Is it possible to say I love you too much?

United States
January 14, 2012 5:17pm CST
My hubby says I love you to me a lot. He probably says it like once a hour at least. I never thought about it because I'm used to it and dont have a problem with it. But a few minutes ago, he asked me if I ever get annoyed because he says it so much. I asked him if he meant it everytime he said it or if he was just saying it out of habit. He said that he says it because he looks at me and feels it and means it. I told him that it doesnt annoy me. I think it is a good thing. One of us could walk out the door, have an accident and be killed and at least I know our last words to each other will always be I love you. So, I dont think it can ever be said too much, do you?
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@Orson_Kart (6118)
• United Kingdom
14 Jan 12
Once an hour? That seems a bit excessive to me but I think maybe I have forgotten what it is like to be in the first blooms of love. I suppose it's better than saying "Are you still here?" The problem might come when he stops saying it. Then you'll really be concerned.
• United States
14 Jan 12
Yeah, he does say it a lot and we're not in the first blooms of love. We're coming up on our 14th anniversary in March. lol at the "are you still here" comment. I'm the reserved, sarcastic one in the relationship so that is more like something I'd say, but all in fun.
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• United Kingdom
15 Jan 12
It's sarcasm that has got me where I am today....absolutely nowhere. lol 14 years of saying "I love you" every hour is very commendable. Of course, if he has run out of things to say then it's always like playing the joker at cards. Have you ever said it back to him? Maybe he has been waiting for a response for 14 years and is just very persistent.
• United States
15 Jan 12
You really have me laughing over here. Now he's wondering why. I just might have to tell him about this topic I started. You know men arent very talkative so maybe it's just his version of a conversation. I do say it back but I must admit that I dont always say it back which is probably why he thinks it annoys me. Hmmm maybe he's doing it just to annoy me and now that he knows it doesnt he'll stop. just kidding lol
• Brazil
15 Jan 12
I am 19 years old and my gf is 18 yo, we have been dating for about 3 years, with a serious relationship for 2 years. We say it every single day and I never get tired of it. It's a powerful word and when you learn to value it, you have the world in your hands.
• United States
25 Jan 12
It is a powerful word and feeling. The fact that you know it's value early in your life will help you have a strong and healthy relationship. Good luck to you.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
14 Jan 12
I think you are very lucky, so long as he really does mean it, I see a lot of people using the word love a lot these days as if it is just a throw around thing but if he means it it is lovely.
• United States
14 Jan 12
I also believe if it is out of habit then it loses meaning and could be stopped but since he says it when he feels it then I'm ok with it.
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Jan 12
I love this discussion! My husband and I say it a lot too. I like it when he says it to me. It gives me comfort and makes me happy. I dont think its habit for us because the way that its said. And we always make sure to say it before we go to bed and before either of us go somewhere. I think its sweet of your husband. =) For me it never gets old.
• United States
25 Jan 12
We also say it before going to bed or going somewhere. I never thought if it gave me comfort but it probably does.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
15 Jan 12
You are very lucky because he is always showing you that he love you. Not all man is like him,I'm sure you are very proud for him. I think saying i love you to your couple so many many times a day is not but because it only shows that he really love you. Happy Mylotting..
• United States
25 Jan 12
Yes, it is good knowing that someone cares about you and isn't afraid to express it or show it.
• United States
15 Jan 12
I have been with my husband for almost 9 years. I haven't really thought about it until reading your discussion, but we rarely tell each other. He is kind of a quiet guy overall so it doesn't really bother me. I know that he does love me and as well he knows that I love him. If you and your husband enjoy saying it and hearing it more that is fine. It is whatever you, as a couple are comfortable with.
• United States
15 Jan 12
For me, it's all about actions and not just words. It wouldnt bother me if he rarely said I love you because he shows me in the way he treats me. I dont mind that he says it a lot but I dont feel I need it. But, I never really thought about it either until he asked me if it annoyed me.
@yanzalong (18983)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 12
Why not? Yes, your hubby is an open type of a person who easily expresses what he thinks about something or someone he loves. There are other types who don't show it. Did he often say that when you two were still single?
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
16 Jan 12
Funny how many millions of women wish their husbands would say it even once a year. And here you are questioning if he even means it. Once again, the guy can never win.
