This guy is going to give us all a breakdown!!! Aaaarrggghhh!!!

@gloryacam (5546)
Philippines
November 27, 2011 9:54pm CST
I understand that he has a meeting this lunch and they have not yet given him the materials he wants for his presentation. Sure, I also get that he'd be meeting with the other bosses and probably with his own boss, too. But, what I don't get is, why does he have to SCREAM at everybody like people aren't doing anything?! Does he expect us to be productive at all with him there breathing fire at everyone? I would be upset, too, if the substance of the materials was wrong or faulty, but a missing comma, really?!! or an extra space between two letters?!! Really?!!! Would they even notice that in the presentation? Has this guy ever heard of "Don't sweat the small stuff?" How do you deal with an irrational, unreasonable, hot-tempered boss? Sorry for this rant. Need to find a safe way to let off steam. If I were a big guy, I'd have punched him in the face. Anybody else having a terrible Monday?
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@sid556 (31003)
• United States
28 Nov 11
Hi Gloryacam, I worked under a boss that was evil like that. She never could see that her complaining and yelling were counterproductive and actually cost her some very good help. She got highly offended if you even suggested she was mean. I only stayed because I very much needed the work, the pay wasn' bad. If she didn't like my work, she'd have to fire me. I now have a great boss who is very kind and even when he is upset, he isn't verbally abusive.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Me, too. The only reason I'm still here is because I need the job so bad. Any opportunity for me to leave, I would. Maybe your former boss is another sister of my evil boss. Glad to hear you're in a much better environment now. I wish that I would have a new job next year, at least.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
29 Nov 11
You have to look at it from another angle. That boss that keeps complaining about you....still keeps paying you so stick it out until you can find something better and I so hope you do. You will! Just stay focused on your purpose for being there to begin with which is to pull in a paycheck. Just do your best to get the job done right and keep your eyes open for another job that you will enjoy better.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
It's hard for me to do things when the only motivation is the paycheck. But, as you say, I can stay focused her while I'm searching for another job. And I know it's out there somewhere.
@SIMPLYD (85041)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
Maybe your boss needs a little cajoling from you guys, after office hours. Maybe, one of you can initiate that you all talk about things in the office and that is an avenue for everybody to lovingly ask him not to be so much of a monster. I think , he regrets being like that, but he just don't know how to control his temper. Somebody has to tell him jokingly or lovingly that he is wrecking everybody's day when he does that.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Well, there's no changing this guy. He won't go out with us unless it's something mandatory. And, besides, even just eating with him is no fun. When we have a party because someone is celebrating a birthday, it feels like we're eating in a convent! We're too afraid to talk or something like that. I don't know if he regrets being mean. One time, he brought up an open conference, and some of us said our sentiments (in a very toned down manner) and he got back at us. I noticed that we who spoke up got more overtimes (we don't get paid for these) than the others, so from that moment, even if he asks our opinions, I don't bother to answer. There was also another time he asked us to come up with ideas so that he won't flare up so often.
@SIMPLYD (85041)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Well, on your last sentence, at least he asked you guys to come up with ideas so that he won't flare up often, is your opportunity to indeed tell how will it be so.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Well it sounded to us like what can we do to fix his emotions. I think that's kinda hard to do. Because we don't understand what he really likes. Some days he likes this and the next day, when you give him that, he'll get mad say he wants it another way. There was a time I got fed and I retorted, but you said to do this, and he yelled, and you think that is right?! He's making all the mess and he wants us to do something about it.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
16 Dec 11
Mondays are never particularly nice and neither are short fused bosses..lol. I have a boss that is very picky about spelling and punctuation too. I think he should have been an English professor instead of a business manager.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
28 Dec 11
Right! LOL. As if my evil boss knows his grammar! He justs acts like he does.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
29 Dec 11
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
29 Dec 11
• Philippines
1 Dec 11
Oh, I had these people around me one every few times! Gratefully not everyday! Being assigned at the branch, way away from the big BOSSES, it's one of the perks of being an employee. I heard a lot of horror stories from my colleagues at the main branch and I can only sigh as reaction.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
2 Dec 11
Good for you! Me, I have to deal with him everyday. It's tiring me out. It's hard to deal with difficult bosses.
• Philippines
3 Dec 11
Indeed! But just do what you can in your job and try not to allow your boss to affect you negatively in any way. It's hard especially when he's nosing around and watching for any mistake on your end. Just focus and try to blot out his presence [if you can, anyway!] when you're working something. Hope you'll get by just fine and perhaps let us just pray that somehow, something can be done about your boss' temperament. God bless!
