How do you respond to compliments?

@Theresaaiza (10487)
Australia
November 6, 2011 7:00am CST
Everyone has goodness in him, both in and out. There is always something worth praising about. When you are being complimented about something, have you studied the many ways you react to it. I tend to blush, get giggly, and tongue-tied. There is a series of mumbling protests to appear humble before finally saying "Thank you." Do you feel obligated to compliment back? Are you sincere in praising people? Does it make you uncomfortable praising people in this highly criticizing world?
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@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
7 Nov 11
I usually just say thank you. One thing i got compliments on was a shrug i had crocheted. Id laugh and say,"Oh does it look homemade." Id rather give compliments than make then. Yesterday i was at a circuit assembly fro our church when the couple i rode with the wife told everyone at our table at lunch time that i had made my own bread. I was embarrised. I suddenly felt like the kid from the projects that was eating home made french fries while everyone else had mc dondalds.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
10 Nov 11
The cricuit assembly for Jahovah witnesses ina mearby town. Its so easy to make bread. People say its so time consuming. Well, the time consuming is in the riseing not taking your personal time. Then they also say its messy. I find that not to be true either. I use a flat wooden spoon to stir i til it gets too thick by the time you use yor hands it should not be sticky at all. Its more elastic by then. Homemade bread does stale faster and since im single i dont bake the full loaf anymore. After it rises the first time i punch it down and divide it into smaller pieces than freeze it. When it thaws i form 2 buns or a hoggie loaf and let it rise again bake it and wa la fresh bread for a sandwhich. I started making it because i got concerned about the perservitives in foods and i was also tired of trying to get a loaf home without it getting smashed. Also being single it was hard to keep it fresh too. Homemade taste much better. Cheaper too. Oh ya the fry bread is great too. My aunt was married to an indian guy and his family would make the fry bread all the time. In my home town when the carnivals came to town the indian people would open a stand and make indian tacos. They would take bread dough and roll it out bigger than a flour tortellia then fry it. On top of the finished fry bread shell they would add taco stuff. They were so very good. Ive made those before too. If your too scared to try making it you could get the frozen bread dough to make them. Thats what i did before i made my own dough. Once my brother asked a indian dude at the stand how he makes them and the guy told him, "why dont you just buy the frozen dough like the white people do."
@savak03 (6684)
• United States
10 Nov 11
You shouldn't feel that way. Making bread is a dying art that not too many people can do. I wish I knew how to make my own bread. I still remember how good it was when my grandmother made fresh bread. When she was finished making all the loves she would have some dough left over she would fry it. That was a real treat. What circuit assembly did you go to?
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
You guys are making me so hungry right now!
@savak03 (6684)
• United States
10 Nov 11
I used to have problems accepting compliments. I would frequently say things to deny the compliment. My own sense of self esteem was very low and I never felt worthy of the compliment. I read an article one time that talked about that. One of the points the article made was that it was rude to deny the other person the chance to compliment me. That it would make them feel bad. I took that article to heart and now if I am complimented I just say "thank you" accepting the other persons good wishes. I don't necessarily compliment that person back because then it would seem like payment for the compliment they gave and would cancel out their good thoughts. I do however look for ways to compliment others, especially when they have done something exceptionally well.
@savak03 (6684)
• United States
13 Nov 11
Decide in advance how you want to handle the situation of compliments, received and offered, and then stick to it. The more you practice the less awkward it will become.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
16 Nov 11
Yes, that just might work. Thanks!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
It is true that most of the time I feel obligated to give back a praise but that only makes it more awkward. That article must have been a lot of help for you. I know better now how to deal with situations wherein compliments are involved.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
6 Nov 11
Hi! If someone compliments me, I accept the compliments with humility and humbleness. I do not forget to say thank you and compliment back. I feel the kind words of admiration could do wonders to one's mind and could motivate him or her to do better in his or her life. Whenever there is an occasion or occurance, I do not forget to compliments others and make them smile. We all wish to be loved and admired by others. Responding to your meaningful posts is a kind of appreciation and acknowledgement.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
14 Nov 11
Sincerity is very necessary.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
It is true that compliments can brighten up our mood and make us feel good about ourselves. However, we should remember to be sincere and if you are the recipient of the praise, you should not let it get to your head. Thanks for responding!
