that killed the young man, but a strong lack of self esteem and confidence, that given the right circumstanced could have been address _Derek
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello derek, Yes a bad situation indeed. well, it's something that been heard before though.yes lack of self esteem is what caused these people to do it, not to mention the feeling of hurt and depression that they felt on that moment. but we can easily say it because we are not on that situation, but i guess if they went to their friends, then it could have been easier to let go to. have a nice day
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
Maybe you are right for saying they didn't love their themselves first. They didn't think or they didn't care what will gonna happen to them if they did those things. I feel sorry for them. There are really many weak person. Maybe they were didn't guide well by their parents or guardians. And maybe they have lack in faith and belief in God. It's really saddening to heard those kind of stories.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello Angelbelle, maybe they weren't expecting something like that since in a relationship opposite love is about sharing lives but you cant control some one elses lives or dictate upon it. even despite of the guidanhttp://www.mylot.com/images/emotes/happy.gifce, it's the persons will and decisions defines his or her maturity.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
25 Aug 11
You are right you have to love yourself before you can love others. It was not so much their love for the other person that killed them it was the lack of love for themselves. If they truly loved themselves they would be hurt then wipe their selves off then told them selves they could do better and eventually move on. That is what strong people do. People who have a good sense of self and self love. Everyone of us will be hurt in our life times by someone somehow, but is it worth wasting our lives or the life of someone else over? I don't think so, there are other fish in the sea.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
it is a sad story that some people are really so emotional and i think "narrow minded" to end their life that way and for that reason. i know i have no right to judge them, because i am not on their shoes, but everybody experience pain, and heartaches, and some just don't survive. i think they need if someone have this intuition, they should be given serious attention and be brought to psychological medication. it is very sad that love can kill them, when it should give them life and motivation to move on with the battle.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello Chill, It's either none of us are on that event they have experienced or some of us didn't experience that degree of pain. the best thing for them to do is consult with family and friends. they should have at least go to friends or a councilor or psychiatrist. anyways, these stories gave me a reason to live and think about things when ever something goes wrong. have a nice day.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
HI LK, In my opinion, we know in someways we agree that there is a part of us in our life that would certainly die when there is lost of love, a part of our heart die, the dreams will also die, the life can die because it will never be the same, and its all because of the love, but ofcourse its also its depends how we handle the situation and to the persons who are in that situation. I believe also that, why do we have break ups?Simply because, God is making you understand what love truly is. We learn and we became strong in order to face those challenges, and those challenges we can grow because if we cant grow, we cannot prosper, if we do not prosper, we die. People love because they want a reason to live.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello Mikaela_taz, I believe that as long as we have the power to love that means we can't let this kind of situation bring us down. it would be very much unfair to those who love us and kept worried about us when ever when we are not ourselves. we have the strength to move on and right now i believe that we can if we want to, it's our will that counts. have a nice day
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
26 Aug 11
I don't think love can kill...I just think there are people who can't accept reality...and don't love themselves very much! my grandson's girl friend is one of them she keeps telling him if he leaves her she will kill herself! and now he does not know what to do! it is a very bad situation indeed.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello Alottodo, That is dragging him to that relationship but it's because of obsession and not love, your grand-daughter had become selfish and didn't want him to let go for his own happiness, it's usual. the reality is always painful most specially if we don't choose to be open minded to it. have a nice day.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
love does not only kill friend, it could also cause a person to kill if he gets too carried away with emotions or unable to handle human relations sanely and properly, think these sort of things are called crimes of passion
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello Louie, If Love has been rejected or cheated then it will lead to hate. it's sad in this generation where emotions are too much focus on and not the act of love itself. crimes of passion is a nice term but i prefer to call it the passion of hate or revenge, it's a negative reaction for a bad situation involving love.
@HeartROB (434)
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Love is not the one that killed those people. Love is supposedly gives life. Its their stupidity that killed them. If they love, then they would not try to kill themselves. Love is everything about life.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello HeartROB, That's true, it's supposd to give life of happiness to every one involved. well, every single event in life we go experience through our dark chapters. there's always tomorrow, those who chose to end it i pity them also for not moving forward. have a nice day
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
killing someone because of love is crazy. why do you have to insist yourself to someone who dont like you? i guess there is always a chance to get to know the person and be close to them and start being friends.... some people gets too obsess that to the point they are willing to hurt the one they love. if you love that person you will wish them happiness. if you love a person you want that person to be happy even if it hurts you. so this kind of things happens but its just plain stupid. just like you there is a part that i understand like the hurting but i dont get it why do they have to kill. love is supposedly giving and understanding... in that case that is no longer love it is obsession already. just my opinion.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello seven, I think some probably didn't have enough strength to love the other or believe they couldn't move on with out them. obession is a bad thing and that is basically not love but pure selfishness to boot. I agree with you, it's supposed to giving, and if the partner doesn't want anymore, just let him or her goo have a nice day
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
30 Aug 11
i heard a lot of sad stories like those you mentioned. i know it's hard to love one and be hurt in the end. that's why i don't want to fall in love again.
• Mexico
29 Aug 11
Hi Letran Knight: I don't think it'¡s because of love. People who kill themselves or kill someone because of love are usually selfish or their feeling is not pure, it's just a sick obsession. WHen you love someone you sometimes have to let go or accept that you maybe can't get what you want. ALVARO
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
25 Aug 11
Hi sweetie. Well, i am going to sound harsh now. But those people surely are nuts. Why ruin your life and those of others? I don't get it, sorry.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello Saphie, They are nuts but that is love and people quest to be happy even if it's not their partner. some people just don't want to move on and instead just ruin themselves by ruining others who are supposed to be happy with their lives. have a nice day.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
8 Jan 12
hi, love is a thing that can control and rule us in our life,love really have a big role in our life and really affect it,sometimes it is uncontrollable and turn to kill their own life just because of being heart broken.and everyone for sure experiencing this in their life.
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
It's sad that someone have to die because of their love to someone without realizing that there is still someone who loves them very much. Yeah you are right they don't love their self. I think they should be aware that they should love their self before they love someone to avoid this incident.
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Hello Sharkbait, There's a saying there's a lot of fish in the pond, he or she can always find some one else.but we can say this now because we don't experience what they areight they don't love their self. I think they should be aware that they should love their self befight they don't love their self. I think they should be aware that they should love their self bef experiencing. but when we are in the situation, we don't know what's going to happen to us. the important is that we don't repeat what they did. have a nice day.