do you believe in online relationship?

Indonesia
January 17, 2012 10:47pm CST
when the cyberspace is growing fast, people also use this way to find a relationship, correspondent with another people in another country without knowing their real life. It's sound fun and pleasant to do which we can get more friend and know more about another world. But not rare people also try to find their soulmate by online relationship. I just want to know your oppinion, do you believe in online relationship since you don't know you partner's real life?
4 people like this
24 responses
@beamer88 (4267)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
I guess I'm a bit old-fashioned when it comes to relationships. I do know a few people who had met online and eventually got married even when most of their relationship time was spent online. Probably the key word here is how they strongly feel for each other. Well, if some long-distance relationships work, then online relationships would too since the internet sort of bridges the distance. My concern though if these relationships would last. One missing element is the physical interaction of the couple.
1 person likes this
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
maybe it's depend on fate too, when people meet in the real world and it's not their destiny they can not continue their relationship.
1 person likes this
@arjunm (439)
• India
18 Jan 12
It is one of the minor element of modern days. we should keep our Relation on visual sights and other ways too. but one thing is that online relation exist in a very short period. its bonding never lasting as much as we lasting in human race.
1 person likes this
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
yeah, I think so. sometimes some people only feel happy at the first time then they will easy to get boring
1 person likes this
@vt689586 (585)
• India
18 Jan 12
yes i do believe in online relationship because i found my love 2 years ago on social networking site Orkut.an rally it is very interesting part of my life.i never thought about that type of relationship in my life. but it happened with. and truly saying i am very happy with this relationship. at the initial stage i also have some doubt about that is she in real or its just fake. and i also thinks about the how is she ,is she pretty ?,lovable ?and the most important thing could i trust on girl? because in that type of relationship never met with your partner before. but i would to say that this time i was very person. because she is one who is made for me only. its like dream come true. so start believing in online relationship,because you don't who is wait for you on the other side.and what God plans for your life.
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
hmmm I should say congratulation for your nice relationship, that's called fate
1 person likes this
• India
18 Jan 12
Yes i believe in online relationship . Now people are searching their love via online as they share their feelings online and whom like those they become closer .
1 person likes this
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
some people also didn't believe in online relationship since they found their partner fake their identity or things kind of that
1 person likes this
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Yes. I do now believe in online relationship. I was once a cynical when it comes to looking for a partner on the world wide web. Last year my points of view had changed when I met a guy on a chat site. deep in my heart I do believe that he is a nice and an intelligent guy. As we chatted, I learned a lot from him. That chat mate of mine is a writer, He came into my life at the point wherein I've been questioning myself I would really like to be a writer.
1 person likes this
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
feel so nice to hear that, just follow your intuition
1 person likes this
@ChoukseyMK (1052)
• India
18 Jan 12
it is difficult to answer. online relationship may be two type: 1. where you may relation for timepass, fun etc. such relations may be converted in online friendship. donot think beyond this. 2. if you cross your limit and friendship converted into love. then situation may be complicated. result- i do not know.
1 person likes this
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
hahaha, however everyone have their own thought, thanks for comment
1 person likes this
@caryle (34)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
In business, entrepreneurs leverage the internet to increase their potential market. They even use it to find suppliers and clients. And sometimes they do transactions online. The same with relationships, people are also using the technology to find someone whether for friendship or for romantic love. The world is so huge. Sometimes, there are nobody in our circle of friends that we like. So some people use the internet to possibly find someone that could be our potential lover or romantic partner. To confirm that your feelings are true, seeing someone in person is a must. Besides if two people are really serious with their intentions, then they should progress with their communication from cyber world to real life. Unfortunately, many people have bad intention, so sometimes relationships do not work out.
1 person likes this
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
I totally agree with you, hope with this discussion, people will find their purpose to online relationship
1 person likes this
@Craydz (65)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
I don't think so. How can such love can be founded in an internet basis. I believe love itself flourish in personal acquaintances of both party. And I doubt the basic foundation of love which is trust and honesty can't be establish as well.
1 person likes this
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
that's so reasonable, when we meet people online, we don't know how is they real characteristic
1 person likes this
@palonghorn (5485)
• United States
18 Jan 12
If it is solely based on being online with the other person, then no, you don't really know someone until you are around them in person. If you are 'searching' for your soulmate online, odds are it's not going to happen. You are basing it on 'font' and what they type, not words or facial expressions. I have met a lot of people online, and have had the chance to meet them in person. Both male and female friends, and I have made some good friends that way. I guess it would all depend on how long the 'relationship' has been going on online, and if there are plans to meet face to face. And it really all comes down to honesty and truth, which is a roll of the dice if you have never met in person, as to if they are being totally honest with you.
1 person likes this
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
in this case, I agree with you
1 person likes this
@magic700 (100)
• Canada
18 Jan 12
I believe that it's more than possible for an online relationship to work out quite well, provided both or all participating parties are fully honest with each other, don't put on any acts, and at least occasionally use something like skype where you can actually see what the other looks like and have verbal communication since some people act extremely different when it's text based communication.
