MyLot Stalker!

Philippines
November 16, 2011 7:05am CST
Hey guys! Have you ever secretly "stalked" someone here on MyLot? I mean, like you viewed all the recent (or older) posts of a certain person because you are interested with her/him and you want to know that person better? Kinda creepy! Don't you think?
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21 responses
@mysdianait (63942)
• Italy
16 Nov 11
Yes I don't think it's creepy at all. I think that it is a form of flattery and that the person in question should feel real good about being stalked
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
Hmm... If that person looks like a serial killer and is answering on every discussion I answered too, then that would be creepy
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@mysdianait (63942)
• Italy
16 Nov 11
Do all serial killers look alike?
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@Hatley (152292)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Nov 11
and diana and damned__dle what the heck does a serial killer look like?I will tell you this , one time on a long bus ride fromn Newell South D akota to Phoenix A rizons I was sitting behind a policeoffice who was handcuffed to his prisoner.the man who I assumed was the police officer was friendly and talked to me for awhile then the scruffy looking murderer growled at me." maam don't believe a word of what he says, he is one dammed fine liar. I am officer and he told me his name. He also explained that he had not had any sleep or anything to eat so he did look scruffy. I apologized to him for taking him for the bad'guy. so my point is looks can deceive and your serial killer can look 'like Joe Movie star Handsome.Most of us here find certain people to be very interesting and get to know them but that is not stalking at all.
@topffer (28534)
• France
16 Nov 11
I have an official stalker at myLot, which is not harassing me, but a good friend. She is not there this week, and I am missing the interaction. When I have a friend request, I often watch the discussions started on the profile, and I give sometimes responses when I am interested, but I don't stalk anybody. At least since today.
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• United States
18 Nov 11
So, who is this mysterious woman that is stalking you? Whoever she is, I suspect that she is missing the interaction just as much as you. What do you mean that you do not stalk anybody, though? Perhaps your stalker will have to reconsider her stalking ways if you are not willing to return the favor. :-P
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@topffer (28534)
• France
18 Nov 11
A devoted admirer can't stalk, especially when the subject of his admiration is not there.
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• United States
18 Nov 11
Well, when you put it like that, then how can any woman stay angry at you? Purple flowers, on the other hand, could be an entirely different story.{rasp}
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
16 Nov 11
I find the meaning of "stalking" as harassing another in an aggressive way,. Answer for your discussion -- NO. There is no point in stalking another in a forum like this unless one is devoid of other work or has extra interests. Reading old discussions --it is perfectly in order and to post wherever we want--that is fine.
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• Indonesia
16 Nov 11
agree with you. aslong a the discussion not removed, we still can see it and comment it. most of us more interet to create new friend and discuss, not to find "interesting people". hey,if we do that, why not try a dating site?
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@mysdianait (63942)
• Italy
16 Nov 11
Food for thought in that comment: I find many Lotters are 'interesting people' but that does not mean that I have any romantic inclinations towards them Just the same as offline, I emjoy communicating with people of all ages, genders, cultures and nations if they have something interesting to share but even though I'm single, there is no other reason behind becoming more involved with them.
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
16 Nov 11
mysdianait -- your role -- I perceive as one who guides many newcomers. You are a guide for others who join mylot. The satisfaction derived in interacting with people from various countries is something unique. You have people of varying age, varying professions, varying experiences. 'interesting people ' --people who can talk differently, write differently--some are good housewives, good office-goers, etc.
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• Philippines
17 Nov 11
Hi damned_dle! Yes, I did that. I was very interested in this person because at first I did not like how this person responded to one of my discussions. I wanted to see how this person interacts with other mylotters. Then I found that this person's way of speaking (or putting words) is a bit sarcastic but I guess it is normal for him/her. So in the end, I understand him/her better and I'm not mad at him/her anymore. It's not really stalking but I like viewing mylotter's blogs that are posted on their profile as well. It makes me know a bit more about them. :)
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• United States
18 Nov 11
I think that is actually a good way of handling the situation, Girl_thinking . Instead of just getting angry, taking it personally and being offended, you took the time to find out how this person interacted in general and realized that it was just the way he or she is, so it really was not personal, which also allows you to have a better understanding of the interactions in the future.
