How to make new friends

I'm shy too. I have tried often to break out of my shell and approach others which is not always easy and it is not always successful. The days of innocence when we were in early school are over. All we needed to do as kids was to ask someone to be our friend. Now, we struggle more and more in modern society. You might feel misplaced in a new country and also being in a large city can be intimidating too. All I can suggest is approach people and make yourself available. Try using mylot to practice maybe, respond back? You will never know if you do not try that is for sure.

First of all, you have wrong definition of bad personality, by being shy and don't talk much, doesn't make you a bad person. You can only have bad personality when you don't know how to shut your big mouth, and don't know how to speak properly without vulgar and curse words like some hooligan American. If you have no confidence in your English speaking skill, then you need to speak slowly and enroll in English class to learn, you also need to stop being too shy and open your mouth sometime when you are meeting new people in your work place or school.

Start with a smile as you look at the person in her/his eyes and greet him/her with a 'hi' and surely the person will reciprocate with a smile too. A smile can break the ice which open the hearts of people to start a friendly conversation.

I know how hard it is to go to another country and and make a whole new life for your self. It will be hard at the beginning but you will eventually make friends. It has only been a month so just wait. Be friendly and smile. Be polite and not be a snob. Don't change your personality though just to please other people. I know it's cliche but just be yourself and things will eventually fall into place. Maybe join a community club like volunteering. At least their the people you will make friends with will be the good one. Good luck.

I can totally relate to you! I'm a very shy person and I don't talk that much unless I'm very familiar with you. I know people who I am very comfortable with and people I'm not so comfortable with even if I've known them for years. I'm just like that, I may open up to someone who I just met a month ago compared to someone I've known for years. It depends on the person's personality for me. Being shy, I never make the first move, I only talk if the other person talks to me first but I always get this bad feeling of the conversation getting awkward. Now moving to a completely different country is a big step that I could never take like you. Just relax and wait for someone to talk to you first and then keep the conversation flowing. If not, start with a question with someone and see where you can get to from there. Always choose your friends wisely!

hi there shirl! i know it's hard. i have the same thing when i was new in college. i was a bit shy back then because i was not exposed to a big world like college. in my former school i had the same faces that i meet along every school year and i got comfortable with that so when i was in my college school i was a bit shocked and i talk less to people whom i do not know. well, for you friend i suggest that you practice your English by talking to some natives. i am sure that they would welcome you. i don't think they will not be friend with you. just go out have some talk. try it and let's see your progress.

Hi there Shirley welcome to Mylot! I was really super shy growing up and even well into my adult years. One of my daughters was same and it was such an issue in school for her. She was actually diagnosed as being "Selective Mute" which is an anxiety disorder. It was determined that was what I had as well. Anyway, I still have my moments but I'll tell you what helped me the most of all...Get a job working in the public. It will pull you right out of! I got a job at a convenience store. At first is was painful but it didn't take long before I was comfortable laughing and talking with the regular customers. My daughter worked in a flower shop and it helped her a lot. While neither of us is as awkward talking to people we don't know as we once were, we are also not loud, outgoing people. You sound so much like my daughter who just wishes she could be more outgoing. I urge her to just accept herself as she is. She is so sweet, kind. smart , thoughtful and creative. The world needs the quiet ones too just as we need the louder, more outgoing ones. If not for us quieter ones, the others would never have an audience that wasn't competing for the stage.

You don't have a bad personality. You are just a shy person and that's not bad. Probably what you meant was you would like to improve on your personality. Try to do research on how you can make new friends. Try to make a conversation with somebody you didn't know. But, be very careful in talking to strangers too. Just make a good conversation without telling him/her about your personal life. You can make new friends by attending groups, organizations, book clubs, science clubs, and start from there. Good luck in making new friends!

First make your self available. Be where friends are. Open your self to other and make them notice you by simple smiles and hello's. If you talk less, then be a listener. Sometimes people need a listener and they appreciate those who can listen to them. Make people see you as someone they can share common interest and they will stick on you. Friends are not hard to come by with those with ready smiles!

There is nothing wrong with you because it is normal to act that way most especially you are in a foreign country. Just wait for them to approach you, they understand for sure that you really do feel shy in mingling with them. Just wear your beautiful smile to everybody you come across with, but just be careful since they know that you are a foreigner, they might take advantage of you. Take time to know those who wants to befriend you. Act normal and smart. It is not even funny when you talk differently because it is understandable that you are not like them. Conversation is conversation when you understand each other even by just using your hand to explain what you mean. There are so many friendly NewYorkers just wait for them to approach you and start the initial hi,hello and how are you then let the conversation flows freely.

You just have to go out on your comfort zone. You cannot make friends if you just sit still and wait. Well yeah, maybe someone will approach you but that is not enough. Making friends needs effort. And in order to that, you have to overcome your shyness towards other people. Make a lot of friends, Life would be enjoyable if you can make a lot of friends. Good day to you my friend.

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It is hard to makes friends easy if you are moving to other place.What i think is you can make friends like smile to people ,and also do not be shy, start a little talk,asking something or so. But be careful because not all people around you are nice .You can make friends soon.

You just have to go out your comfort zone and be nice to others. You don't have to worry about your English speaking skill because eventually you'll be good at it. Being shy is not at all a bad personality, you are just born with this kind of attitude but eventually you'll overcome this attitude and gain lots of friends. You can start making friends on www.lifo.com where girls share their tips and views on some of their interests like beauty and fashion.

You should think about the different interests that you have, and then think about groups that are related to these interests. If nothing else, you will at least find that you have something in common with the individuals in the group which will make that first conversation a little bit easier for you. You should also get your current friends to introduce you to people who they know, as this will mean that you can make some more friends whilst not having to work incredibly hard yourself in order to achieve this.

First of all, welcome to mylot. =) Let me share you something, my cousin who's Asian as well went to the United Kingdom like 6 or 7 years ago, and he was like just 11 or 12 years then. He did not grew up using "British English" but to my amazement is that when we talked before on skype and heard his English, it was really awesome because he can absolutely talk in Brit accent, so I asked him how long it took him to develop it, he said just around a month because according to him you will eventually adapt and learn it since the people around you, talk that way. My cousin is somehow a shy guy too but now he has some friends already and can socialize normally there. As you can see, the key to your problem is to try to talk, I know it maybe difficult but it's just really what you need. Don't be afraid to commit grammatical errors etc, somehow I believe that they'll understand because they know you're a foreign student, also remember that we should learn from our mistakes. Therefore, like some of the advices suggested to you, I think you can also improve your english by reading books, self-study, and most of all practice, practice, practice it by using it more often even in the form of textual conversation such as this. There are a lot of sites that can help you improve your English and probably mylot is one of them. Lastly, just be patient :). Be patient in learning, be patient in waiting for the right friends to come into your life because we should be aware that friends are not made but they come. I hope you enjoy your stay here on mylot, happy lotting.

HEY,i am a chinese ,too.You are lucky to go out side and get maybe more education,yes?Though i dream to be outside,no chance to me now.When you come to a strange world the culture and the language problem will cause the situation just like what you are suffering now.Sometimes you have to take courage to make some friends or take some trip.When you step the first step you will find its easy to go the second the third...If you want we can be friends,i am pleasure to share your vex and i am bachelordom lol.