1 person likes this
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
sometimes we don't know the real character's of our partner when we didn't see his real life, anyway thanks for your comment
1 person likes this
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
online relationship is depend on both person who meet online. Because we don't know the real purpose of other and those purpose is not love. If you found someone who is real you are very lucky in such case... There might be real and there might not real because you know not all people we meet online is real...
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
any possibility that they are both?
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
Yup!Chances is not 100 percent real in such a relationship. Because you know people online is sometimes fictitious and we don't know if they are really true in what they say about. Better to know first the person just getting all the information about him/her to see whether the person is real but do not believe easily until reaching the point of marriage...
• Indonesia
21 Jan 12
I keep your advise, anyway thanks at all
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
19 Jan 12
Well, just like in traditional relationships, online relationsips have pros and cons. I too, believe that you can get to know a person quite well without ever having seen them in person. It would require that the participants be just as open and honest with each other as they would be if they were sitting in front of the other person. Online, you can choose to exaggerate, or down play your characteristics and some aspects of yourself, but eventually, your true self will come out. If you continue the online relationship long enough, you will eventually let little things out and expose any lies you may have told. I think online relationships work for people because they don't have to face the other person and fear rejection. It would stand to reason that not having to face another person would make it easier to talk honestly about yourself and what you believe and stuff like that. You could be more open. There would be less pressure to impress the other person. I have online friends who know more about me than people who see me every day. As we all know, online relationships often turn out badly. So do traditional relationships. In both types of relationship there is a risk of the other person not being quite what he/she had lead you to believe they were. There are lots of cases of women being married to men that rape and murder and the wife had no clue of the husband's criminal behavior. My point is, off line or online, we never know people as well as we think we do.
• Indonesia
21 Jan 12
I agree that online or offline relationshiphave their own risk, because we don't know people bad or good only for short relationship. Knowing people well before decide to make serious relationship is the key to have good relationship. thanks for sharing
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
22 Jan 12
Thank you reinykwan. I think that "meeting" online would have its advantages. Think about it, you could be totally honest and see if the other person likes you for you before you have to meet them and be rejected face to face. It is easier to talk to someone openly if you don't have to face them. I would not choose to conduct my search for a potential mate online, but I do not think that it is a bad thing to do. As I have said, even in traditional, face-to-face relationships people can decieve you if they are of a mind to. I agree, it doesn't matter how you met, its knowing each other and establishing a trust between you that matters.
@jeetking (190)
18 Jan 12
No I do not believe in online relationship because all the details provided by an individual are vague and not true.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
19 Jan 12
Not everyone online lies to perspective mates about themselves. People can lie about who and what they are while they are looking you in the eye.
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
when I can't tell people in my real world, then I find people in cyber space to express what I feel..
@Mashnn (4503)
19 Jan 12
No. I will never date someone that I find online. May be just be friends but not a soul mate. I just have problem trusting online dating due to many problems that I have heard.
• Indonesia
21 Jan 12
the same here, hehehe
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
I have heard about this online relationship thingy...and most of the time I heard some bad comments and experiences about this one. And I do think it is about trust that would really turn the relationship down. But, I also heard some couples that gotten stronger because they love and trust each other...and the moment they see each other, they just couldn't hide the sparks between their love and would end up marrying with each other. Long distance relationship is really hard. And the couples must build a tight trust for them to survive their relationship. I do think that's really the most important thing. Have a nice day!
• Indonesia
21 Jan 12
I think so, the important point to have this kind of relationship is trust each other
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
19 Jan 12
Rarely I would believe in online relationship. Just like you describe it, online relationship can be a scam, and be a game. They won't be so fantastic like you imagine from the movie. They can't be real sometimes, and they might be a heart broken one. So, do not rely on it too much, or give it too much expectation.
• Indonesia
21 Jan 12
yeah in this case I have noticed about the risk, thanks for comment
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
18 Jan 12
That's where I draw the line. If I can't find out in person what that person's true personality is and what his life really is I'd never go into it! Sorry. Just and opinion.
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
however, thank for your opinion
@nfrenciz (99)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Hi there... Well, it would be depends,if they will not meet up in person? only online..then i would say that, there will never be a strong and good relationship both parties. For you can know one's person truly by his/her actions. I never heard any of my friends that have some relationship through only just online and never meet up. They meet their partners online but they both met up in person in a long run.
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
I see, in the end, meeting in real world is the important point in the long-life relationship right?
@rolento (227)
• Spain
18 Jan 12
of course i belive!! is more, i met my wife in a chat 6 years ago, and 2 and a half we got married, but of course, you must take some precautions if you don't want to get too much disapointments, but this also can happen with someone that you met in a bar, for example. the only thing that you must have very clear is that if the people you met lives too far from you, and the relationship keeps going on, it will be one day that one of the 2 should have to emigrate to the place of the other, and leaving all your life back can be a very hard decision, ( in my case it wasn't, but because i didn't have anything to lose and i had a lot to win XDD)
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
nice experience friend, thanks for sharing
@indi15 (883)
• India
18 Jan 12
No i do not believe in online relationships. To understand each other one has to be with the person, spend time together, share things in person not via laptop or computer.
• Indonesia
19 Jan 12
if you think to find your soulmate I agree with you, but to have a freindship, I think it's possible in online relationship