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
16 Jan 12
I think it really depends. I tell hubby that I love him a lot sometimes. Usually it's during times when I'm more emotional (if you know what I mean, about once a month) or when I'm sick or every once in a while when he does something adorable or I look at him and think it. It's not once an hour or anything, but it's definitely a lot sometimes. I do the same to my daughter. On the other hand, I think for most other people in my family I only tell them now and then like once a day or something, definitely not as often as I do my husband and daughter. And I find that I don't mind my husband telling me often, but it does bug me when other people tell me too often though so I'm not really sure why that happens. Guess I'm just weird and it just depends on the person, which sounds horrible but it's true lol.
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
16 Jan 12
I think it really depends. I tell hubby that I love him a lot sometimes. Usually it's during times when I'm more emotional (if you know what I mean, about once a month) or when I'm sick or every once in a while when he does something adorable or I look at him and think it. It's not once an hour or anything, but it's definitely a lot sometimes. I do the same to my daughter. On the other hand, I think for most other people in my family I only tell them now and then like once a day or something, definitely not as often as I do my husband and daughter. And I find that I don't mind my husband telling me often, but it does bug me when other people tell me too often though so I'm not really sure why that happens. Guess I'm just weird and it just depends on the person, which sounds horrible but it's true lol.
@bb_gabs (205)
• Philippines
17 Jan 12
You are right, and I think you are really lucky to have your husband. And saying I love you in the most times you can is really not annoying at all. I hope we can also do it, but my husband is working far from us but if we are talking to each other, we always say that three beautiful words. And I think it also helps the relationship last. For each of you is assured of what your partner feels.
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
My husband always say that too me. I'm not really annoyed, i really like it. I do the same with him. We always say iloveyou to each other, not every hour but everytime we glance at each other. LOL. And we'll do that until we get older.
@myzhian (584)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
you must appreciate him for bing vocal in saying I love you because most of the guys don't do that unless you ask them! Maybe it's his own way of showing love to you! and you're lucky enough to have him!
@arjunm (439)
• India
16 Jan 12
i just want o know why u think about an accident? for saying i love u u also need a deep reason?
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
Once an hour! Ha!ha!ha! Well if he was doing it every day of his life with you then I think he is amazing. My husband is never that literally expressive about his love for me although he consistently shows me how he loves me in a hundred different way. Now I don't think there is anything annoying about your husband's habit. The only problem I see here is that if you kept hearing him saying this, these words might not thrill you anymore. And besides, anything too much is not good either.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
16 Jan 12
I would like to hear my husband say ,"I love you" once a day. You are right, it can't be said too often.
@moneywinner (1864)
• Brazil
15 Jan 12
I agree with you. If he meant to say then I don't see no problem in doing this, actually is a very nice gesture. It's very difficult to find men like that!
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
For me, I don't think its too much t o say I love you to someone you love. Don't doubt his actions and expressions of love to you my friend. You heart exactly knows what he means by it, your heart can tell whether he doesn't mean it or not. I and my hubby even in our busy schedule really tried to say or send texts with each other saying I love you. I remember one time, I was riding a public vehicle on my way home and my hubby was also on his way home from his office. We usually update each other where we are at then I texted him " I love you". Just as soon as I finished and sent my text the vehicle swirl! We almost got an accident! We are just glad the driver didn't lost his control and presence of mind... When I got to bed I came to realize that we don't know what will happen next even in just a few seconds. So its really better to say the words that we wanted to say to the particular person, more especially to our loved ones. Every seconds is important especially in expressing our love to someone dear to us.
@JER616 (545)
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
None is too much for a loving heart. Love is a wonderful feeling of the heart that is compelling one to express towards the one loved. Nonetheless, this emotion has to be nurtured and taken cared of because it will vanish through time along with age.
• Philippines
15 Jan 12
My girlfriend and I also do the same thing. When we talk on the phone we probably have said "I love you" to each other for like 20 times. Like you, I don't get annoyed with that since I know that she means what she says. If she stopped doing that, that only means she does not love me anymore. I will never get tired of hearing her say that awesome sentence. And you know what's the best part of hearing someone say "I love you"? That is if it's addressed to you. :) Your husband is sweet and I know he genuinely loves you. You have been together for 14 years and yet he acts like as if you just got married. All I can say is you're such a lucky woman! :)