How do you unwind before going to bed?

@deedee328 (1127)
United States
January 18, 2012 10:59pm CST
I was just sitting here thinking that it is getting kind of late here and I should start getting ready for bed. Then I thought that I am not really all that sleepy. That led me to think about my bed time ritual. As a chronic insomniac, I have a little routine I go through almost every night to help me relax and clear my mind before I attempt to lay down to sleep. I often run a very hot bubble bath and grab a book by one of my favorite authors to read while I soak away the days events. The problem is that I generally get to engrossed in the book, the bubbles go flat, my water gets cold before I am realize I have been in the tub for so long. So, now I am curious about what my fellow mylotters do to help them relax before going to bed. You could be helping to ensure better health and well being for me with your suggestions, so please, fire away.
14 responses
@SIMPLYD (78091)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
It is already a habit of ours (my husband and i) to watch TV shows before we finally go to sleep. We would watch it from our bed while lying down. Along with it, we would share stories every now and then and jokes. We enjoy watching TV shows that makes us laugh and happy. Thus, we go to sleep when we are already too sleepy to watch.
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@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
19 Jan 12
Thank you for replying. Watching television for me is just like reading my book. I get lost in the movie and time just whizzes by. Before I know it, it is almost too late to worry about trying to get any sleep before I have to get up again.
@SIMPLYD (78091)
• Philippines
22 Feb 12
Yes, that's true. Some movies can really not make you sleep, but can awaken you instead, because of the suspense it gives you , that you refrain to be sleepy. My husband and i usually watch sitcoms or gag shows so it could make us laugh and be happy before going to sleep.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
23 Feb 12
@simplyd I am stuck with watching shows that I find boring if the aim is to put me to sleep. I watched a two hour documentary on Bill Clinton last night before I could go to sleep. Sometimes, my brain just doesn't shut off at all.
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
What works for me is usually listening to some slow music like acoustic love songs from the 80's and 90's. I know some people dose off from listening to other kinds of music but yeah listening to music is a good way to relax and clear your mind from the stress of the day. Try a series of tracks from one artist because they usually are on one theme(like for me is David Pomeranz).I hope this helps you in any way. Not getting enough sleep is one other form of stress that will take out your energy but at least you can do something about it.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
19 Jan 12
Thanks for the advice. I can not listen to anything other than classical music if I am going to try to go to sleep. If it is music that I enjoy listening to, then I can not control the urge to sing along with it, even if it is only inside my head. Believe me, I know just how serious sleep deprivation can be!!! I have a thyroid condition which is the main cause of my chronic insomnia. I do have prescription sleep aids, but I really don't like to take them unless I just absolutely have to. It makes me paranoid. I am afraid that I will not be able to hear the phone ring or drive should one of my loved ones need me in the middle of the night.
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
Yes listening to and singing along even in your mind is relaxing. It keeps you to not think about anything else other than the melody and lyrics.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
23 Feb 12
I think maybe soothing music and a warm bubble bath perhaps?
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
I meditate and say a little prayer before I sleep. Moreover, logging on to Facebook and Yahoo Messenger to chat with my friend for a minutes also help a lot. I would also do some pamper myself with some beauty rituals like applying creams and lotion. These things really take away my stress.
• Jamaica
20 Jan 12
nothing beats watching a good movie for me, the art of relaxation is just deep meditation putting the mind at rest.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
20 Jan 12
Thank you for responding. Unfortunately, the problem I have is being able to shut my mind off so that it can be put to rest. I either have to take a sleep aid or wait until this old bag of bones simply won't go anymore.
@emjay86 (640)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
It's a great thing you have the luxury of a hot bubble bath. I'm also an insomniac at times. I just walk around. Tire myself out somehow then when sleepiness gets to me.. I hit the sack :)
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
21 Jan 12
I do so love a long hot bubble bath! Insomnia is a horrible thing. I take walks around the yard sometimes, but I am still thinking about things that I need to do or the things that happened during the day. What causes your insomnia? I have had a thyroid condition for years. For about 12 years it was overactive, and I was always on the move. I have had treatment, and now the thyroid in underactive. I have slowed down, but sleep still eludes me.
@bhekoh (10)
20 Jan 12
I myself,my job is always stressful and by the time i get home from very long day at work what i do is chill and relax for a while,my way of relaxing is to surf the net online.after that i take a warm shower.Love to have a bubble bath but i am getting lazy preparing for bubble bath,after my shower have a warm glass of milk and red some book.or sometimes i listen to a relaxing music.That's my way of unwinding myself.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
20 Jan 12
Thank you bhekoh. I understand stressful jobs. I come home and read through the mail while kicked back in my recliner, but somehow, I can't seem to turn off my brain when its time to go to sleep. I am always thinking about what I didn't get done today and what will have to be done tomorrow. I lay down and ideas and lists start to run through my head. I have no problem preparing the bubble bath. I have a problem getting my rear end out of the tub! I have decided that I should no longer take a boook in with me. Maybe, I should just read through a magazine so I won't have to fight my compulsion to read "just one more chapter" before I get out of the tub. Yep, I am thinking magazine and soothing music only while soaking in my bubbles.
