How do i know my ex still want me

Philippines
January 29, 2012 6:07am CST
My ex and i was able to talk again after 2 years but we only talk through chat, i wanted to meet him so we can talk about things but he said his busy but he also want to see me. if asked if theres a new girl but he said theres none and his just busy with work right now. is he just making excuses or his telling the truth. i want to know if his still interested in me anyway but how i know.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
29 Jan 12
very hard to say. Impossible really. My first thought was that he probably was not because he is "busy now until the end of the month". But then I saw where you said this is normal for him. I don't know. Don't get your hopes up but rather just take it real slow and see where it goes. The two of you are at least talking again so that's a good sign.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
29 Jan 12
It does sound as if there is some hope there. Just take it slow. Remember that you already broke up once for a reason. Hopefully, the issues that caused the first breakup have been resolved and maybe the two of you can work things out this time around. It does happen so I wish you both the best!
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
yes were talking again and i thought we will never talk again and was happy we did. his not good in words about love as what he said though he normally show it in action though we are only chatting so i didnt know if he still love me coz i didnt see his action yet. when i told him i want to hug him tight he said i will if we meet again. is it sounds like his interested too?
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
i hope so and i hope this time it will be more sweeter and hope we will be more matured enough to face it any problem in the future if ever we will be back again though i am looking forward for it but not expecting much coz i dont want to be dissapointed at the end.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
29 Jan 12
Well there probably could be a little something there. It's a good sign that he is willing to talk with you and that he wants to see you. Once you guys get together you could talk with him about it in person. Or you could just ask him outright when you chat. Just let him know how you feel and that you were wondering if he has any interest you. I hope that things go well. I think that it is awesome when old couples are able to get back together when the relationship is good.
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• Philippines
29 Jan 12
thank you though he said that the feeling is mutual and that his busy until middle of the month but his not also sure if there will be new project. i know how he used to be busy before as his very devoted to his his work to the point that he neglected me. his not a kind who rather show love in action as what he said so maybe ill just wait that day to come. i still love him inspite of what happened to us before and im still looking forward to be together again.
• United States
11 Apr 12
How are things going for the two of you know. It is very hard for us all to find a balance. A balance between work and our family. A balance between work and or a person's partner. I hope that he in time will be able to find that balance. It is a good thing that he likes his work and enjoys working hard. But if he's in a relationship it's important that he makes time for his partner and hopefully that person will be you if you are wanting to be with him. If he doesn't I hope that you will be able to find someone who gives you the time that you deserve. After all we don't want to look back on our life and see that all we did was spend time at work and that we don't have good relations with those who should be the closest to us.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
i think you should really ask him if you are going to meet or not and what his plans are. maybe he wants you back but then he is just not into commitment yet, at least for the time being... and if you keep on pushing him... it might actually drive him away further even before you both start to patch things up... i wish you goodluck.
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• Philippines
29 Jan 12
he said his not sure when but he also want to see me, i guess your right, i shouldnt be too pushy to tell him when we can meet. i just let him ask me when on his own available time.
@youless (112123)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Jan 12
I responded to your discussion yesterday and therefore I know your story. Frankly, I will feel very annoyed if my man says to me that he is very busy and therefore he has no time for me. I must say I really hate this excuse. I heard a very famous quotation: Even Obama has his own family. Namely as an American President, Obama also has time for his family. So some men shall feel ashamed since they are too busy to be with his family. I know you still love him although he left you in the past and this is a deep hurt. But the fact is you love him. I think you shall ask him directly whether he still loves you and whether both of you can still be together again. I love China
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@kaylachan (58181)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
30 Jan 12
You have the right to be suspicious. I can't say for certain what to make of what he's saying exactly. I don't know him. However, you might to be a better judge based on how well you know your ex. You would know if he was lying if the previous relationship lasted long enough for you to get to know him really well. If not, you could be letting yourself get drawn in by him. More or less in that instance, I'd say its no better then flipping a coin. I would suggest talking to him some more and see if you can actually can arrange a face-to-face. If it seems to take forever for your schedules to actually mesh to where you both can take time to see one another again, then chances are he's still lying to you. If not, then yo're pretty safe to assume he really has been keeping busy, and does want a second shot at a relationship.
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• Kenya
29 Jan 12
2 years is a long time apart and many changes must have taken place. You have both matured and you now know what you want. If getting back is what you want then go ahead and ask him if he still has feelings for you.
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
actually i already told him that i forgiven him and that i still have feelings for him, he seems to be interested though he said his too busy to see me though im thinking that no matter how busy the person is if he really want to see me then i guess he will do something even just a little time. i dont know if guys are really like that though i know his been devoted to his work ever since and i know he love his work so i guess i just need to understand him and wait and lts see what happened next.
• United States
30 Jan 12
This is how you know if the man still loves you. You do not call him; you wait for him to call you. If he never calls you then you have your answer. And it's time to move on and look for a new person who really does love you.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
29 Jan 12
It's simple: if you want to know how or what you have to ask him. You did and he answered you. Seems to me you are not satisfied with the answer. My advice: if you don't want to hear the answer don't ask the question. Accept that ex = exit and ask yourself why you became exes and why you did not go on with your life after 2 years. It's possible your ex does like to see you once (which is a kind of interest in you too) but it's clear you are not number 1 for him at this moment. He is not willing to drop everything for you (his work) to meet you.
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@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
I think you will know if your ex still wants you if you you feel that he is still interested in you activities and if he ask again about you love life and if you feel that he is making effort just to be close to you again. If he already have new one in his life and he broke it up when both of you got communication again. I think that is a real implicit that he still want you.
@kaeirole (668)
• Philippines
30 Jan 12
frankly speaking, his actions means he's not interested with you..he may be chatting with you, but not interested to see you..try to see how he chats with you..if he responds immediately with your messages, or if only replies with your long message with just brief one or two or just couple of words..and why would you want to know if he's still interested with you? are you still interested in him?
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@ozi_1995 (19)
• Turkey
29 Jan 12
I haven't read any of your post.I suggest you only one thing.Forget him/her if you broke up.Find someone else.There is at least 4 billion people,why would you stick to only one ?