The use of the F word.

`ok so I read thru this discussion and figured out which F-word it is that you are talking about. I don't personally use the word and don't like it either. Still, I have to say, I have heard that word used on strait people in joking around and by people that I know would never ever intentionally offend a particular group of people. In fact I've heard them slip up and use it front of a gay person, catch themselves, apologize and the gay person would laugh it off. I don't know the movie so I don't know the spirit in which it was intended. I would talk to the guy and take it from there. I'm sure in talking to him you'll get a better idea if it was just being used as slang or if he was really being disrespectful.

In film or life it depends on the context. We have never seen the F as a big deal. As you posted this in Gay rights, I will elaborate. No one here really cares. I have straight friends and gay friends, I don't really see the difference. I call them all kinds of words and they call me the same I say relax a bit more

Unfortunately, a person like this has scarred himself already. He may have not meant to say it, or he may have a great apology, but the fact that this is in his vocabulary means that he is prejudiced. It would be great if his apology could be backed up by forever not uttering the word. People would surely stop being angry, but still they will never forget.

Hi behen A director has more of responsibily and this behavior is unacceptable. I am thinking if this is his way of life... how is he going to handle the team? Personally, I would never return back, there are many ways and options to keep me engaged. The apology is fine many times but there are times when they just dont work out... how about slapping someone and saying "Oh dear... I am so sorry..." That doesnt work. Sorry, I was a little rude... but when it comes to my behen... there is no one I can be considerate about.

Well now, the F word is a very common word these days. And it's also in the dictionary. LOL. Anyway, if the director used the term in a mean, nasty and hateful way and apologized sincerely, then you should accept his apology and move on. If he said the term in a joke or a comedic way, then it probably does not mean anything. I also think that here in this country, there is way to much of this political correctness. It all depends on the context it was used. It's not something that you can say, "well, this guy said the F and t B word he should go on TV and apologize." This world would be full of banished people if every time someone used the F word. Like I said, it all depends on the context it was used. Remember another thing, I remember when I was growing up in the 70's, those words were thrown around by people all the time. I as a kid heard them thousands of times. It almost, no it did seem normal at that time. So, to him it might not have been saying something bad at all. It is probably programed into his brain under the file named normal or okay to say. I wouldn't be angry, I would just not pay attention. If you pay attention to something, it seems to go on forever. But if it is ignored, it will go away.

Well your leavin out a lot to the story so it hard to give advise on this one.

It depends on how the F word was used, and how you feel about the word itsself. Of I drop something on my foot and REALLY HURT MYSELF and say "ah F---" then that's not a problem. However, if I call someone an effing something, or tell someone to F off, that's entirely different. I feel the word is only offensive when directed AT someone.

I would have used the proper term, homosexual or sodomite and the director should have used those terms. As for a apology, if that is done in sincerity, then okay, but remember back in the 50s and 60s, people called homosexuals, fa---gts and if the director is in his 40s through 60s he has heard that word so many times it is almost impossible for him to change. I would hope that he only uses those words when speaking with his family rather then outsides.. I of course though he used the f-k word and did not know if fa--gts was forbidden here on my lot. Besides I do not like using a word that is supposed to mean happy in an irresponsible way ;to define one specific group. So for me, using the word g-y and fa--g't in reference to homosexuals is equally as bad. AFter all I am not a sour puss or a grouch. And sometimes I am happy in an irresponsible way.

Well...the truth is that if he accidentally said it publicly...he probably says it a whole lot more privately. A slip up like that doesn't really happen unless they use that word anyway.

I don't know what the "F" exactly means,but I guess he certainly offended you.In my opinion, Whether you accept his apology or not depends on how he conduct himself in normal times.That is to say,If he is correct in behaviour all the way and didn't say that on purpose this time,You may forgive him for that;otherwise you may do what you should.

It seems these days people think they can say or do anything and then just apologize afterwards. Is this a person who frequently makes this kind of slip? Is he in the habit of reforming and changing behavior after he apologizes? Or does he apologize and go right back into the same behaviors again after a short period of time. Any person can say something when angry or drunk he may truly regret having said afterwards. But if he really regrets it, the behavior will not continue. Is it a lapse or a look at his real character. Make your decision on what his character appears to be.

Many people use the slang without even being conscious or concerned about it as often if not with every breath. I see young lads & lasses use the word routinely. If the director is generally sparing in use but did it consciously in a fit and felt repentant, you may consider it dispassionately. If this kind of behavior is his wont and habitual, you should not compromise. Weigh the circumstances and make an objective decision.

There are so many things you need to compromise in life but without compromising on self respect. You inner soul is the best judge.