A question To Mylots
By Mashnn
@Mashnn (4501)
7 responses
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
26 Oct 11
I agree that it is not a main factor to decide whether or not to marry, but it is important to be able to control our income and expenditures. Also, if you do not know each others income, then how can you possibly create a budget and do household finances or save for special occasions or any of the other things that couples, especially married ones or life partners, usually do together?
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
26 Oct 11
I agree that if you are married and do not tell your spouse about your income, then it is like cheating ... unless you both agree to not disclose your salaries. When you marry, you vow to spend your life together as one, so salary would be part of that "as one" thing.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Oct 11
hi mashnn I su re as a woman if young again would never marry a man who was hiding his income as money is necessary in a marriage no matter how much in love you are two people must be able to pay the rent and utilities and buy groceries as you cannot live on just love alone. also both people should automatically say honey I am making such and such, and you are making what? we pool our resources when we marry, we become partners so yes reveal our incomes of course
how could we not?
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@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
26 Oct 11
I agree that marriage is about sharing and pooling resources, and money would be included in that. I think that if there is enough money in the household, then each person could have a set amount of money to spend each week or month on whatever they want, such as buying lunch at work instead of bringing it or whatever little extra they want, but major purchases should definitely always be agreed on before they are made.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
24 Oct 11
There is nothing wrong knowing how much you and your partner is earning.
I prefer to know how much my partner is earning and I will also let him know how much I am earning as well.
It's part of life and living together.
I don't know about others, but for me, it is better this way, nothing is hidden.
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
26 Oct 11
I think that it is important to know how much each person is making, especially if you are married or living together in a long-term relationship, such as life partners. First, it means that you are being completely open and honest with each other, which I think is important for any long-term relationship. Second, it helps to avoid getting into serious financial trouble and huge debt, because both parties know the spending limits of the household.
@michellehughes (30)
• United States
25 Oct 11
My husband and I have always been very open and up front about the amount of money we have coming in. Although we both work, and we both make money and for the most part we each control our own money, it has never been an issue. When we got married, we both made very little money. We were very young. But we loved each other very much. Now twenty plus years later, we still love each other very much. We each make considerably more money. I know what he earns and he knows what I earn. Seems like it may be more of a trust issue than a money issue.
@purplealabaster (22094)
• United States
26 Oct 11
I agree that it seems like a trust issue. I would expect married couples to have a joint bank account rather than individual accounts, so it would be pretty obvious how much each ones makes anyway, especially if they have direct deposit of their paycheck into the bank account as many do today. If my husband did not want to share a bank account and money information with me, then I would wonder what else he was hiding - definitely a trust issue.
