Does it mean one has no problem if he/she doesn't rant?

Chennai, India
November 11, 2011 11:02am CST
So many of my friends, colleagues, relatives and customers around me, they are always ranting about their problems every now and then. It seems its never ending. I am not a person ranting always. But I do have my own things to work out. Just my this habit, is giving others an image that I don't have much problems. (They don't forget to mention this in their ranting, "ah..you don't understand our problems. You're problem-free") I always wonder, how come they can think that I don't have any problem. Later I understood that it's just my attitude not to rant makes them think that way. What do you think?
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10 responses
@ramonah (213)
• Romania
11 Nov 11
I see 2 sides to this. If you're not ranting and keeping everything inside then it will build up and be bad for you at some point. If you have at least or maybe only one person to share with or you have a way of sharing it with yourself and being calm and letting go of the problems not just seeming calm and boiling inside then it's all fine. And to be honest you shouldn't be bothered by the people who rant around you.. Most people rant. It's like a trend these days. Too much drama around. That's why stress and depression are big problems of our times.. People should start changing themselves before they die of self consumption.. And really.. Why would someone say that you don't understand.. because you're problem free.. like it's something bad, like you're supposed to have a problems, otherwise you're not one of the crowd.. it's wrong if you ask me.. Just keep dealing with your problems as you did so far if you feel it's the right way. And of course.. people who don't rant are not problem free.. they might even have more problems than others. They just don't "brag" about them.. Yes, I'd use the term "brag" because I think it's the only way some people seek for attention these days. It's a sad world..sad by definition..sad on the outside. The ones that can change that should do so.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
12 Nov 11
I am also of the same view. Only when we speak out things are done properly. Otherwise the situation ma not improve. If however, ranting is without any valid cause or reason we should listen and not bother much about it.
• Chennai, India
12 Nov 11
@ramonah.. Though I don't rant, I just try to sort out and fix the problems myself, instead of worrying about it. And, it's my nature not to worry about things that are beyond my limit. (And, I strongly believe there's God to take care of those things.) Though I'm not much bothered about those people who rant, I am concerned of the time they waste. So, I also started to go with the trend, with at least those people who take me for granted. (And it's working, at least they ask my appointment before they come to me. And some people have disappeared.) It seems true, that it's an attention seeking technique. @ravisivan.ji... Though I don't like to do it, I started doing it, just to keep those people away.
@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
11 Nov 11
I think that everyone has problems whethe or not they rant to people I only rant to people I am close to and only when I am really upset. But I don't see how they could think you don't have any problems because you don't rant like I said everyone has a problem
• Chennai, India
12 Nov 11
It's just their attitude. Whenever they think they have a problem, they immediately think of people who can help them. Since I listen to them, they come to me. (Now, I also started spitting out my problems, so that people who really don't care about me will stop coming to me just to cry. It's true, some people just disappeared.)
@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
13 Nov 11
haha good idea that will definatly seperate the people you care about and the ones who are just using you for advice i always listent o people to seems like if you listen people will spill their guts out lol
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
12 Nov 11
I can sense you are a good person or someone that wants to keep something by himself only. I have very few friends who don't rant. And even if she rant it doesn't sound like she's ranting. It's more like telling me that this thing happened in the office and I don't know this and that. I see her as good and calm lady, and I hope I could be like her. Sometimes ranting can really make our day bad, so you're one of those lucky persons I hope to be having the same personality
• Chennai, India
13 Nov 11
I don't believe ranting would help in anyway. Instead I try to seek help or advice from my well-wishers. If I know they too can't help, I just try to find a solution on my own. Why should we bother someone else unnecessarily, which is not going to help us in anyway? However, I just do it rarely, to those people who annoy me with their problems. (or whatever they consider as problem)
@yxinxin (466)
• China
12 Nov 11
I guess the people around you are just more outgoing. They will not keep anything inside.In fact,I am not that outgoing.I only rant out my problems when I think it necessary and often to my close friends.Most of the time, I handle my problems on my own.
• Chennai, India
13 Nov 11
How do you manage to keep those people away? It's a real tough task, which we have to do continuously until they don't turn to us.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
12 Nov 11
yes. some people cry for everything. They make things bigger even though it is small. A few others like you take it up without much grudge.Even you have tried to tell today to us in ranting manner. no issues. In my view, if a child wants to cry, it should cry it out fully so that it may not cry for the same reason. nothing wrong in telling others. that may bring improvement. We had water logging problem near our flat. I told corporation people. it was sorted out by them only then.
• Chennai, India
12 Nov 11
I don't worry for things beyond my limit. I agree, but a child should cry only when there is real problem. Crying without reason, may be some other attitude issue.
@flowerchilde (12518)
• United States
11 Nov 11
Yes I think some people think unless they know of your problem(s) you don't have one! This is a little short sighted I suppose.. I myself don't usually rant, but once in a while I will. It doesn't mean I have no troubles.
• Chennai, India
13 Nov 11
May be it's short-sighted or their carelessness about others' problems. They always see their problems, and ignore others'.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
11 Nov 11
If you are always listening to others, try to advice them or help them out people do think you never have a problem or it's not serious enough to talk about or you can handle yourself since you are always helping out others. So no need to listen to you or offer you some help. This is exaclty what happend to me. People said: oh well you will manage one way or the other you always did. So if you feel you need some help, a listening person or some advice or just want to get rid of your sorrows start spitting it out. Otherwise nobody will ever listening to you.
• Chennai, India
12 Nov 11
Exactly said. I try to listen, advise or help. And I kept my problem within myself. After understanding what makes people think the other way, I started telling my issues. Guess what, at least I am getting rid of those people who always rant. They were also one of my problems. And I am seeking help or advice from just a few people who really care for me.
@Mashnn (4503)
12 Nov 11
I think it depends on one's class or personality. If you think shouting to your friends will make them listen better than go for it. If your attitude it to remain calm and express your views, that is even better but either shouting or not doesn't signify that you are more upset than the other person. Sometimes it is even degrading especially infront of people. Just be yourself, you don't have to rant for them to understand your problem.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
12 Nov 11
For me no it is not the way it is because our problem now is the reason of not perfect we live in the imperfect world but time will come that the Armageddon hit in this world then after all no problem will feed us by Satan because he will vain in this world so not bad.
@allknowing (66556)
• India
12 Nov 11
There are many and I am one of those who believe ranting only vitiates the environment and makes others a party to one's problems. Invariably whatever the problem it can only be solved by the one who has the problem or at the most after seeking advise of a counselor.