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• Philippines
20 Nov 11
oh bing, i did not know you have an idea.. hmm...now I wonder where you got your idea...hehehe... Anyway, you are aright, cultural differences is one of the biggest challenges of communication. Well, I hope I get my emoticons soon so I can have my smileys too. It would look friendlier when I respond with emoticons :)
@francesca5 (1344)
16 Nov 11
i have occasionally looked at someone's profile to see where they live, or what gender they are before responding to a discussion they have started. would you call that creepy? i think you are perhaps creating a barrier to meaningful interaction on the site by defining being interested in another member as "creepy". but of course becoming totally obsessed with another member could be a problem, but at what point does it become stalking. i am not sure if it becomes stalking until it becomes a form of aggressive harassment, in real life. it would be a shame to turn innocent things like an interest in other people into something thats wrong.
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• United States
18 Nov 11
I think that you have made a good point, Francesca5. On here, stalking is generally referred to in a positive and non-harmful manner. Trolling is more of the negative activity of following a person and harassing them and/or rating them negatively. I think that it depends upon how the "stalking" is done and how it is received, but on here I think it is more a form of flattery, because the other person thinks that the person they are following is interesting and has good taste and choice selection in discussions and/or comments and responses.
@mariahhh (1328)
• United Arab Emirates
16 Nov 11
I don't know if I can call it stalking. But I have been following this one member of mylot because she responds so much everyday and all her responses are good and informative. I love reading her responses. Everyday, I will visit her account and look at her activities, and I will also leave responses to the discussions she responded since she is good in choosing an interesting discussions.
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• United States
18 Nov 11
No, I have never secretly stalked anyone here on myLot ... instead I do it right out in the open so that everyone knows! I do not think it is creepy at all, but then again I guess that the motivation is what would or would not make it creepy. I have found that on here people that interact on a regular basis often reference things that have been said in other discussions, so sometimes it is a good thing to investigate and find out, because it makes participation much more fun when you know what everyone is talking about not to mention that you might find more discussions that you can respond on.
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@topffer (28534)
• France
18 Nov 11
Twitter created the concept of public stalker -- what is a follower if it is not a stalker ? --, but I think it is a lot more fun to stalk on myLot than on Twitter. You seem to be a very experienced stalker : are you stalking many lotters?
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• United States
18 Nov 11
I will tell you whether or not I am stalking many people if you tell me who you keep exchanging all these PMs and e-mails with ... of course, that would probably require a PM as I am not sure that sort of information is appropriate for in the discussions.
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• Canada
18 Nov 11
Phew! PA, is this a dark and mysterious side of you, I have NOT yet discovered? As she looks around to see if any "purple" flowers are blooming in her house...do they have mini-cams in their "pistils?"
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@pergammano (7756)
• Canada
16 Nov 11
Whatever the person has done in the past, is of NO relevance to me! People change...times change...attitudes change! I just like to know who they are today...and how we will interact in the future. I don't want the past to have any bearing on how I feel...once we have interacted, if they care to share what helped to create them, as to who, what they are today...that is a choice they can make! By reading your responses...I guess I am different. Have a great day...
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@Hatley (152292)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Nov 11
hi thats a very healthy attitude and we mostly do feel that way./ I have made friends here and followed their discussions but not as a stalker just as a mylot friend. I am very open about myself and have never felt I was any kind of dangerous deranged stalker out to do anyone harm.being friendly is not stalking at all.
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• Canada
17 Nov 11
So true, Ms. Hatley! After I have accepted them into my "cyber heart"...they are a friend, and I will follow their discussions..but that is after we have become friends here! I very seldom, (I don't the I ever have) gone into their past activity! I guess you and I are friendly followers! Belated Happy Birthday, dear Lady! I truly hope Goldcrest did something special for you! Did you go out to dinner with your beloved son?
