My younger brother, was allowed to go home from the hospital.

@indahfth (11173)
Indonesia
November 19, 2011 9:53am CST
I am glad, finally my younger brother, was allowed to go home from the hospital. However, hospital costs very much, and made me confused. I have to prepare money $ 300. My father did not have that much money, because my father's money, was used to pay, advance my mother's care. I was very surprised, my husband was willing, to lend money. I'm happy, but also made me sad. Because of my debt to my husband, is increasing.
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18 responses
@celticeagle (117268)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Nov 11
That is too bad. It is good that he is willing to help your family. Families need to stick together in times of need and of happiness. Life is short and what we do here will follow us. I am sorry to hear that your family has been so sick. Any idea where the problem lies?
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
I feel uncomfortable, use my husband's money. Because, I have never felt, what my husband had. Feeling indebted, I do not have the courage, to do something, without the consent of my husband. I can only obey, with everything being said by my husband.
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@celticeagle (117268)
• Boise, Idaho
22 Nov 11
I have learned from experience and from my family to live and think so very differently than you live that it grieves me greatly to hear about the way you have to live. It is fine to be indebted to your husband for all he provides. But quite another thing to let his rule your life.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 11
This is how life should I live. Life is very strange, and sad.
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@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
That's a good news. That's the reason why I don't want me and my family members fell ill. Hospital bills are way too expensive now not to mention the medicines that has to be bought and taken when we are at home until we fully recovered. Good thing that your husband is there to at least pay that amount. Don't worry I am sure that your husband will understand it and he won't be forcing you or your family to quickly return the money.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
I do not feel comfortable using my husband's money. I am now getting confused, because I still have to think, my mother's hospital fees, which now has reached $ 500.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
I know it's not your money. But your husband should understand, even if you both are not in good terms right now, that your family is also his family. But if that is the case I hope your brother and family too can help you pay him back. For now, just be happy that some of them are now well.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
Now, I really hope, my parents and I, could soon return, my husband's money. I feel uneasy, if not able to return the money my husband.
@di44ito (496)
• Bulgaria
19 Nov 11
Hospitals are really expencive now as i see. Now i think that you have to be happy that your brother is at home and that he is ok and to worry about the money that your housband lend to your father. In the end you are all one family and you have to help each other. When you have the money you will pay them back to your housband. I think that he will have no big problem that he helped your family, at least if i were at his plays i wouldn`t have.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
During this time, my relationship with my husband is not good. I do not feel comfortable using my husband's money.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
21 Nov 11
As you mentioned your relationship with your husband now is not good. So, that would mean he was just forced to settle the hospital bills and that's why you are uncomfortable using his money?
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
Me and my family, do not force my husband to pay the hospital. But, my own husband, who offered her money. I was very surprised, my husband was willing to offer her money. Because our relationship is bad. I became confused, with my husband's attitude.
• Indonesia
20 Nov 11
I was hoping that our next president provide free medication for sick people in Indonesia entirely as same as in Europe.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 11
the cost of education and health problem were the main problem for our government.. but you must realize because this country is island country and we are separated by sea, and the problem become bigger and bigger.. the facility between java island is not same like in my island( Sulawesi)..you can know too how the poor facility in Maluku or Papua for example..
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
We will get free treatment, if we are exposed by media.
• India
30 Nov 11
Now a days hospital charges much and more. They give for attention for money. They always treat patient at their free time(at their own time)still they buy a large income. What a critical situation ?
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
30 Nov 11
Yes. You are right. Hospital costs are many and costly. People who can not afford anything like me, find it difficult to pay, the cost of expensive hospital.
@ranilo70 (177)
30 Nov 11
glad that your brother was dischrage from the hospital! Praise God ! Our husband are always there for us no matter how thick or thin , they are really willing to help our family. thus you should not be sad for that . But my question is is that money that came from your husband a borrowed one by yourself? or he gave it or he just shouldered it? $300 is not big.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
30 Nov 11
My husband lent the money. I now have relief, because my father, had returned, my husband's money. $ 300 amount is very much to me.
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 11
hopefully, your younger brother will recover faster now. and for you, you dont have to think too much about your debt to your husband, i think your husband will understand with your condition. and you are his wife. it is his duty for helping you. so dont too much stressing about it. or you will be the next for sending to hospital. hehehe...
