is it necessary to involve money in a relationship??

@asliah (11148)
Philippines
November 25, 2011 8:24am CST
actually i am really curious if is it necessary to involve money in a relationship such as in friendship,lover and even in family??? can you give me any reason why should not and should be involve money in a relationship?? Thanks, ylash
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24 responses
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
for me money 's always involved in everything as long as we are alive it is said that money makes the world move, so it means we cannot move without money...
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
27 Nov 11
i think a relationsgip that involved with money will grow bad. if there are money in a relationship, the relationship may be just a fake you know, every people come to you and being a good person to you because of your money, and then after you dont have money, they will leave you. Money is the biggest thing that make people all around the world being so evil. so i think we dont have to put money in our relationship... our relationship will have a weak foundation... it will be better if our relationship is because of love and care.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
27 Nov 11
Your question has too many variables. Money should not be a consideration between friends, unless one has a great deal of money and the other has very little. In that case, the one who has the most money should understand that the one who has less money cannot afford to do all the things that he/she can and adjust expectations accordingly, without making a big show of it. The same consideration would need to be given to any of the other relationships, with the possible exception of family.As a rule, I believe that how much or how little I make is none of my family's business, but even that changes if I happen to still live under their roof.
@Xansus (950)
• Bulgaria
26 Nov 11
Money are a need to live , a great need for kids . So family runs on lots of those :P Or you lvie in a villige with 5 yard garden and go to chop wood and no electricity :P ok does not matter :D Anyway money are a need so they are important . But relationship is greater . Ye my family ahve a 50 000$ dept to bank for 3 years now , we are unemployed but we manage and we are together . Thats all i can say :)
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
I don't money in always involved in a relationship. Money is only a sort of man to live not being to love... The involvement of money in a relationship really does many problems. Because when two person in a relationship don't have money. The time they for them to quarrel and or one of them cold... Even those rich people who involved money in their relationship will end with divorce...so I don't agree with involvement of money in a relationship. If the person loves you. Loves you just what you are not because you are rich, beautiful or anything like that... If anyone want a long lasting relationship. They need to set aside money in their relationship. Love is for better or worse. With money or no money at all. Love must always be there...
• United States
26 Nov 11
Well, there's not much you can do for free, so I would say that money has to be a part of your relationship. You can't expect your partner to pay for everything, and your partner can't expect you to pay for everything.. so there must be balance. Money doesn't have to be the focus, but money is a necessary tool to do things.. to buy food, to go out to eat, to do things, to put gas in the car, to pay for train or bus fare.. etc. You can't get around money. It's a necessary part of our survival.
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
well..we all know that money doesn't make the world go round but love does..but you can also say that you can't live with love alone..that's why you need money for that love to survive too! involving money with relationship is kinda tricky and complicated, because bringing in the money can sometimes ruin or make the relationship better.But then again it still depends on the couple if how they will handle it. =)
• United States
26 Nov 11
I'm not a pro! I'm not keeping company with my guy for his money! so money isn't in our relationship. Family is a little different. If a family member needs anything we try to get it
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
26 Nov 11
Money is involved in any case or relationship because we cant live only with love and without eating so money is also need. But with in limit the persons should not fight for money because money will not exist till the end of life but relationship can exist till the end of life. Money is crazy and going from one place to another place but relationship will stay in one place means our husband cant jump one women to another.
@derek_a (10902)
26 Nov 11
Well, making money is a part of life. We don't go out to hunt any more as a way to support our life, so it is necessary sooner or later to deal with money matters in a relationship. I feel that is it always important to be honest with our partners, especially regarding money-matters. I feel that I am part of team with my wife and money matters are openly discussed especially when things of great expense are involved. Money isn't the evil that some claim it to be. It is only a means to an end and is meant to enhance the quality of life. If you are with somebody in a close relationship, then in my opinion, your life has come together with your partner's life and it is all about getting the best as a couple, giving and taking, having similar goals, yet supporting your partner if they have a different requirement, as is bound to happen between a man and a woman. _Derek
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
26 Nov 11
Money is essential for every day living...we might not have to involve money in friendship, but when it comes to relationship then is a different matter specially if you are serious about it...you would like to know your partners financial situation...and what to expect if you go ahead with the relationship! sadly a lot of people ignore this very important fact and when the honey moon is over their are faced with an economical situation they can't deal with! now when it comes to family money does get involve for a lot of different reasons...we might have to help our parents, our children, or just a family member who is down in the dumps! so yes money actually is quite involve in most of our daily dealing with life.
@vexxus (708)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
I guess money should really be involve in any relationship, money plays a big role not just in our personal life but also in a relationship we need it so we can purchase and supply or basic needs.
@junrapmian (2170)
• Philippines
26 Nov 11
For me money is important in a relationship...that is to buy anything you would need like food, clothes or for paying rentals but I think money should not be a cause for disagreement or misunderstandings for partners. If we have problems about money, we can talk it over, money can be earned but not the hurt that we can cause to our partners resulted from saying bad words is not acceptable.
• Indonesia
26 Nov 11
what sort of relationship, business relationship, friendship, marriage relationship? I think money is not really necessary to establish a relationship, but we need money to afford our life. We have to have money supporting ourselves in establishing our relationship. That's it
@aeiou78 (3457)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 11
With money, you can buy a lot of gifts for the people around you. For sure, you will be popular among them. This is the reality in this society. When I traveled to other places, I must bought some local products for most of my relatives and my friends who knew about it. I had to do so to maintain good relationship with them. As such, money is very important for us.
@ayvanee (149)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
Money can be included in a relationship but it should never be the center of it. If you treat your partner as your bank then you'd rather stop it. Just like how the saying goes, money is the root of all evil. There will come a time when the other party would be too dependent on the other too. So I think money is unhealthy when it gets too involved in a relationship.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
What do you mean by involving money in a relationship? Like sharing money, let friends borrow money? My friends are always there when I needed them, emotionally and financially. They never let me down. They let me borrow money without me asking it from it. They offered it voluntarily, but of course I dont and never abused their trust. With lovers...well,that depends on you and your partner.
@dodo19 (33316)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 Nov 11
I don't think that it's necessary to involve money in relationships. Granted, sometimes, it may find its way into the relationship, but it shouldn't be important in the relationship. It's not something that I feel should really matter in the relationship.
@airasheila (5458)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
hi asliah, with reference to your main topic discussion, generally, money is always a part of every relationship, either it is a relationship with your family, friend, and even to your lover. the reason why, this thing was tagged as the "root of all evil". hence, they say, money is the cause why good relationship was ruined. although, in reality, it is not the money that causes the good relationship breaks. yet, it is the person. as money is just an instrument being use by the person and it has nothing to do in a ruined relationship. the very main reason why a relationship breaks is because of pride which runs to the mind of the person. and there are times, the person who does not have enough amount of money is the one who has an overflowing pride in his mind. as a consequence, miscommunication arises from the two parties involve, either between a family members, friend or lover.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
25 Nov 11
I try not to involve it but sometimes it just needs to be involved. For instance, you and your boyfriend having all this plans on getting married have agreed about saving money. But your boyfriend or you cannot actually stop helping your family. Because you still feel responsible and can't stand your family struggling. So you help them and your agreement to save for your wedding and your future family together has been affected. Sometimes it will really cause an argument between the couple.