I Wonder Why I Prefer Being Quiet - I've Not Always Been This Way

@Janey1966 (24170)
Carlisle, England
November 23, 2011 1:26pm CST
Having said that though, I was extremely quiet when I was very young. I was quite happy reading or "colouring in." My Nan used to cheer me up no end when she would visit and bring me the latest colouring book to fill in. How innocent life was back then. I seem to have come full-circle. John has been off work from Tuesday and - usually I'd be ecstatic about this..but, I dunno, he's in the way lol. Doesn't that sound awful and selfish of me? Altogether now.."y-e-e-e-e-e-s!" I'm so used to being on my own during the day (sometimes in silence) that even the telly on distracts me and I've just been upstairs sorting clothes out..just to get away. I sat on the loo thinking how I'd love one of those Amazon Kindles. I've really neglected my reading since I bought a computer in 2001. I'm still looking forward to seeing a rock gig a week on Saturday although I'm wondering if I should wear ear plugs. Never even thought of this when I was in my teens and 20s. Oh dear!
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
30 Nov 11
Well, I think we like it more quite as we get older. Also, you being home while your husband works, means that you got used to it that way. I was also a quiet kid and loved being by myself coloring. But that never really changed. I did love loud music when I was hanging out, but it's okay. I am waiting to get enough money to buy me an iPad2. Then I will be a happy camper.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
30 Nov 11
Are Apple products the only thing you buy (joke) lol. I dread to think how large your collection is. You don't fancy shipping over one of your cast-offs do you? I wish you luck in your quest. If they were a bit cheaper it wouldn't take you as long. We have a new Apple Store that opened up just last week. I scurry past it VERY QUICKLY as I don't want to be tempted by the goodies inside!
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@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
6 Dec 11
Well, I am an Apple fan. I have every iPhone since they came out. I now have the with one. I gave my girl the iPhone4 and my son the iPhone 3Gs. My daughter also has the original one. I use an iMac. This is like the 3rd iMac I have had since the 90's. Once I got an Apple way back, I was hooked and now I can no longer buy anything else. They are very addicting. Believe me. It's good that you pass the Apple store fast, because of you went inside, you would be hooked like me.
@ElicBxn (63252)
• United States
24 Nov 11
when I was young, I had few friends, I mostly spent time in my room reading or working jigsaw puzzles... Now I hang out on my computer and mylot or play games... I don't feel the need to be out doing things all the time, and I seldom have the tv on because its distracting WHEREAS, Maggiepie will read or work a word puzzle, and have the TV or radio on. If she wants to talk to me, she knows she'll have to mute the TV or radio or I can't listen to her
@ElicBxn (63252)
• United States
25 Nov 11
I agree, it isn't social behavior, but I'd guess he learned it from his family. Before the roomie moved in she lived with a gal who had the TV on ALL THE TIME. And would glare at the roomie when someone (me) would come over because the roomie would turn off the TV.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Nov 11
The TV can be a pain, I agree. I once glared at John because the first thing he did when we visited Mum's a while back was turn the telly on. I mean, how rude is that? Fortunately for him Mum went along with it but it annoys me when people can't chat without the telly on, it gives me a headache and is actually anti-social, when you think about it!
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@derek_a (10874)
24 Nov 11
Hi Janey, I wouldn't worry about this as the mind can get acclimatised to solitude and peace. I work alone, and I miss that alone-ness when my wife is off work. It's daft really, because she likes to get stuck into her family history in the other room on her laptop and I am still here alone, apart from mealtimes that is. Then, when she has to go back to work, I get to feel that I don't want her to go back again, because my mind has acclimatised to have somebody in the house and perhaps suggest going out somewhere.. The mind is weird - rarely rational as it wants us to believe it is! _Derek
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
25 Nov 11
You've hit the nail on the head Derek! I can guarantee that - once John goes back to work on Monday I'll feel deflated about it and want him back in the house all day! We went to Town earlier and he's bought me "an early Christmas present" i.e. a top for the Magnum gig next week. 25% off all Per Una clothes in M&S too so I'm glad we went out today..turned out to be a good decision and it saved us money to boot.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
23 Nov 11
You could always buy a book rather than a Kindle. Oxfam do some good ones for not much. But things were quieter when we were young. No daytime TV other than the cricket in Summer. No computers. Outdoors was a haven for little ones and not muggers and perverts (although they were there I'm sure). I like to be on my own too. Although at night I prefer company, especially if that means the Boss, which it usually does of course. I fill my days pretty well but sometimes there's something lovely about just hearing.... nothing!
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
23 Nov 11
I know exactly what you mean. As for the Kindle..well, I am an Aries and we love gadgets (allegedly) but if Father Christmas can't bring me one, that's fine too. I would be extremely happy if Christmas was cancelled, to be honest. Mum thinks about cancelling it but always gives in as she likes "giving" bless 'er. I keep telling her not to buy things but she always says, "I can't do that." I've not heard about the online course either as we got our wires crossed and I'm convinced I've lost my chance to get on it now. Oh well, such is life. Dust myself off and start again for 2012.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
24 Nov 11
I got in. Whoopee!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
2 Dec 11
One of my recent discussions was about me being a bit sensitive on a few things, including noise. Late in the day, after I get home from work, I would sometimes feel that I would rather be quiet, without any distractions. When the kids get on about little things, I get irritated. I would much like it to just sit in a chair and read a book.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
3 Dec 11
I can understand why you want to be quiet after working. I was like that although I didn't have children demanding things from me.
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
23 Nov 11
sounds perfectly normall to me lol.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
23 Nov 11
Phew, that's a relief!
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
23 Nov 11
Lol just try and make more time for yourself
@BarBaraPrz (45568)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
23 Nov 11
Earplugs would probably be a good idea.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
23 Nov 11
Thought as much!
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
23 Nov 11
I think as we get older we tend to enjoy the quietness more. For me I find it so relaxing and peaceful, I rarely have music on, or the television set is quiet unless the kids are watching a movie. I think reading is way better than the computer, personally. Gotta luv the old-fashioned books!
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
23 Nov 11
Mum keeps nagging me to take some of my books back (they are stored away but there are quite a few of them from my book club days) but we have even less storage here although I have thought about ebay..selling them on there. It's finding the motivation to do so which is severely lacking at the moment!
• China
24 Nov 11
Just to get away from noise.I am so quiet that my friends think I am a shy man.I like a quiet atmosphere to do things I want to do, especially when I am in trouble.I like reading books alone and listening musics.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
25 Nov 11
Good for you!
• United States
23 Nov 11
I can relate because I, most of my life have been "quiet person" even when I was a kid. In a way I have always liked it, and then I have not. Sometimes when we get in a certain mood or feel a certain way, we want to isolate ourselves with quietness to make ourselves feel better. We also go through our different stages of life where we change or revert back. Everyone has their own personality, so just do you and pray.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
23 Nov 11
I'll be quite relieved when hubby goes back to work..well, sort of! I've told him I'd like to go out tomorrow for a walk, even if it's just to Town and back, as I haven't really had any fresh air since Saturday would you believe. That can't be good for me can it?