Do you rate your friends?
By Anne18
@Anne18 (11029)
September 27, 2011 4:22pm CST
I went to the library today and overheard two ladies talking, they were talking about friends.
The first lady was telling the second lady how one of her Golden friends had sadly died recently. The second lady asked what she meant by Golden friend. The first lady went on ot explain that
GOLDEN FRIENDS were friends she has had for over 20 years
SILVER FRIENDS are people who she become friends with in the last ten years and
BRONZE FRIENDS are friends she has recently made.
Has anyone ever heard of this before?
My best friend is my husband. I do have a couple of friends who I have known for ages but I wouldn't rate my friends like this because I feel closer to some people I have only recently met than some people I have known for years.
What do you think of this way of rating?
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21 responses
@bluemoonpavilion (4658)
• Singapore
28 Sep 11
Hi Anne,
It is strange that this lady categorized her friends in terms of years. Normally we group friends according to where we met them, like our school friends, or someone from an interest group or some others from the workplace.
I find nothing wrong with it, maybe it is just her way of describing the situation to her friend.
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@rollylolly (2843)
• India
28 Sep 11
Never rated my friends in this way but this is really sweet way of rating friends . I have some really good and trutsworthy friends in my real life . They are my platinum friends . Rest all in this virtual world ,especially mylot are my golden friends . Wish you good luck !
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
28 Sep 11
No, I don’t rate my friends that way and I have never heard of anyone who does. Certainly I do have friends that I am closer to than others at the moment but who knows if that may change over time. I love my friends in different ways because they are all individual in fact I have found myself opening up to someone I thought was only an acquaintance up until then and now we are very close. Friendship should be unconditional and unique in my opinion but to each their own I guess.
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@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
28 Sep 11
Nope, some people have their own way so why should I also pattern what they have. Friends are friends, I don't mind how long they have been my friends, I treat them all the same. Although there is one basic rule I just apply when it comes to friendship, I never expect much so that I won't get hurt or frustrated. I don't give my full trust also.
@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
28 Sep 11
This seems strange to me. I've never heard anyone assign levels like that. Just the usual "one of my best friends" or "a casual friend" or "one of my friends from work."
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
28 Sep 11
I haven't ever heard of a rating system like this that two or more people use when talking to each other. It reminds me of the old saying, though. "Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other gold. "
I did go to a seminar once which encouraged us to evaluate our friendships and to sort them into four levels according to how deep they were as to what we had in common. Anyone who had been to that seminar would know the difference between a First Level friend shallowest level) and a Fourth Level friend (deepest level). I know, though, that I never discussed who was at which level with anyone else, since it was a personal thing.
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@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
28 Sep 11
in reality not!!It sounds really strange from my point of view 'rating friends' so normally i can divide people i know into friends or just people i know for different purposes or situations but i never rated or considered friends as so before!
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@celticeagle (159936)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Sep 11
I have never heard of this way of rating friends. I think this is an excellent way of rating a person's friends. We all have some GOLDEN, some SILVER and some BRONZE ones. There are some great friends we have through out life, some are better than others. They mean so much to us.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
29 Sep 11
I certainly don't rate my friends in the way that this woman rated her friends, but I do have a certain way of rating my friends. What I mean is that I have two friends, in addition to my husband, that are my best friends. The reason that these people are my best friends is because of the fact that I've known them for a long time and they've been there for me during some tough times in my life. I also know that I can talk to these friends about anything that is bothering me and they won't judge me for it.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Sep 11
I don't think I have ever heard of anyone ever rating their friends in my atmosphere. As personally I have friends, while some are good ones, some are not so good, and some are distance ones. But I feel the same way about all of them as unless I cared for them, then they perhaps would not be my friends.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
People have their own ways of appreciating their friends and the lady is just appreciate every friends she makes through the years. I find it amusing and she has her own way of knowing her friends. I don't see it as labeling nor rating but a way of recognition.
@KelceyHappy (65)
• United States
28 Sep 11
I have never EVER heard of this... it reminds me of the Golden Girls or something crazy like that, lol. And I really don't believe this is a good or accurate way of rating friends.
I have friends from kindergarten that I don't even hang out with as much as friends I've recently met. In my "clique" I have friends I've known for years, and one new friend I've known for only about a year. AShe is actually the friend I am closest to and who I can call my best friend.
@mariahhh (1328)
• United Arab Emirates
11 Oct 11
I don't rate my friends. And I don't know anyone who rates theirs. It's going to be hard for me to rate my friends gold and silver because I don't have friends for that long. I have friends of around seven years or so but not twenty. I don't have any form of communications with my oldest friends that's why some of my friends are "new". 
friends are people who i can relate with not because we have been with each other for a long time. friends are those who give me me comfort and stays with me when i am down, and it is not simply because they are there for many years. 
@allknowing (130292)
• India
28 Sep 11
I have only come as far as rating someone as my best friend but do interact with each of them differently depending on the kind of interests we share.
@CaptAlbertWhisker (32512)
• Calgary, Alberta
28 Sep 11
if they didnt ignore my participation on their discussion and give a conversation I will give them a + with no hesitation, I even + every response they make to help them elevate, if they ignored my efforts, I'll remove them in my friend list.
I respond to participations in my discussion ,specially to my friends. if they really want me as a friend , they wont ignore me on their dscussion. usually I give them a month, if they still ignore me....time to cut the fat.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
28 Sep 11
Wow that was so new to me. I had never heard of anything like that ever before.
@bokkers (48)
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28 Sep 11
Rating a friend is something common to me. I do not think anything wrong with rating your friends. I do not rate my friends in a list but I do rate them in my heart, sub consciously. I can tell the difference between a trustworthy friend, a bad friend, a good friend, your best friend, a close friend, a smart friend, a selfish friend and all sorts of kind. Indirectly, I believe I am already rating my friends. Don't you agree?