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
7 Nov 11
Before, I would avert from the compliment and even point out a bad thing to neutralize the compliment. I recently realized that this habit wasn't being humble at all but this lack of self recognition. Whenever we get praised, some people dodge such compliments while those who are giving their compliments continue to give more, as if emphasizing it until the person relents and admits such compliments by showing their gratitude by saying 'Thank you' or 'thanks' with a shy smile. So whenever I get praised for something, I give my 'thanks' and return the favor by complimenting something back to the person who gave me such recognition of praise. There are also times when such merit being given can be shared or even diverted completely to another person. 'I wouldn't have done this task if it weren't for..' kind of lines are quite a compliment as well. When I praise another person, I am sincere with the compliment that I give. Some people would have a rather different reception towards it so I reaffirm such praises with clarification to avoid confusion. In our world today, perhaps a compliment isn't always as easy to receive as we are too busy with the challenges surrounding us. We even end up criticizing ourselves most of the time (^_^")
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
12 Nov 11
I would definitely agree to that, especially knowing that someone recognizes your potential in some area or skill that I possess. Feeling good does help in avoiding, not only physical sickness, but also sicknesses that we get mentally. (^_^")
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
But let's admit, a compliment a day really keeps the doctor away!
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@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
7 Nov 11
Hi theresaaiza, For me if I gave compliments that is sincere from me, I have known people just like my sister-in-law does, just to please a person sometimes she says "wow you have beautiful and cute child" but if you go see the child she is not cute and beautiful. The first time i heard her giving false-compliments, I ask her and she just told me to make the mother of that certain child happy which I does not do in my entire life that how transparent of me.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
Some people are good at flattery even if it means they had to be fake. For me I believe that we should praise more often than we criticize but then, it also must be sincere. If you have no positive thing to say then keep your observations to yourself. Right?
• Australia
12 Nov 11
You're right! being true to yourself are true to others. God bless
@loidee (175)
• Philippines
7 Nov 11
i have the poorest response to compliments. i really don't do well with them i should get sued. Whenever someone says that I take great pictures, i would brush it off and say a joke about it. or if someone say I am pretty or whatever, i would treat the compliment as a joke. sometimes it irritating because it would come off as fishing for more compliments. lately, i have been training myself to accept compliments and say thank you to the person giving them.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
You said it. It is true that it is quite tempting to fish for more compliments, but it shouldn't be or else other people will think we are so full of ourselves. Again, I have proven that "thank you" is the most modest, safest, and nicest response to a compliment.
• Philippines
7 Nov 11
I just always say "thank you" for every compliment I get. I like a way of appreciating and expressing gratitude for the compliment, I see it as a respect for the one who compliments. Sometimes, I get annoyed at some people who doesn't accept compliments. I don't feel obligated to compliment back but I really admire the one complimenting me and I see some thing about her/him to be complimented, I compliment back. I am always sincere in praising people. Nope, I don't get uncomfortable doing that.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
I truly admire people who find it easy to praise people. They are very positive and they can pass on their happiness to others.
