Hubby needs bypass surgery.

138 for Fasting depending on what was the last thing he ate, etc. and other factors could mean Pre-Diabetic but with the numbness, etc. he really needs to be evaluated more for sure. This is not good what is going on, and I will be Praying. Like you said it might take a wake up call of you buying something in Black to actually wake him up.

This is a case of he thought it was something else that turned out to be his heart. He had spinal surgery in February because of 2 bulging disks but the surgeon couldn't understand why my husband had so much pain from the disks and also that spinal problem doesn't cause the kind of pain my husband had down his legs. Then, when his toes were going numb, becoming discolored and painful, he went to a podiatrist only to find out they couldn't find a pulse in either foot and sent him directly to the cardiologist/pulmonologist. Then, the angioplasty turned out to be worthless since the blockage is so massive and total. I agree that he really needs to see what he needs most but his eyes are closed tight. He will not listen to me, the doctor or even his sister, whom he admires most. She's actually on her way here right now, driving around 300 miles from Maryland's eastern shore to our house in Virginia. I hope she can talk some sense into him but I doubt it. They'll most likely both end up getting drunk since that's what they always do when they get together. I'll just stay in my room watching TV and/or playing on the computer, especially since I haven't been feeling well today myself. (Too much stress, most likely.) I've done all I can. I hope something can make him open his eyes. Oh! We found out that his fasting blood sugar was 138 and this was after he told them he has hypoglycemia. I've told him that he can't keep saying that since he was last tested around 35 years ago and he's most likely diabetic by now. I'm not sure if 138 is diabetic or pre-diabetic but it's not good.

Sorry, didn't know the whole situation when I made my response. Sorry to hear you are so stressed. Thanks about my mom.

Sounds like your son is very understanding of your situation with his dad. It's good that you haven't tried to sugar coat it. I think that children do worse with surprises sometimes than they do with the truth. We are human and we have a right to our feelings. I wish I had been more open about things sometimes with my children. I was trying to "protect" them. Yeah right...just ended up having them think I was the bad guy for a while. Thanks goodness they grew to understand certain things. Take care.

Correct if i am wrong, but it seems you are already prepared for any eventuality that can happen to him, because of his bad habits. I can fully understand now, why you feel that way with him. Just be strong my friend .

Oh, I know the surgery is very common these days but the problem is that my husband may never get to the surgery because he will not stop smoking and he must in order for them to operate on him. I believe he wants to die and, if that's his wish, I can't do anything for him. I've tried for years to wake him up before it was too late and it just may be too late now. Either way, I'm not worrying. It's out of my hands and he'll do what he wants to do so I won't worry about it.

Thank you. He needs all the good wishes he can get. He won't help himself.

dont worry my friend.. every thing will be ok.. God is with you....

Try to be calm. Don't be too alarmed. Surely you have medical's phone number. If something get worst you have always the option to enter your husband through emergency in the hospital.

Thank you, libramie. Honestly, I've been through so much with this man, with his not listening to good advice from me or from doctors, that I'm ready to give up. I'm not going to try to help him because he doesn't want help. All I can do is distance myself as much as possible from any emotions regarding him and pick up the pieces as they fall. He won't allow me (or anyone) to do anything else. He needs a lot of help, I just wish he would see that and allow it.