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 11
If my relationship with my husband not having problems, I would not think about my debt.
@savypat (20247)
• United States
21 Nov 11
When you have no choice, just accept the fact and look for the benefits in the lessons. We really have very little control of what happens in our lives. Blessings
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
Yes. I can only accept the reality. Because, I do not have a choice, and unable to change the existing reality. I wish I could take the benefit, from this fact.
@ifa225 (11099)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
i guess you don't owe anything to your husband Indah, it is both your job to take care the family no matter its yours or him i am happy that your brother is getting better now take care
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
My relationship with my husband was very bad. I do not feel, as a wife. Everyday, I did not dare ask for money to my husband. I also do not use the money that was given to me, for my purposes. In fact, during menstruation, sometimes I can not buy a bandage. Because, I do not have the courage, asking for money to my husband.
@Noseclams (149)
• United States
20 Nov 11
First off, that's great that your brother is getting out of the hospital. Second, I realize that things are different in every household and other cultures, but do you and your husband not share finances. My pparents always combined their income and when stuff like that came up they worked together to cover expenses rather than having separate funds and have to borrow from each other.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
My relationship with my husband being bad. I've also been offended because of money problems. It makes me feel uncomfortable, use the money from my husband. If our relationship is good, this will not be a problem.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 11
nice news indah..iam surprised that i don`t know about this news.. thats husband...you don`t need worry about it.. he is responsible husband i think... i do hope you and your husband found the way for getting back much money for make your life is stable again.. don`t easily give up..God always be with the fighting people like you and your husband..
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
But, I feel indebted, and made me feel very uncomfortable. Because, so far my husband, so calculation in financial terms. Because, I feel indebted. I do not dare to do something that I want. I obeyed, whatever is said by my husband.
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
20 Nov 11
ALl of u are family and there should not be any problems when it comes to money issues or problem sharing. That's what a family is about. Would u prefer your husband to stand aside, ignore about your brother's hospital bills? I don't think so right? Even if your husband didn't help out, u would be the one paying for it if u have the money. At the end of it, the money would still come from your husband, just that it's being paid for indirectly via u.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
My relationship with my husband, was not good. I feel, like everyone else. This is what makes me, feel indebted to my husband.
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@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
20 Nov 11
Y ou stated that the money your husband put up was a loan. To whom? Does he seriously expect to be repaid?
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
In the past, I've used, my husband's money, for my cousin operating costs. And my husband asked us to return the money. Maybe, this time my husband, also will ask us, return the money, because money that we use very much.
@dong88 (796)
• China
19 Nov 11
Hello!Your younger brother comes home from the hospital,is a happy things. In this to your younger brother say hello! Look,the cost of hospital everywhere is very expensive,we here also is the same. In peacetime attention to health! Wish you good luck!
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
Hospital costs are very expensive. We have to maintain health, so do not enter the hospital.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
19 Nov 11
Hi there... I don't think it is good to keep accounts with husband.. He is your life partner, right? You share everything.. I am not sure, if I will ever marry; but if I do, I'll certainly share everything (including money) with my wife... Please don't keep the terms like lending, borrowing, debt in your relationship, that will spoil things... Take care...
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
I really wished for, a relationship like that. But, our relationship was not good. During this time, my husband was a very calculating person, especially in terms of money. This, makes me, do not feel comfortable using, my husband's money.
@cintara (137)
19 Nov 11
I am also happy, your brother has been allowed home from hospital. Hospital costs, is troublesome. You should be happy, because your husband is willing to help. You are the wife of your husband, so no need to feel indebted. No terms, the wife of borrowed money, to the husband. If there is a term borrowed in the husband and wife, it's very strange. You like everyone else, and not a husband and wife.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
Now, I really hope, my parents and I, could soon return, my husband's money. I feel uneasy, if not return, my husband's money.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
19 Nov 11
Try not to think about the money now. You have already enough to think about. Be happy your younger brother is home. Live by the moment and remember: tomorrow is an other day!
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
I can not, to not think about money. Even we, have to put up to $ 500, and even more, for my mother's hospital expenses.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
19 Nov 11
Nowadays hospital bills are very high...none of normal income can pay for the different test items entered in their bills. It is exorbitant...people like you and me run a muck....
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 11
Yes. Now the hospital costs are very expensive. Getting people on low incomes hassles. I try to always be healthy, and do not need to go to the hospital.