• Singapore
6 Nov 11
If I know that the compliment is genuine, then I would accept the compliment with a "thank you". It is important for us to acknowledge to the universe, so that it will give us more of that. I used to "return" compliments. But it diminishes and water down the first compliment and make it such an awkward situation. Thus, now I accept compliments without feeling obligated to return a compliment. I think that we all have good qualities, sometimes we look or dress nicely, and when others compliment, we should accept it freely. BUt at the same time, humbly.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
I like that, accept it freely but humbly.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
7 Nov 11
Usually, I just say,"Thank you" and change the subject. Sometimes, I find something to compliment the other person, but compliments that are not spontaneous, are usually stiff and appear false. Too frequently , when someone compliments me regarding an article of clothing, I reply something like, "This old rag" or give them the approximate age of the garment. Someone told me that giving that kind of reply is a put down to the other person, as it implies that they have little or no fashion sense. I'm trying to break that habit.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
it's really funny how sometimes we can say things about a person with all good intentions but somehow they don't really come across as intended. Some people are offended over things we say without us meaning it. So with that, I learned that "thank you" is really the best and safest answer.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
Most of the time I just smiled and prefer not to say a thing, but "thank you". I don't want to elaborate on things when someone gives me compliments and I don't like flattery...I am not used to it. Yes, it made me blush speechless and shy. Thu I know it's an honor,but if possible, I don't want to hear it. Maybe applause is enough.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
A simple acknowledgement for our efforts can really do magic.
@janevi (888)
• Philippines
7 Nov 11
If there are compliments being said of me, I simply would say thank you. For i was taught that it is a sign of humility. I don't feel to compliment back if it is not coming from my heart. I am generous in giving compliments and I don't just blurt it out just to please the person. I usually say it genuinely and no pretention or just to please the person. It defeats the gesture if it is only for a show.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
All you said is right. It only hurts when people only hand over their praises just to get something back.
@ferbjohn69 (1127)
• Philippines
7 Nov 11
Usually when people tell me that I am good in doing certain thing,I just smile and thank them. Sometimes I tell them that they are even better when they compliment me.I say they are better only if they are really better. Sometimes when people compliment me I just smile and keep quiet.:) It feels good to be complimented.:)
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
I can not agree with you more. Compliments always make you feel good about yourself!
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
It depends on what kind of compliment. Sometimes, the compliment could get overwhelming that I also get tongue-tied until I blush. Most of the time, I smile back, say thank you, and compliment back - especially if the compliment is genuine. If it's not, I only just smile.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
I really admire people who manages to find a way to conceal their feeling of being flattered because I simply cannot hide a blush.
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
I am sincere when I praise others who are noteworthy of the admiration. When I get praised of something good I've done or something new in me that's noticeable, I usually say thank you or sometimes I jokingly react contradictory to it. :) It depends on the person at times, because there really are people who loves complimenting but at the back of their minds, they mean what's opposite to it. Some people put a hint of sarcasm with their compliments and that's just too sad to know.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
We should steer clear from those kind of people, then.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
6 Nov 11
I do feel unworthy of compliments, usually I get praise for my wisdom, but the wisdom is not mine, rather it is from many great people that it has been my luck to study. I am nothing except a parrot repeating what others have taught.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
I'm sure many others are also learning great things from you.
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
Hehehe tha is used to be my reaction too. But in my case, when I paise it should be with utmost sincerity, I like things and say when I really like it. In most cases, I mean it when I say it. But there are cases when I do it with a little twist. Heheh to people who love to be praised only. I know someone that when you praise him, you will be treated nicely by that person. Lol.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
I feel sorry for that person. He/She is probably not getting enough affirmation at home that he craves for it at work. You can try to be more sincere and true to your praises as this will also come back to you. When you are insincere, it isn't far that you will also doubt the truthfulness of other people's praises for you.
@ceasar09 (442)
• Philippines
6 Nov 11
Every person is good at different aspects and it is worth praising for. When I'm being complimented about something or what I do especially for my family or those person who I know seldom compliment others, I usually thank the person who said it to me with some humbleness but at the same makes me happy. I usually make this as my inspiration to do better at things I do. But when I'm complimented by my friends/classmates I usually joke around and praise them also at different things these has been our routine when someone give compliments. But when someone compliments about me/physical appearance which is not so close to me I just don't mind those one because they just want something from me. =)
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
12 Nov 11
Truly compliments from our loved ones are certain to be sincere. We have to be careful with other people we barely know because chances are they have motives for doing so.
@Momenly (30)
• Lebanon
19 Nov 11
I usually grin, lower my gaze, and, like you, giggle. I try to thank the person who gives the compliment most of the time. I sometimes just deny what the other said about me, so maybe I could appear more humble.