Love an Imperfect Person Perfectly!

United States
August 31, 2011 7:52pm CST
This is a quote from Selena Gomez.It says it all. No one is perfect but if you can love them in spite of or Because of their flaws, then your love is true. I have always agreed with the thought of when you find a person who you can understand and like and they get and like you? Hold On!Your thoughts.
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@bagarad (12653)
• Paso Robles, California
1 Sep 11
Jesus and Paul also teach us to love unconditionally, and even to love our enemies. If you've read the New Testament, you know that the followers of Jesus were no more perfect back then than they are today. But Jesus loved them enough to give his live for them. Then he told them to "Love one another as I have loved you." If we love those who will love us back, it is no virtue, since anyone can do that. What's hard is to love those who don't love you, in spite of their faults. John says in I John 4:20 that if anyone says he loves God and hates his brother (meaning another person), he is a liar, for if we can't love our brother, whom we have seen, how can we love God,whom we have not seen? I'm sure anyone who has really thought it through realizes that "if" love, and "because of" love are not really love at all. If someone one loves one who meets his expectation or does what he wants him to, that's not love. I you only love someone because of what they are or do, that's not real love, either. Genuine love loves in inspite of what a person is or does. Only God's love always meets that standard.
• United States
1 Sep 11
All this means is I don;t love my guy because he is perfect for me? I am not virtuous just because I refuse to love my enemies? Ok! Call me evil. This is why I am not Christian , I can not nor will not live this way! I love my guy partly because he loves me. So by rule it isn't love. So I'm damned to never be loved if this isn't love. and I accept being evil for not being Christian. That's fine.
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@bagarad (12653)
• Paso Robles, California
1 Sep 11
Most marriages are based on because of love, not in spite of love. They sometimes grow into mature in spite of love, as both people realize nobody is perfect and one will be strong when the other is weak. Sometimes, though, everything is rosy at the beginning of the relationship until one person begins to feel he or she is not having needs or expectations met. The question is whether love will survive this. Emotions can change and people may not be as happy in ten years as they are now. Only God is perfect and human love is only a reflection of that. All human love is imperfect, but it is still good. Because you can't love perfectly doesn't mean you are evil anymore than anyone else is. But couples who stay together for life have usually learned to forgive when they have hurt each other and are willing to accept the other as he or she is -- even when there are things they don't like. I doubt if there is any perfect marriage on this earth because there aren't any perfect people on this earth. The problem comes when we expect someone else will be perfect and then find he or she has imperfections that are hard to live with.
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• United States
1 Sep 11
Who mentioned marriage? To me marriage is the opposite of love. These two can't be mixed. and I never said that my guy doesn't fulfill my needs. Or that I would ever mature, lol. I know that G-d said yes to my wish list and now I have my guy, But if to make this love More perfect means I have to marry Or love an enemy I will not , and by saying no doesn't that mean I;m evil and must be punished?I assume once you say no to other's G-d you are damned, right? I' love the feeling that I'nm damned so now people can leave me alone!
@inertia4 (27713)
• United States
1 Sep 11
That is true lose then. That means to me that they even love your flaws. But sometimes we get mixed up and make mistakes like I did. But now I know how true this quote really is.
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• United States
1 Sep 11
Me too. I never thought a guy would love me flaws and all. But my guy does!
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@inertia4 (27713)
• United States
1 Sep 11
We be a couple of lucky people.
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• United States
1 Sep 11
Damn Straight!
• Canada
1 Sep 11
My husband and I are both imperfect, but we are imperfect in complimentary ways. I can't cook, he can. He can't manage money, I can. And so many more. My husband once said that marriage, or any other kind of committed romantic relationship means that the sum of the whole is greater than the combined sum of both parts, that is to say, 100 + 100 doesn't just equal 200, it equals 2,000 or more. Make sense? That two people can fit together so well they create something bigger than both of them combined.
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• United States
1 Sep 11
That's it! That's what I have with my guy! What I am not , he is. What is isn't , I am. So when we come together we are One. And together we are stronger than we could ever be alone. I can't believe I get to experience it!
• United States
1 Sep 11
That is great! I consider tht my wife and I are gifts from God to each other so we try to give each other as close to unconditional love as we can.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Sep 11
I'm very imperfect, does this also mean I am very lovabley?! I jest. But I think I agree with this (I can't believe I am agreeing with something Selena Gomez said). I look at imperfections as grooves on a wheel. Sometimes, another imperfect person (not a smooth wheel) would match up with another's groove.
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@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
6 Sep 11
...geez! lovable, not lovabley!
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• United States
7 Sep 11
No worries I read lovable. And yes You are lovable , Very! Your perfect match is just imperfect enough to be a perfect fit.Speaking of perfect , it is Pippa's 28th birthday!
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
7 Sep 11
Well, happy birthday Pippa! I still have to find that facebook page dedicated to her bum!
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@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
2 Sep 11
I never have or will found true love as you know. Finding love is to hard and not for me. I am better off being single and a loner. I am pretty happy this way! To me true love stinks! Really stinks!
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• United States
2 Sep 11
I'm sorry you feel this way. I'm glad you are happy.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
1 Sep 11
Yup....true love is caring about someone in spite of their faults.....I do agree.....hold on!
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• United States
2 Sep 11
I will! Thanks.
@Rick1950 (1565)
• Lima, Peru
1 Sep 11
I think love is shown towards imperfect people. Nobody is perfect and we should concentrate more in the virtues than in the defects of others. It is easy to love only the people who also love us. :)
• United States
2 Sep 11
For most of my life I had loved from afar. they Never knew the real me . I must say it feels so much better to be loved for being the real me.
• China
1 Sep 11
To love someone is to love all of his or her including defects
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• United States
1 Sep 11
Absolutely!