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
8 Dec 11
Thanks. Yes, there are times I just try to ignore him. And, during the times that he's out of the office are the happiest times at the office, I guess. Right now, he knows that he needs to be a little kind to me because he depends a lot on my work as my superior is on a very long leave and there's no one else he can depend on. But, even if he is being kind to me, I see how harsh he is with others. And it's still not acceptable for me. Sometimes, I stick up for them, but, I can't do it all the time. He's such a bully because he knows exactly the people he can bully anytime. For fighters like me (and because he really needs me) he's a little kinder. And I hate that because it's not fair.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
28 Nov 11
Hi.. I'm sorry to hear your unpleasent experience... Bosses, are apt to let the handle fly and take all their stresses on their employees or subordinates... My Boss is too kind and humble though, he is very cooperative.. Moreover, he knows I'll quit if I have problems. Mine is quite a hot field here and jobs are plenty too.. Look if you can get another job, then get and quit this job... And when they ask you the reason for quitting, tell them the truth... Good Luck!!!
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
Good for you because those kinds of bosses are extremely rare. Well, the last bosses that I had (there were 4 partners so I had 4 bosses), I liked very much because they were really professional and worthy of our respect. Sometimes I ask my self why I left. But, there's no going back for me. For one, the bosses are different now and so are a lot of company policies. I really wish I could get a new job. I've been applying but to no avail. I had one this year, but turned out to be unstable because we reported only as needed and so the income was not stable. Thanks for wishing me luck. I really need that right now.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
The moment I see an opportunity, even a small one, I'm out of here. I feel like I'm wasting my talent here. There are things I'd like to say, but I just can't confront him. And, I don't care enough for him to let him know he's being a jerk. He doesn't know it for himself? I'm not telling him.
@shibham (17022)
• India
28 Nov 11
Hi glorya... I dont know how much essential to be a presentation 100% perfect in official issues but in academic issues, its important still mistakes are there and ignorable as we are human being. When i submitted my thesis, this issue made me mad completely. No double space between letters but double space between sentences. Punctuation should be perfect. The font should be same sized and quotations should have another font. Again differences between English letter and Assamese. Oh, what a great relief now till the result out. Have a nice time.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Well, you have a point there. When I was in school, I made sure everything was perfect. But, the problem is when the substance of the reports are not given much important while those things that I mentioned are. And that is my problem with this guy. Sure, the form is perfect, but the substance is disagreeable. I hope your thesis turns out well!
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
28 Nov 11
wow glory, this guy sounds like a real winner...But don't allow him to make you lose your kool...Instead of the thought of punching him in the face....take a step back and realize he must really under pressure momentarily.. If he is a good boss he will approach you and apologize for him being a jackazz... No punching because you don't want to lose your job....i am sure thats more important...KEEP A KOOL HEAD....
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
Well, I can't really punch him. I'm a dainty little girl no match for his big, tall frame. I'd die if he punched me back. You are right, he is a jackass and the last thing in the world he'd do is apologize. There was a time in the past he called us up for a meeting. We thought he'd apologize for being bratty the day before but, no. We had a brainstorming. We were supposed to come up with ideas so that he won't flare up the next time. During my first months here, I would sympathize with him, but through the years, I discovered he was just a plain jerk.
• United States
28 Nov 11
Adrian's boss is always screaming at him as well. I get so tired of hearing about it all the time too. I can only imagine how fast I would quit my job if that were me.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
If it were up to me, I'd have quit ages ago. But, I just can't seem to find another job and I need a job terribly. Sometimes I want to kick my self for getting my self so much debts that I have to consider them before making any reckless decision such as quitting when I don't have a next job to go to. I just want out of here.
@Hatley (164465)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Nov 11
hi glorycam Its still sunday evening here in C alifornia USA 7:58 pm to be exact. today was for me a lousy day as my lunch and dinner neither one set well with me. but I really know what you are talking about as I once worked under the boss from hell. she was bipolar but she refused to take her medication so one day she was totally angry and told us we were the worst c rew she ever had yet the next day she was all gushy and friendly and we were the greatest crew she had ever met. I just wished we had had our old boss back as she was kind and thoughtful and did not blow her top over the tiniest of things like E mily did./screaming at us just makes us want to hide and not want to be around her yet she did the screaming bit too and over the smallest of small things.We employees did not do well when screamed at and she never thought to apologize for losing her temper over the tiniest detail.'She finally ended up getting fired when she screamed at one of the people from headquarters who was actually her boss. He did no like being screamed at and he gave her the axe for being a poor boss.
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
She sounded terrible! Maybe she is my boss's twin! I often suspect he's satan in disguise. And, yeah, sometimes I suspect he's got a mental problem or something. He changes his mind so often that we think was he the same person we were talking to yesterday? Oh dear, just a window of opportunity and I'm out of here!