How do you get along with a person that is always sarcastic??

You make sense, I am a single mom and get really lonely. He just calls all the time. We have went out some and he says he loves me.. but my chest hurts and I can't get my breath when he talks to me because he is so critical. I don't know why I am in this mess..

Yes, I know that one. I think a lot of women would identify with that. Sometimes people become so important to us that we let them do things that we would not let others do. I see you have already spoken to him about it, and he is not aware of how sarcastic he is and how this impacts on you. Therefore, when you two are having a good time together you may have to bring the subject up again (NOT when you are having an argument) Tell him that you love him (if you do, that is and my guess is you do) but that he really does hurt you with his clever and sharp little comments. I used to be very sarcastic as a defence against having to be vulnerable. Now I don't use sarcasm much because I am aware of why I was using it. Maybe you can explore with him what makes him so sharp. If you discuss this with him when you are getting on well together he may see that he is permanently defending himself against you and pushing you away - he may stop. Another thing, I used to have a partner who was always talking to me as if I were a child. One day I taped on and off the ways in which this was happening because everytime I tried to discuss it, there was a denial on his part that he felt that way about me. When he actually heard himself and his tone of voice, things got a lot better. Good luck anyway. If you need to talk, you know where I am. :) xxx

There is a difference between sarcasm and criticizing. Sarcasm is fun but it shouldnt hurt someone there is a line there somewhere.

I have told him, he doesn't like it and he doesn't understand my side.

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I have asked, he doesn't seem to think he is, but he always responds to my comments with: ... well you did this or you did that... or I am trying to work on what I say and you just take everthing out on me..

Thank you, He just divorced from a 16 year marriage with no kids.. He says his wife was very controlling. I think he was the one controlling and she just decided to ignore him and just not listen to him anymore.. What do you think?

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Thank you for your answer, why do you think people like to be sarcastic?