How do you get along with a person that is always sarcastic??

@gknott (936)
United States
November 20, 2006 12:13pm CST
Help me, I have a friend that makes a joke out of everthing or is sarcastic when he responds, this makes me really angry can I get him to stop or do I need to stop talking to him?
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@sekhmetgb (462)
20 Nov 06
Why be friend with him. Sarcasm is really the lowest form of wit, and why would you want someone to be your friend who hurts you all the time? Tell him, if he does not stop being sarcastic you will probably give him a miss until he grows up a bit :)
@gknott (936)
• United States
20 Nov 06
You make sense, I am a single mom and get really lonely. He just calls all the time. We have went out some and he says he loves me.. but my chest hurts and I can't get my breath when he talks to me because he is so critical. I don't know why I am in this mess..
20 Nov 06
Yes, I know that one. I think a lot of women would identify with that. Sometimes people become so important to us that we let them do things that we would not let others do. I see you have already spoken to him about it, and he is not aware of how sarcastic he is and how this impacts on you. Therefore, when you two are having a good time together you may have to bring the subject up again (NOT when you are having an argument) Tell him that you love him (if you do, that is and my guess is you do) but that he really does hurt you with his clever and sharp little comments. I used to be very sarcastic as a defence against having to be vulnerable. Now I don't use sarcasm much because I am aware of why I was using it. Maybe you can explore with him what makes him so sharp. If you discuss this with him when you are getting on well together he may see that he is permanently defending himself against you and pushing you away - he may stop. Another thing, I used to have a partner who was always talking to me as if I were a child. One day I taped on and off the ways in which this was happening because everytime I tried to discuss it, there was a denial on his part that he felt that way about me. When he actually heard himself and his tone of voice, things got a lot better. Good luck anyway. If you need to talk, you know where I am. :) xxx
• United States
29 Nov 06
There is a difference between sarcasm and criticizing. Sarcasm is fun but it shouldnt hurt someone there is a line there somewhere.
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Tell him what you think. Maybe he doesn't realize how others perceive him, and that his behavior may be driving friends away.
@gknott (936)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I have told him, he doesn't like it and he doesn't understand my side.
@minnie_98214 (10574)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Just get used to it. Sarcasm is fun
@gknott (936)
• United States
29 Nov 06
thanks
@blueman (16516)
• India
29 Nov 06
i think, have a good time laugh at his jokes.
@gknott (936)
• United States
29 Nov 06
thanks
• United States
20 Nov 06
Ask him why he is always so sarcastic~
@gknott (936)
• United States
20 Nov 06
I have asked, he doesn't seem to think he is, but he always responds to my comments with: ... well you did this or you did that... or I am trying to work on what I say and you just take everthing out on me..
@ruby1459 (2603)
• United States
20 Nov 06
He wants to see you angry,I think.If you get angry then he wins.I had a same situation before with ex.stay calm and show him you are not gonna be controled by his game. I don't like a person who cannot be serious when they need to.
@gknott (936)
• United States
20 Nov 06
Thank you, He just divorced from a 16 year marriage with no kids.. He says his wife was very controlling. I think he was the one controlling and she just decided to ignore him and just not listen to him anymore.. What do you think?
@desideria (371)
• Romania
20 Nov 06
hmmm. do not let him see that he makes you angry. that's what makes him more sarcastic. try to responde him back even with more irony. that comming from a very sarcastic person. i hope he will stop. but i doubt it. it is in his nature. like me :)) sorry
@gknott (936)
• United States
20 Nov 06
Thank you for your answer, why do you think people like to be sarcastic?
@desideria (371)
• Romania
20 Nov 06
hmmm. do not let him see that he makes you angry. that's what makes him more sarcastic. try to responde him back even with more irony. that comming from a very sarcastic person. i hope he will stop. but i doubt it. it is in his nature. like me :)) sorry