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• United States
18 Nov 11
I am different than you, but I do not think that either way is right or wrong - I think that the diversity is what makes life interesting. Personally, I like going to older discussions, especially if I enjoy the discussions of the person, because sometimes I can find really interesting discussions that I missed when they were first posted. I have actually helped to revive some of these discussions and get them interactive again, and it feels really good when that can happen and we can all have fun together on them.
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@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
16 Nov 11
Hi there... Years of experience on World Wide Web has taught me that if one decides to fool somone on internet, that is simplest of all... It is true that a person who keeps posting a lot about his personal life, might be at a risk to reveal his life story to many wanted and unwanted people... But i don't see a point in tracing someone here... Its futility is immeasurable... I stalk Quality here... Am always hunting for quality discussions, like this one... :-) Happy Lotting...
@mysdianait (63942)
• Italy
16 Nov 11
"I stalk Quality here" I like that - znd it's not a creepy thing to do surely?
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• United States
16 Nov 11
I don't know if this is stalking or not. I found a member who was posting a lot and I was very bored and liked what he was doing. So,I followed him and responded to all or most of what he was posting. So,after this I see I was stalking him.
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• Philippines
16 Nov 11
That's cute. If it is in a friendly manner, then it is good. I would do the same way too..
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@julianmac (397)
• Malaysia
17 Nov 11
Hi, I haven't done that. If I come across any interesting and thought-provoking discussion, than I would respond and add that person as a friend. Otherwise besides playing games, I really don't have the time to do anything else. I have had this experience with one of the social sites. Never again I'm creating another new account there. You can call it creepy but I'm sure many would say that it is a normal behavior. I find that rather strange.
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@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
I don't think it's creepy. Beside, the stalker could very well be stalking a person pretending to someone he's not.
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@inertia4 (26298)
• United States
17 Nov 11
I have never stalked anyone here or on any other site. I like coming here, making friends and responding to their discussions. I don't think it's creepy, it would be if they kept on emailing you all the time or kept leaving messages on your profile. But, reading and responding to all their discussions is normal for MyLot. Thats what we do.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
I haven't stalked anyone here on myLot. And maybe if I did I won't actually think that it's creepy. I usually view someone's profile just to check whether this person have posted a new discussion that I might have missed.
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@Mashnn (4503)
16 Nov 11
No. I don't, I try to respond to others people discussion as much as I can and as time allows me to do so. Infact that alone leaves me with no time to stalk people around but to participate.
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• Indonesia
16 Nov 11
i alwyas do it, but not that mean i very interested with that people. hey, just check other older discussion, that not creepy.
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@toniganzon (37435)
• Philippines
16 Nov 11
So far i haven't done that and there's nobody here in mylot that really interest me that much to stalk him or her. Don't take me the wrong way but i do love my friends here but i'm not that obsessed to stalk them.
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@megamatt (14333)
• United States
17 Nov 11
Well I have better things to do with my time, but I have been sorely tempted to take a closer look at some posters. It's not creepy unless you want to do horrible horrible things to that person. Just taking a look at the posts of a person is not stalking per say, just observation. Yes, observation, of course, that explanation doesn't fly with the authorities, but that's another story. ;) Seriously through, it's perfectly harmless to take a look at the posts of the others. Of course, if someone decided to do that to me and looked at my older posts...I'm kind of appalled. Then again, I'm one of those writers who has periods where he hates pretty much everything that he has written ever. Not stalking again, it is just merely observation. That's the ticket.
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@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
For me yes they are to be with that like to view information of others but if you don't like to be with don't follow with the bad things in them.
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@jtj_hello (627)
• Philippines
17 Nov 11
No I haven't. The only people I know here personally are those that I referred. Even their post, I rarely follow it I normally reply to post that are catchy and interest me (like your post:). It's really creepy and nonsense at the same time.
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