old age

@mammots (3295)
Philippines
August 27, 2011 8:17am CST
in your old age: 80's.90's or almost a hundred years old; would you like to spend your remaining years in a home for the elderly or would you like to live with your children and their family and let them take care of you until your death? i am taking care of my 81 year old mother in our home but she also looks forward to spending time with my other siblings and she's very happy and growing old very gracefully inspite of having an illness. i have chosen to spend my old age in a home for the elderly how about you? have you thought about where to spend your old age?
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@TrvlArrngr (4058)
• United States
27 Aug 11
This is a tough one. I would not want to be a burden on my children but i would love to be around family. I work in a retirement community on the weekends and while most are active and friends with each other - many have no outside visitors and when their health declines the family only come in when absolutely necessary or at the very end. Very sad.
@barehugs (8992)
• Canada
28 Aug 11
I am almost 78 and still working, but when I am unable to work I will spend the rest of my life in a local nursing home. The reasons being, The nursing home has a Dr. on call and nurses on staff that are hired to care for the residents of the nursing home. The residents of the nursing home are my age, and our interests are the same, we will always have good conversation, and games together. Family members have many responsibilities without caring for elders who may be sickly, God knows life is not easy these days!
@marguicha (80477)
• Chile
28 Aug 11
I´m glad that you have nursing homes where you live that you can come and go as you please. We have that kind in my country, but they are only for the very rich.
@marguicha (80477)
• Chile
27 Aug 11
I would not want to live o long, but if I did, I would prefer t be near my children if I was sound of mind. Old age is terrible sometimes. I would not want to be a burden for them either. So my wish, really, is not to get to be so old.
@marguicha (80477)
• Chile
28 Aug 11
I don´t think I want to stay frever young either, but maybe we should have a right to eat the adecuate pillwhen we feel that life is a little to much.
@thezone (9452)
• Ireland
28 Aug 11
I do not plan to live that long But if I do I will go to a home as I don't want to burden my loved ones
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
28 Aug 11
Yes, I guess being in a retirement facility at your old age is pitiful.Imagine being left in the care of someone and seldom visited by family members.I guess in other countries it's a convenience for the family members because most of them are busy with their works.But for me I don't want to be in retirement homes and if it's possible I would like to stay with a family member just in case.
• Philippines
28 Aug 11
Just like your parents, I don't want to spend my days in the elderly home. I wish I can spend it with my family. I am still young and I can still earn my keeps. I believe if I have saved enough to support me during my old age, I would not be much of a burden to my family. Maybe I would ask them to hire a caregiver if my family member would not be able to come into my aide. But more or less, I would still want to see them daily specially in my old age, before I rest.
@koperty3 (1877)
27 Aug 11
I would chose to spend my remaining time with my family. Few years I was working as a care assistant in nursing home in UK. I would never put my mother there neither would decide to go there by myself. It wasn't about the care or anything. The care was great. It was the way the families treated this people. They did not visit them often. Most of elderly people in nursing homes dying when they feel that no one needs them any more.