@Micmac (7668)
19 Jan 12
Reading, watching TV, meditation, drinking a cup of herbal tea help me to relax and unwind before going to bed. Prayer also clears my mind before sleeping.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
20 Jan 12
I will definitely be trying the herbal tea. I end every day with a prayer to thank God for all he has done for me. I am very blessed. I pray for Him to watch over me and my family and keep us safe as we sleep, and now I shall ask him for peace to sleep.
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Well, I can easily fall asleep, so the best thing to do for me to be relaxed is that I watched TV then not noticing that I am already asleep. Sometimes I read books, but before I get to the next page I fell asleep already..
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
20 Jan 12
emjay, I am so jealous! Like you, my husband falls asleep very easily and very early every evening. Thank you for weighing in here.
@CarlHalling (3629)
• United Kingdom
19 Jan 12
Unwinding? - He looks (or looked; this was me ca. 2002?) as if he is (was), ain't that so...
I unwind before bed firstly by having a late night snack...I know I shouldn't, but I hate going to bed hungry. After that, I'll watch part of a movie, provided to me as part of my DVD rental package, which is a very generous one, and there are some excellent movies to choose from. Then once I'm in bed, I'll read from a book; failing that, a newspaper, but I far prefer reading from books than papers. And not just any book...a new one purchased either from my local record store, or online through Amazon. I especially like biographies; the longer and more detailed the better. Finally I'll settle down to sleep...I relax by running imaginary stories through my mind. It doesn't take me long to get to sleep; but sadly I'll often wake up unrefreshed. Still...my nightly ritual is a source of great pleasure and peace to me; especially if both the movie and book are to my liking.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
19 Jan 12
Thank you, Carl. I can not watch just part of a movie. I have to be able to sit through from the beginning until the end of the running of the credits. I love to read and watch movies. Unfortunately, I am too compulsive to quit doing either before I have reached the ending.
19 Jan 12
hi:) before I go to sleep I will drink warm milk and have a quick warm shower. then check my email and do some mylotting or visit my facebook for a couple of minutes. or sometimes when I'm lazy to surf the net and socialize online, I read some books or play some soothing music.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
19 Jan 12
I haven't tried warm milk since I was a kid. May be time to give it another whirl, huh. Thank you for responding.
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
19 Jan 12
First of all, the best thing that I really do before going to bed to unwind is taking a nice deep breath. There are just going to be a lot of times where the events of the day are going to get to me. I don't want to really focus on them as I am getting ready to rather go to bed, so I have to take a moment to relax on those thoughts and push them right to the back of my mind. Of course after a trip to the bathroom, a nice good book is something that is going to help me unwind as I ease off to sleep during the evening. There are just a lot of times where reading both enriches and relaxes my mind as I am going to ease off in bed. There are times where about thirty minutes to forty five minutes of reading and then I am off to bed. I wouldn't advise watching television before bed, as I once did that and I get too riled up.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
19 Jan 12
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Maybe, I shoudl not take the book to a bubble bathe and should strictly read while laying in my bed. I will have to try that! I think the problem for me watching television, is I get too engrossed in it. I also think for me the advice the experts give about computers and television keeping you stimulated are right on the money. I need things to make me tired and able to fall asleep. Things with lights and sounds seem to overstimulate my brain.
@ibytes (81)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
i always surf the net for atlease i feel sleepy. Im the kind of person that is always day dreaming for the best. I can sleep after i day dreamed a good house. Lots money and many things. I cant sleep when im thinking negatively. It really sucks the hell out of me.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
19 Jan 12
I wish I could fall asleep that way. I have to be totally thought free before I can fall asleep. Thinking tends to keep me awake.
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Before bedtime, I make time for a nice warm quick sponge bath. I like going to bed clean so that my body becomes relax and free of dirt. I also comb my hair hundred times to massage my scalp. If my husband is around, I usually request for a back massage to loosen my nerves. In this way I get a nice cozy sleep.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
19 Jan 12
Thanks for the great ideas. I have a huge pet peave about going to bed clean myself. I love to hae my scalp massaged. I will have to see if I can convince the husband to brush my hair(as it always feels so much better when someone else does it for you.)
@junel17 (16)
19 Jan 12
i just think of all those wonderful thing happened to me. Then further more i always set up a plan for tommorow. I always do that every night.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
19 Jan 12
Thank you for responding. I do ponder the days events and think about what needs to be done for the next day, as well, but the thinking keeps me awake. I tend to have a really hard time shutting my brain off.