Is your spouse driving you crazy?
By gicolet
@gicolet (1702)
United States
October 3, 2011 11:21am CST
My husband has been driving me crazy for 3 mos now and i just need to vent away. He 's been suddenly too affectionate and clingy it's irritating already. Last week I just yelled at him already cause he wouldn't stop talking to me with this little tiny voice of his that he made up. I went "stop it! you're not a child...act your age will you?" He did stop after a 100x i've asked him to, but then he started coming up to me saying "Hey, I'm Odelius so call me that from now on". He wants me to call him with a different name? Odelius? WTH? I know he was joking but I can't play with him all the time. I always ask him to stop it. Once, he came home before lunch and stayed home for about 4 hrs before he went back to the office. He said there wasn't a lot of job to do (we have our own business) so he stays at home watching tv and if I am done with my house chores he would ask me to watch tv with him. I usually don't want to watch tv in the middle of the day, especially if it's his show. I just want to go online and read. He usually ask me to get off the computer and watch tv with him. Sometimes i do, sometimes i don't feel like it and when I don't feel like it just leave me alone you know? (sigh) And guess what his favorite noontime shows on tv lately? I love Lucy, Jerry Springer, and The Maury Show (sigh). Does your husband watch these shows? Just curious here....
I really don't mind if he's around the house for however long but i really don't want him around me all the time. It's kind of suffocating already. One time he came home and I was eating lunch and he sat with me and we're talking casually and once he's done with his lunch he stopped talking and started staring at me while i was still eating. I mean if there's nothing else to talk about then stop doing that...why did he have to look at my food from the time i pick it up with my fork to the time i put in my mouth? lol....i don't know anymore. I'm going to lose it sooner or later. He did the same thing the other day while i was running on the treadmill. He put his elbows on the treadmill handle and just stared at me smiling for like 2 min. He creeps me out! One day he called me @ 8:30 in the morning like he always does and we talked for about half an hour on the phone...and then after like 5 minutes of putting down the phone, i heard the garage door opened...yup! he's home!!! WTF? I mean why was he talking to me on the phone without even mentioning that he was almost home already??? Then at night he's got the tv remote control as most guys do so I sit in front of my computer watching youtube and sometimes i go on netflix. Then when he's done watching tv, he gives me the remote control...yay!!! but not so fast....he wants me to scratch his back while i watch tv and calls me "mama" with that little voice of his again. aahhhh!!!!! I should call him Alvin!!!
I love my husband don't get me wrong and he always say "i love you" to me especially when he knows he's being annoying...but he's really super annoying lately! He's 51. Is this a phase? I sure hope so. Is your spouse like this?
3 responses
@thirdyballs (73)
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4 Oct 11
My husband drives me crazy because of the Katy Perry song "Fireworks" he keeps on singing, dancing, and playing it all the time.
I was really irritated and then suddenly i realized i was singing it as well, i hate that song really because my husband went nuts. lol.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 Oct 11
To a certain extent, Tom is driving me crazy as well, but I think that he does have an excuse undergoing the chemotherapy treatment this year. It has made him have wild mood swings unlike anything that he's ever experienced in his life. It makes me feel like I'm tied down and it really has given me a lot of depression that is difficult to deal with. However, with him, I do know that it is a phase and that the phase will be over soon enough.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
5 Oct 11
hi, sorry to hear about your husband's chemo treatment. my mom had gone through that years ago so i know how it is. the mood swing is definitely just a phase so he'll be back to his old self when it's all over :) my husband, on the other hand, i think is going through a less stress-free phase. he sent his 2 daughters out of state to college and now he's got nobody around but me and that's why i think he's been acting like he is right now.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
3 Oct 11
I don't know if it's just a phase or not. I kind of wish my husband was a little more like yours. I get hardly any affection. I wouldn't want him hanging all over me when I'm trying to get stuff done, but it would be nice if he wanted to talk to me that much and hang out with me more. He works really hard so during the week I really only see him for a few minutes in the morning an then for about a half hour at night before we go to bed. He doesn't even kiss me goodnight anymore. I'm so lonely it hurts. He says he loves me with all his heart but he's at work 12 hours or more and doesn't check on me or the kids at all.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
3 Oct 11
Oh i'm so sorry to hear about your situation with your husband. My ex was exactly like that and that's why we ended up in divorce. Turned out he was having an affair and i was paying for all his phone bills! I hope you could work it out with your husband though. Maybe he's always stressed out cause of too much work in his job. All i can say is anything too much is NOT good cause my now husband is the exact opposite of my ex. I just need some space every now and then cause it kind of feels suffocating already but i love my husband and i'd rather he's like this than ignoring me all the time or violent. I do hope you work it out with your husband. Take care.
